Confused

[Guest Gupt.]

Vjkk vjkf

Ok sangat je here goes..

Basically dhass stopped talking to a relative while back due to them having raised their voice,sworn & said wrong things to dhass however because dhass didn't want to hold grudges at the time dhass said sorry because dhass thought dhas would be the better peson as dhass is the amrithari and the person in question isn't so tried to be humble & non egoistic by saying sorry even though dhass wasn't in the wrong..

But today someone tried to make us talk so dhass accepted that but then shades asked for them to say sorry as they were in the wrong..but got told dhass had ego..can someone explain to dhass wha to do????dhass is confused because surely the 1 who didn't admit there mistake and still thinks what they did was ok and acceptable has ego and not dhass?

Dhass is really hurting because of this because it's made dhass feel so small inside..

ThankQ for reading pls reply

Guru kirpa

Vjkk

Vjkf

[Bundha]

What Dhass must understand is that not all people are as humble and accommodating as Dhass is.

Dhass will find that in everyday life people lie, cheat and be nasty all the time, this is the way of life.

Dhass did the right thing, became nimarta, became humble and accepted responsibility even when it was the others fault, remember Guru Ji

is watching and knows everything.

If the other person is saying that dhass is egotistcal that does not mean that dhass is egotistical, it just means the other person is playing

games and is being nasty.

Keep your faith in Guru Ji, for Guru Ji knows Dhass is pure of heart, and don't be too dispondent.

[AmarjitKaur]

Simple. avoid that person.

He/She talks to you for some reason, answer. But don't start conversations or meetings.

Live in the world, where that person is not there for you (invisible to you).

Sometimes its just best to go blind to some people for your own peace of mind.

Move your focus to other things, issues, people, matters in your life than this person.

Life doesn't end or revolve around one person only.

There is so so so much in life and in world going on.

[Guest Gupt]

Guru roop saadh sangat je thank you for your replies..

Even though due to the close relation dhass can't completely blank the individual dhass will certainly follow the advice given

Guru kirpa jeeo

Vjkk vjkf

[SunSingh]

people sometimes think that humility means to always make yourself smaller. i don't think that is always the case. it comes from the heart and is intuitive what to do, rather than intellectual. sometimes you need to stand up for yourself, other times you need to walk away. it's a judgment call. there's nothing wrong with protecting yourself.

[MokhamSingh]

ਹਮ ਨਹੀ ਚੰਗੇ ਬੁਰਾ ਨਹੀ ਕੋਇ ॥

हम नही चंगे बुरा नही कोइ ॥

Ham nahī cẖange burā nahī ko▫e.

I am not good; no one is bad.

ਪ੍ਰਣਵਤਿ ਨਾਨਕੁ ਤਾਰੇ ਸੋਇ ॥੪॥੧॥੨॥

प्रणवति नानकु तारे सोइ ॥४॥१॥२॥

Paraṇvaṯ Nānak ṯāre so▫e. ||4||1||2||

Prays Nanak, He alone saves us! ||4||1||2||

If we adopt Guru Nanak Dev Ji Maharajh's philosophy in life , we can engage with the world (tahtta Bahgga) and still maintain our inner peace.

[Hau Apraadhi]

Simple. avoid that person.

He/She talks to you for some reason, answer. But don't start conversations or meetings.

Live in the world, where that person is not there for you (invisible to you).

Sometimes its just best to go blind to some people for your own peace of mind.

Move your focus to other things, issues, people, matters in your life than this person.

Life doesn't end or revolve around one person only.

There is so so so much in life and in world going on.

Exactly ^^^

[ssinghuk]

people sometimes think that humility means to always make yourself smaller. i don't think that is always the case. it comes from the heart and is intuitive what to do, rather than intellectual. sometimes you need to stand up for yourself, other times you need to walk away. it's a judgment call. there's nothing wrong with protecting yourself.

Thats the hardest bit!