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Marriages Of Sahib Shri Hargobind Sahib Ji

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The Sixth Guru Nanak,Guru Hargobind Sahuib Ji is said to have three wives according to history.These were Mata Damodhri Ji, Mata Nanaki Ji, Mata Mahadevi Ji.The Sikh Gurus who preceded him had only one wife.Some historians have suggested Guru Arjan Dev Ji had two wives but if we look closely we find that Guru Arjan Dev’s wife was known by two names.

Guru Hargobind Sahib,the destroyer of the wicked,is confirmed to have had 3 wives.Guru Hargobind Sahib’s first marriage was to Mata Damodhri Ji .

Bhai Kahn Singh Nabha in his works “Gur Shabad RACHTNAKR MAHAN KOSH writes that Mata Damodhri Ji was born at village Dulla which is near Sultanpur Lodhi to Father Narayan Das Ji.Her year of birth is unknown.This village had growing numbers of ardent Sikh Devotees since the time of Guru Nanak Dev Ji.When Guru Nanak Dev Ji visited Rai Boeh Di Talwandi and Sultanpur Lodhi on his sisters request, many people of Sultanpur Lodhi’s residents became ardent devotees of Guru Nanak Dev Ji.Half of the inhabitants of Village Dulla became ardent devotees of Guru Nanak Dev Ji.Bhai Narayan Das Ji’s family and ancestors were inspired by the teachings of Guru Nanak Dev Ji.When Guru Amardas Ji founded the town of Goindwal, more residents of Doaba came into the fold of Sikhism.The residents of Dulla visited Shri Goindwal Sahib Ji with love and devotion and gained self-contentment.Bhai Narayan Das payed homafe to the divine form of Guru Nanak Dev Ji at Goindwal and Shri Amritsar Sahib Ji.

Several historical accounts suggest that a daughter was born unto Bhai Narayan Das Ji and she was renamed Damodhri Ji.

The mother of Damodhri Ji rose daily in the ambrosial hours of dawn and recited Shri Japji Sahib and only then carried out her household duties.This is an example to us all.Further, she encouraged other children to rise at Amrit Vela, take a cleansing bath and then to remember and meditate upon God and then to eat their breakfast.

Damodhri Ji’s religious character was influenced by her mother’s love and devotion for God.As soon as Damodhri Ji learnt to speak, she memorized Moolmantar and then as her years passed her reflection on Gurbani grew stronger and stronger.When her family planned to visit Guru Ji,Damodhri Ji grew very eager to take a glimpse of the Guru.She gained self-containment from visiting the Amrit Sarovar and Golden Temple.

In 1604, the family of Damodhri accompanied the sangat on a pilgrimage to Shri Amritsar. As the family took a dip in the holy Amrit sarovar of Shri Amritsar, opposite the Dukh Bhanjani Sahib and as they made their way towards Lachi Ber, she had the blessed darshan of Shri Guru Arjan Dev Ji.At that time Guru Arjan Dev Ji’s son Hargobind Sahib Ji was accompanying his father-Guru. Hargobind Sahib was only 9 yrs old. The mother of Damodhri Ji told her husband, Bhai Narayan Das Ji that Guru Hargobind Sahib Ji’s age was nearly as that of their daughters and hence it would bevery nice if Hargobind Sahib Ji accepted their daughter.How Great is Guru Ji, we are mere mortal souls, Bhai Narayan Das Ji was very happy at his wife’s suggestion but he left the suggestiojn in the will of God.

After the conclusion of the Diwan, the parents of Damodhri told their fellow companions of their wish.

An elderly woman was very pleased with their suggestion as it would mean greater ties between village Dulla and Guru Ji.

The elderly woman asked Bhai Narayan Das Ji to approach the Mother of Guru Hargobind Sahib Ji, Mata Ganga Ji with her proposal of marriage.The mother of Damodhri Ji and the elderly woman approached Mata Ganga Ji and told her respectfully of their proposal.Mata Ganga Ji had seen Damodhri Ji many timed. Mata Ganga Ji after discussion with her husband Guru, Guru Arjan Dev Ji accepted Bhai Narayan Das Ji’s proposal.

In the year 1601, Damodhri Ji was married to Guru Hargobind Sahib Ji.

Bhai Narayan Das Ji requested Guru Ji that a memorable wedding be planned for in their village Dulla.Guru Maharaj said that I am not in favour of impressing the public, the marriage should be a simple affair..Guru Ramdas Ji had recited the Four Lavans

be recited during the marriage ceremony (Anand Karaj). This was the first marriage in accordance with the way of Guru Nanak Dev Ji.

Guru Hargobind Sahib Ji’s marriage party went to Tara Taran Sahib after leaving Shri AmGurbani keertan was sung with Dhols and chenas.

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