--if Elder Does Wrong--

[Guest --gupt--]

Guru fateh!

Some one had said me we should not give advice to elders its not good.But what if they do wrong?

So how we can eplain them or how we can talk with them?

[Guest anon]

I've heard that too, from an elder (what a coincidence).

Its not wrong to give them advice, its only their own ego's that don't want to hear it.

[AmarjitKaur]

I've heard that too, from an elder (what a coincidence).

Its not wrong to give them advice, its only their own ego's that don't want to hear it.

Its like this. We teach our kids not to lie. but then someday we lie in front of them, and then kid notices it and says, "mommy u are lying, but u said never to lie". So mommy shouts "chup kar oye, vadiyaa age nahi bolida" but now mommy is in another trouble. Mommy ik din apne khud de mommy daddy nu answer back kar dindi hai, and this kid notices again, "But mommy you said vadiyan age nahi bolida" and now mommy is sharmsar. And she tries to change the subject.

Did I answer you, may be may be not.

But the way I see is that nobody is perfect. We jump to correct our yougesters but not act on many things ourselves. And we end up in this situation.

The answer would be develop some tolerating and listening skills. At the end of the day, the life is about developing ourselves better. We are not here to correct the world, but develop ourlselves. Here and there, if we could help others see things better, that's nice. But no need to be rude about it.

[Papi]

Elder or younger, we should be respectful to others. On second thought, I shouldn't say that, my escapades on SS are proof that I don't follow my own advice :rolleyes:

[Guest --gupt--]

I've heard that too, from an elder (what a coincidence).

Its not wrong to give them advice, its only their own ego's that don't want to hear it.

Its like this. We teach our kids not to lie. but then someday we lie in front of them, and then kid notices it and says, "mommy u are lying, but u said never to lie". So mommy shouts "chup kar oye, vadiyaa age nahi bolida" but now mommy is in another trouble. Mommy ik din apne khud de mommy daddy nu answer back kar dindi hai, and this kid notices again, "But mommy you said vadiyan age nahi bolida" and now mommy is sharmsar. And she tries to change the subject.

Did I answer you, may be may be not.

But the way I see is that nobody is perfect. We jump to correct our yougesters but not act on many things ourselves. And we end up in this situation.

The answer would be develop some tolerating and listening skills. At the end of the day, the life is about developing ourselves better. We are not here to correct the world, but develop ourlselves. Here and there, if we could help others see things better, that's nice. But no need to be rude about it.

Guru fateh!

But we should try to correct others also we should not see bad & shut our mouth.Guru nanak dev ji taha sari jindagi dusaro nu sudharan vaste laga diti.

Bul chuk mafa!