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Bebe Nanaki Ji


Bebe Nanaki ji was elder sister of Guru Nanak and the daughter of Kalian Chand (Baba Kalu) and Mata Tripta, was born in 1464 in her mother's home at village of Chahal, now in Lahore district of Pakistan Punjab. The Guru's love for his sister is referred to in most touching terms in some of the Sakhis. A sister's love for her brother is a perennial theme of Punjabi folklore. There are many stories of Nanaki's deep and devoted affection for her brother, Nanak. Five years older then Guru Nanak, she was the first to recognize his spiritual eminence and to become his devotee. She protected Nanak from their father's wrath, when repeatedly he disappointed and angered him.

She was with him throughout the early years of his childhood. When Guru Nanak Dev was only Six years old in 1475, Nanaki was married to Jai Ram, a revenue official of very good reputation, at Sultanpur, which is in the present native state of Kapurthala, and was then the capital of the Jalandhar Doab. Nanak continued to live at home. He rebelled against any norms that were imposed without reason. He loved to be in the company of saints who were The wise men of the day, and gave money away to the poor and the hungry. His father despaired of never being able to make him behave and take on a respectable position in the village. And so it was that his father gave up, and so, at the age of fifteen, Nanak was sent to live with his sister, and to work for her husband. It was Jai Ram who arranged the wedding of Nanak to Sulakhani, daughter of Moolchand Chand Khatri and Mata Chando of the village Pakhoke, District Gurdaspur. Herself Childless, Bebe Nanaki adored her brother, Nanak, and felt herself blessed when he came to join the Nawab's service and put up with her at Sultanpur.

She arranged Guru Nanak's marriage and she loved his sons, Sri Chand and Lakhmi das, as her own. Guru Nanak reciprocated her affection and after he had quit the Nawab's service to go out to preach his message, he did not fail to visit Sultanpur and meet his sister between whiles. Once as he visited her in 1518, Bebe Nanaki seeing her end near, detained him a short while. As she had wished, she departed this likfe in the presence of her brother- Guru Nanak Dev ji. Three days later, her husband, Jai Ram, also expired. Guru Nanak himself performed their obsequies. There is no doubt that perhaps first Gur Sikh was none other than Bebe Nanaki and second Gursikh was Mata Sullakhni ji, Guru Nanak Dev's Wife.

Excerpts taken from these books.

Encyclopedia of Sikhism edited by Harbans Singh.

Mahima Prakash written by Sarup Das Bhalla, Patiala 1970.

In the Punjabi language, out of respect, elder sister is called Bebe. Bebe Nanki was the elder sister of Guru Nanak. She has a special place in the Sikh history. She played an important role in the spread of Sikhism. She was the first disciple of Guru Nanak and so she is considered one of the prominent women in the Sikh history. She was born in 1464, five years before Guru Nanak to Mata Tripta and Mehta Kalu who lived at Talwandi, now called Nankana Sahib in Pakistan. She was born at the house of her maternal grandfather, Ram Ji,of village Chahal, district Lahore. Her maternal grandfather and grandmother loved her a lot and named her Nankian, which means house of maternal grandparents. By and by the word Nankian was changed into Nanki. Her uncle, Lalu Ram, was issueless. He loved her from the core of his heart and played with her. She also loved him very much. She was brought up in a lovely atmosphere in the house of her father who was a well to do revenue officer in the village. Her sharp features, round mouth, and cheerful face attracted everybody. Her mother taught her cooking and other household chores. She helped her mother in her daily household responsibilities. In fact, her mother’s training made Nanki adept in the household. She had a sweet tongue and was very popular with everybody she came in contact with. She was only five years old when her brother, Nanak, was born in 1469.

He was named after her and people said Nanak of Nanki. She was overjoyed to have a baby companion and started babysitting in the absence of her mother. As Nanak grew, she played with him, took him shopping and looked after his comforts. Right from his childhood, Nanak’s keen mind would not accept all groundless rituals and superstitions. Bebe Nanki was the first who recognized that Nanak was not an ordinary child, but a man of God. She was the first follower of Guru Nanak She stood between Nanak and her parents when they got mad with him and told them to recognize the true worth of Nanak. For her, Nanak was not only her brother (Veer) but also her Guru (Peer). When Nanak went to the river to take bath and did not return for two days, people thought he was drowned in the river, but she said that Nanak had taken birth to save the people and ferry them across this world, he cannot be drowned at all. She was married at the age of eleven in 1475 to Bhai Jai Ram, a revenue officer at Sultanpur under Nawab Dault Khan Lodhi. Early marriage was the custom those days. Five years after her marriage, when she started living with her husband, Nanak felt her separation so much. He did not take interest in worldly affairs and remained busy in meditation. Bebe Nanki was also longing for the company of her brother, Nanak. She prevailed upon her husband to find some job for Nanak at Sultanpur so that she can enjoy his company also. Consequently, Bhai Jai Ram got Nanak employed as storekeeper under the Nawab of Sultanpur in 1485. Thus she played the role of an elder sister to settle in life her younger brother. Now Bebe Nanki and her husband planned to get Nanak married so that he may have his independent life.

They were successful for finding a suitable match, Mata Sulakhni, for Nanak and with the consent of all concerned, the marriage was celebrated in 1487. The marriage party left Sultanpur for Batala, Distt Gurdaspur and came back to Sultanpur. After marriage, Nanak started living separately at Sultanpur. He was provided a big house by his sister. It shows how Bebe Nanki willingly performed the part of an elder sister by helping her younger brother. This tradition of elder brother or sister helping the younger one is part of our culture even today. It also shows the sisterly love that Bebe Nanki cherished for her brother. Guru Nanak also has expressed this type of love in one of his hymns given on page 935 of Guru Granth Sahib wherein he says when brother (soul) departs, sister (body) burns in separation. Bebe Nanki had a very good and cordial relation with her sister in law, Mata Sulakhni, and helped her in bringing up her sons, Sri Chand and Lakhmi Chand. She rather adopted Sri Chand as she herself was issueless. She even looked after her necessities and let her not feel lonely. Once, Sulakhni’s mother interfered and complained to Bebe Nanki that her brother was not keeping his wife happy. Bebe Nanki admonished her and convinced her that there was nothing to grumble. Thus, Nanki was also a great help in the family life of Nanak. . When Nanak got his accounts checked to the satisfaction of everybody, he planned to start on his missionary work to spread his message in the world, she assured him that she will look after his family in his absence and did not discourage him. In fact, the idea of depicting devotion to God in musical notes was due to the inspiration given by Bebe Nanki. She knew the musical talent of her brother and persuaded Mardana to accompany her brother. She also bought him a Rebab (musical instrument with strings) for him. This tradition of recitation of hymns with the help of musical instruments is still prevalent in Sikhism and has played a big role in the preaching of Sikhism. We cannot forget her role in the spread of Sikhism.

She removed all obstacles which hindered Guru Nanak from preaching his mission. When Guru Nanak spent many years in preaching his religion all over the world, Bebe Nanki took care of his parents, wife, and her nephews during Guru Nanak’s absence. This is a good example of our culture how brothers and sisters prove main pillars of help to each other. These values are a part of our culture and credit goes to Bebe Nanki. At the end of his second tour when Guru Nanak returned to Sultanpur, Bebe Nanki was not feeling well and asked him to stay for a few days. She breathed her last in a few days and Guru Nanak performed her funeral rights. She lived at Sultanpur for about forty years. A tree planted by her provides shade to the people still. There is also a well, which she had constructed for the people. Really, everybody can be proud of a sister like Bebe Nanki. She was the first disciple of Guru Nanak and the first one to perceive the holiness in Guru Nanak’s person. There is no doubt that the first Gursikh was none other than Bebe Nanki. Like a wise daughter, she explained the Guru’s mission to her parents and sheltered Guru Nanak from their anger. She treated her brother like God and played an important role in the mission of Guru Nanak. We cannot forget her role in the spread of Sikhism. Contribution of Bebe Nanki in the spread of Sikhism is really unique and praiseworthy. Bebe Nanki’s status in Sikhism can be safely compared to that of Mother Merriam in Christianity and to that of Bibi Khudejai in Islam.

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Bibi Amro Ji


the above picture is simply used to add effect to the sakhi, bhul chuck maafi

Bibi Amro was the daughter of Guru Angad Dev ji, the Second Guru. She was born in

1532 in the village of Khadur Sahib, District Amritsar. She received her early

education and training directly from her parents Guru Angad Dev ji and Mata Khivi.

Guru Angad spent a lot of time with his children. He taught them the Gurmukhi script

that he had revised and simplified which is used in Guru Granth Sahib. When she

came of age she was married to Bhai Jasoo son of Manak Chand of Basarke village.

As was the custom of the day she was sent to live with her husband's family. Her

father encouraged her to continue doing kirtan and to preach Sikhism to all that she

came in contact with.

Amar Das who was her husband's uncle was quite taken by her

sweet melodious voice when he heard her singing shabads (holy hymns). It was she

who first introduced him to the teachings of Sikhism. As his interest grew it was she

who sent him to her father to learn more about these teachings. Amar Das was so

deeply influenced by Guru Angad Dev ji that he became a devout Sikhs, so much that

Guru Angad Dev ji announced him as his Successors. Thus Guru Amar Das ji, the

third Guru got to his destiny of becoming a Guru through Bibi Amro ji.

Years laters when Guru Amar Das ji gave structure to the Sikh Nation and organised

his preachers into 22 teaching districts he put Bibi Amro ji in-charge of one of these

districts that he callcd Manji. What Manji meant was that a person who was leading a

Kirtan to be sit on the Manji while whole sangat in front of him.

The person occupying Manji was the Sikh preacher appointed by Guru Amardas. This

appointmcet can best be compared to the position of Bishop in thc Christian Church

today. It was an administrative position, with full responsibility for the equality and

content of the preaching. She also would have the responsibility of collecting

revenues and making decisions for the welfare of her diocese. Her manji or diocese

included Basarke, her husband's village, where they made their home. It is the direct

result of the efforts of Bibi Amro and other Sikh preaches that Amritsar today is

synonomous with Sikhism. Today, close to the village of Basarke, there is a tank

(man made pond) bearing the name Bibi Amro da Talab (Tank of Bibi Amro) in her


from the "Champion of Women" by Alice Basarke.

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Bibi Bhani ji


Bibi Bhani was daughter of Guru Amar Das, consort of Guru Ram Das and mother of

Guru Arjan Dev, was born to Mata Mansa Devi on 21 Magh 1591 Bk/19January 1535

at Basarke Gillan, a village near Amritsar. She was married on 18 February 1554 to

Bhai Jetha (later Guru Ram Das), a Sodhi Khatri belonging to Lahore, then in

Goindval rendering voluntary service in the construction of the Baoli Sahib. After

marriage, the couple remained in Goindval serving the Guru. From Goindval Bhai

Jetha was deputed by the Guru to go and establish a habitation (present-day Amritsar)

on a piece of land gifted, according to one version, by Emperor Akbar to Bibi Bhani

at the time of his visit to Guru Amar Das.

Three sons, Prith Chand (1558), Mahadev (1560) and (Guru) Arjan Dev (1563) were

born to her. A popular anecdote mentioned in old chronicles describes how devotedly

Bibi Bhani served her father. One morning, it is said, as Guru Amar Das was absorbed

in meditation, Bibi Bhani noticed that one of the legs of the low wooden seat on

which the Guru sat was about to give way. she at once put forward her hand to

support the stool. As the Guru ended his devotions, he discovered how her hand was

bleeding from the injury it had sustained. He blessed her saying that her progeny

would inherit the guruship. Bibi Bhani died at Goindval on 9 April 1598.

Bibi Bhani was mother of Guru Arjan Dev, the Fifth Guru. Undoubtly Guru Arjan

Dev was brought up as model GurSikh. Guru Arjan Dev was the first Sikh Martyr.

Guru Arjan Dev compiled Adi Granth by collecting all the writings of gurus before

him and installed it at Golden Temple, which is now The Guru Granth. Guru Arjan

Dev completed the construction of Golden Temple.

Article taken from these book.

Encyclopedia of Sikhism edited by Harbans Singh ji.

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that was Great, Bebi Nanaki was an amazing Gursikh. Her SEVA WAS THE GREATEST! Because of her Guru Nanak Dev Ji fullfiled his mission.

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Mata Gujri Ji

Mata Gujari ji, through upbringing of her grandsons played such an important role in Sikhism that as Sikhs, we can owe our existence to her. It was due to her teachings that 6 year old and 9 year old did not bulge from their Dharma and attained martyrdom


Mata Gujari was the daughter of Bhai lal Chand Subulikka and Bishan Kaur, a pious

couple of Kartarpur, in present-day kapurthala district of the Punjab. Lal Chand had

migrated from his ancestral village, Lakhnaur, in Ambala district, to settle at

Kartarpur where his daughter Gujari was married to (Guru) Tegh Bahadur on 4

February 1633. The betrothal had taken place four years earlier when Tegh Bahadur

had come to Kartarpur in the marriage party of his elder brother, Suraj Mall. Bishan

Kaur, the mother, had been charmed by the handsome face of Tegh Bahadur and she

and her husband pledged the hand of their daughter to him. After the marriage

ceremony, the couple came to reside in Amritsar. Bride Gujari won the appreciation

of everyone "Like bridegroom like bride" records Gurbilas Chhevi patshsahi. "Gujari

is by destiny made worthy of Tegh Bahadur in every way " In 1635, Mata Gujari left

Amritsar with the holy family and went to reside at Kartarpur, in the Sivalik foothills.

After of Guru Hargobind left this world in 1644, she came with her husband and

mother-in-law, Mata Nanaki, to Bakala, now in Amritsar district of the Punjab. There

they lived in peaceful seclusion, Tegh Bahadur spending his days and nights in

meditation and Gujari performing the humble duties of a pious and devoted

housewife. After he was installed Guru in 1664, Guru Tegh Bahadur, accompanied by

Mata Gujari, went on a visit to Amritsar, traveling on to Makhoval, near Kiratpur,

where a new habitation, named Chakk Nanaki (later Anandpur) was founded in the

middle of 1665.

Soon after this, Guru Tegh Bahadur along with his mother, Nanaki, and wife, Gujari,

set out on a long journey to the east Leaving the family at Patna, he traveled on to

Bengal and Assam. At Patna, Mata Gujari gave birth to a son on 22 December 1666.

The child was named Gobind Rai, the illustrious Guru Gobind Singh of later day.

Guru Tegh Bahadur returned to Patna in 1670 for a brief stay before he left for Delhi,

instructing the family to proceed to lakhnaur, now in Haryana.

Mata Gujari, accompanied by the aged Mata Nanaki and young Gobind Rai, reached,

on 13 September 1670, Lakhnaur where she stayed with her brother Mehar chand,

until she was joined by her husband. An old well just outside Lakhnaur village and

reverently called Matta da Khuh or Mata Gujari DA Khuh still commemorates her

visit. From Lakhnaur the family proceeded to Chakk Nanaki where Guru Tegh

Bahadur rejoined them in March 1671 after spending some more time traveling

through the Malva region and meeting sangats. At Chakk Nanaki, 11 July 1675 was a

momentous day when Guru Tegh Bahadur left for Delhi prepared to make the

supreme sacrifice. She showed courage at the time of parting and bore the ultimate

trial with fortitude. Guru Tegh Bahadur was executed in Delhi on 11 November 1675,

and, Guru Cobind Singh then being very young, the responsibility of managing the

affairs at Chakk Nanaki, initially, fell to her. She was assisted in the task by her

younger brother, Kirpal Chand.

When in face of a prolonged siege by hostile hill rajas and Mughal troops Chakk

Nanaki (Anandpur) had to be evacuated by Guru Gobind Singh on the night of 5-6

December 1705, Mata Gujari with her younger grandsons, Zorawar Singh and Fateh

Singh, aged nine and seven year respectively, was separated from the main body

while crossing the rivulet Sarsa. The three of them were led by their servant, Gangu,

to the latter's village, Saheri, near Morinda in present day Ropar district, where he

treacherously betrayed them to the local Muslim officer. Mata Gujari and her

grandsons were arrested on 8 December and confined in Sirhind Fort in what is

referred to in Sikh chronicles as Thanda Burj, the cold tower. As the children were

summoned to appear in court from day to day, the grandmother kept urging them to

remain steadfast in their faith. On 11 December they were ordered to be bricked up

alive in a wall, but, since the masonry crumbled before it covered their heads, they

were executed the following day. Mata Gujari ji were imprisoned on top of a tower

which was opened from all sides without any warm clothes in very cold month of

December. She continued the tradition of Sikhism and without complaints give her

body singing guru ki Bani. Mata Gujari ji attained martyrdom the same day as her

grandsons. No doubt Guru Nanak Dev ji had said "Why isn't woman equal to man

when she is who gave birth to kings, and protectors of Dharma". Mata Gujari ji

through upbringing of her grandsons played such an important role in Sikhism that as

Sikhs, we can owe our existence to her. It was due to her teachings that 6 year old and

9 year old did not bulge from their Dharma and attained martyrdom. Thus continuing

and emphasizing the institute of martyrdom in Sikhism. Seth Todar Mall, a

kindhearted wealthy man of Sirhind, cremated the three dead bodies the next day.

At Fatehgarh Sahib, near Sirhind, there is a shrine called Gurdwara Mata Gujari

(Thanda Burj). This is where Mata Gujari spent the last four days of her life. About

one kilometer to the southeast of it is Gurdwara Joti Sarup, marking the cremation

site. Here, on the ground floor, a small domed pavilion in white marble is dedicated to

Mata Gujari. The Sikhs from far and near come to pay homage to her memory,

especially during a three-day fair held from 1113 Poh, Bikrami dates falling in the last

week of December.

Excerpts taken from these books.


Trilochan Singh, Guru Tegh Bahadur. Delhi, 1967

Harbans Singh, Guru Tegh Bahadur. Delhi, 1982

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Mata Khivi Ji


Khivi was born in 1506 to Karan Devi17 and Bhai Devi Chand Khatri. Her father was a shopkeeper and moneylender, and was a popular man in the neighbourhood. She inherited all his finest attributes of generosity and congenial spirit. She was married in 1519, when she was 13 years old. Khivi was married to Lahina for 20 years before he became the second Guru of the Sikhs. There is historical evidence that she had 4 children. Dasu, the eldest was born in 1524. Bibi Amro18 was born in 1532, followed by Bibi Anokhi in 1535 and son Datu in 1537. The family was content and doing well. As the wife of one of the town's richest men, Khivi must have enjoyed a great deal of respect. Her life was one of luxury and pleasure. Life would have gone on this way, had it not been for her coming under the influence of Mai Bhirai, who told her about Guru Nanak's teachings. At approximately the same time, Lahina also heard of the Guru through Bhai Jodha, one of Guru Nanak's earliest disciples. Lahina was a seeker of truth, and his curiosity was aroused. In 1532, shortly after the birth of his first daughter Amro, Lahina set out for his annual pilgrimage. On the way, he broke his journey at Kartarpur to see the Guru. On listening to Nanak speak, Lahina begged to be allowed to stay and become his disciple. He had found the truth he had been seeking, and would never again stray away from it. He served his master with the greatest devotion. He busied himself, sweeping the visitor's quarters, washing their clothes and helping with the most menial work in fields. As his knowledge and understanding of the new teachings grew, so did the Guru's affection and approval of his disciple

Lahina was 28 years old at the time, had a wife and two young children. The Guru he had chosen, spoke of the equality of women and advocated a normal family life as the best way to attain salvation. After serving the Guru for some time, he was sent back to Khadur to see his family. His instructions were to take his time and to spend it spreading the word of the new faith to all he met. He did this well, and Guru Nanak was pleased with the reports he heard of him. The reports were so good that Guru Nanak came to his village twice to visit him and to re-inforce his work with his own preaching. Khivi also learnt from her husband, and embraced the new faith wholeheartedly. The women in the village taunted her, saying that her husband was becoming an important holy man, and would, therefore, soon forsake her. She knew she had nothing to worry about, and gave birth to two more children in that period of time.

When Guru Nanak died, Guru Angad felt a great need to prepare himself for the work ahead. Nihali, 20 a devout woman disciple, made her house available to him, while he prayed and meditated for six months. He allowed her to supply him with milk, but otherwise asked to be left alone.

When Lahina became Guru Angad, second Guru of the Sikhs, life became very busy for Khivi. People were now coming to her house to see their Guru. She had always been accustomed to a busy social life, but this was different. There was a purpose to all this coming and going that had not been there before. Moreover, Sikh teaching was very clear that one must earn ones living through one's own labour. Khivi took these teachings very seriously. She took upon herself the onerous task of managing every detail of the langar. Only the best possible ingredients were used, and everyone was treated with utmost courtesy. Her hospitality has been emulated over the centuries and has become the first cultural identity of the Sikhs. She helped the Guru in establishing the infant Sikh community on a stronger footing.21 She has been described as good natured, efficient, beautiful and all round perfect Khivi.22 She has the distinction of being the only one of the Guru•s wives to be mentioned by name in Guru Granth Sahib. There she is described as a "good person", "an affectionate mother" and as "one who provides shelter and protection to others."

Khivi did much more than work in the kitchen. She created a loving atmosphere for all whom she came in contact with. She and Guru Angad were very fond of their children. They lavished their love and affection on not only their own, but on any child in the community. Their commitment was so strong that it gave a beautiful example to all who witnessed it. The Guru took great delight in spending time with the children, teaching them a modified version of the Punjabi script which was easier to learn by the illiterate masses. This new script, which was his invention, soon became known as Gurmukhi script. He is credited in popularising this alphabet, in which the Guru Granth Sahib is written. Each day there was special time set aside first to teach the children and delight in their clever ways. Then they would watch the children at play, and often watch wrestling matches together. From the games, the Guru would draw lessons for his congregation. Guru Angad, with the help of Bhai Bala and other disciples, wrote the first "Life" of Guru Nanak, and this work became the first published prose of the Punjabi language.

Mata Khivi lived for thirty years after her husband's death. She continued to serve the community and remained associated with the Guru's house in all that time. When Guru Angad passed the succession to Guru Amar Das, his son Datu was very disappointed. Encouraged by some of his friends, he tried to declare himself the rightful heir. He took his following and they sang hymns by themselves. Khivi was quite upset. When Datu developed headaches, she was able to persuade him that his responsibility was too much for him. The only way to cure the headache is to go back to the rightful Guru and beg his forgiveness. She took her son back to Guru Amar Das, who on hearing that she was coming, came out to meet her half way. All was forgiven. Datu's headaches disappeared and Sikhism was spared another schism, thanks to Khivi's intervention.24 Khivi continued to manage Guru Amar Das' kitchen. She was proud of her children till the day she died. Her daughter Amro had married Bhai Jasoo of Basarke village. He was the son of Bhai Manak Chand and nephew of Guru Amar Das.25 Bibi Amro had become a preacher of Sikhism, and it is she who transformed the life of Guru Amar Das by introducing him to the teachings she had learnt from her father Guru Angad. Later, when Amar Das organised the teaching of Sikhism into specific districts and jurisdictions, he gave her a Manji, that is, he appointed her head of a diocese. Being appointed to head a Manji would be the equivalent of being a bishop in the Christian Church. She was responsible not only for the quality of the preaching, but also for collecting revenues and making decisions for the welfare of her diocese. Her diocese or Manji included Basarke, her husband's village. Today, close to the modern village of Basarke an old tank (man-made pond) bears the name of Bibi Amro Da Talab (Tank of Bibi Amro) in her memory.

Khivi had the distinction of meeting five Gurus. She lived to the age of 75 and died in the year 1582. Guru Arjun Dev attended her funeral. Her contributions to the Sikh cause can easily be divided into three parts. The first period was the twenty years of marriage before Guru Angad succeeded Guru Nanak. This period was a test not only for Angad, but for her as well. Any decisions he made affected her very much. Her response would also have affected his actions. She never complained, nor did anything to deter him from his objectives. The second period of her life as wife of the Guru was extraordinary in its devotion and dedication to the cause. The third and last period would be after her husband died. She continued to nourish the Sikh community and to work tirelessly for that which she now believed in with all her heart.

She had a long productive life. She worked hard and was loved by all. Her good humour and pleasant personality made a large contribution to the spirit of hospitality, which is now considered an essential trait of Sikh culture. She is quite possibly the first woman of her era who ever worked outside her immediate family home and obligations at a time when her children were very young. She handled both roles admirably well. It is time that Sikhs acknowledge her very important contribution.

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Thank you for that seva JustMe phenji,

I didn't know about mata Khivi ji.

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gr8 uprala ji. keep ur sewa up. respect u

I wanted to say the same exact thing <_<

lol plz don't make this a fun thread. avnit i want u to come here everyday and learn something from justmee ji.

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gr8 uprala ji. keep ur sewa up. respect u

I wanted to say the same exact thing <_<

lol plz don't make this a fun thread. avnit i want u to come here everyday and learn something from justmee ji.

this is for justme

I love u for teaching me a great lesson

and also To tell u the truth I knew all about this but maybe u knoe more than me so lets talk more often


see I'm going to learn from her :)

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gr8 uprala ji. keep ur sewa up. respect u

I wanted to say the same exact thing <_<

lol plz don't make this a fun thread. avnit i want u to come here everyday and learn something from justmee ji.

this is for justme

I love u for teaching me a great lesson

and also To tell u the truth I knew all about this but maybe u knoe more than me so lets talk more often


see I'm going to learn from her :)

good job lil sister and sorry justme bhenji she think she knows alot but acyually thatz not true. so this is a request from a brother to u to teach sikhi to my lil sister avnit and mee tooo

waheguru ji ka khalsa

waheguru ji ki fateh

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh Jio

whenever we are inspired or learn anything about sikhi, remember it is waheguru taking u into His warm lap and telling u these sakhis so plz me nothing but a worthless papi murakh..........

Remember ladies, whenever we feel weak or vunerable in our parchaar and thirst for sikhi, look at these women and the "sacrifies" they made so we can live comfortable, safe, secure lives...............i quote sarifcies bcos this is how my pathetic mind processes these Mahaan women yet for them, it was no sacifice but a chardi kalah way of life that was a TRUE blessing from waheguru........................these sighniah are what shaped our future and we should never forget their contribution to Sikhi and ispire to model our lives around theirs

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Keep in Chardi Kalah

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Mata Sulakhani

In the book, Mahan Kosh, Bhai Kahn Singh Nabha writes that a girl was born in the village Pakhoke, district Gurdaspur to Moolchand Chand Khatri and Mata Chando. Her father was a pious Chona Khatri merchant, who was the tax collector (patwari) of his village. The year is not given, but on the basis of her year of marriage, one can guess that it was around 1473. The writer states that she was born with "super characteristics," but neglects to elaborate what these were. It is quite obvious that he was not too concerned about this child. He does state that she was named Sulakhani. Nothing could be found about her childhood or her education, but we know as fact that girls were not formerly educated in those days. If she had any training, it would have been in cooking, sewing, embroidery and house-keeping. Unfortunately, no-one has bothered to record anything about her personal tastes, hobbies or interests.

In 1969 Sikhs celebrated the 500th birth anniversary of their founder. Much research was done at that time and some literature was produced. Professor Sahib Singh has written that: "Bhai Jai Ram was resident of Khanpur and was in the service of Nawab Daulat Khan. For his official work, he used to go to Pakhoke village. There he talked to Shri Moolchand for the marriage of his daughter, and he readily agreed to it. Guru Nanak was engaged on Visak 5, 1542, vs, and the marriage took place on Harh 24, 1544 vs. Guru Nanak was 18 years old at the time of marriage." Sulakhani must have been about 14.

Earlier writers have written many interesting stories leading up to the wedding day. It seems that Nanak refused to follow the marriage rituals dictated by the Brahmins of the day. He stated that any time would be an auspicious time for the wedding. There was no need to cast horoscopes as he was not superstitious. He consistently tried to break old traditions. Moolchand became alarmed and refused to marry his daughter to Guru Nanak. In those days, this would have been considered to be a major scandal. The news of this scandal spread quickly. Another gentleman, Shri Bhandari of the city of Batala offered his daughter for marriage with Guru Nanak. But Moolchand did not wish Guru Nanak to marry Bhandari's daughter. He thought that this could be interpreted as rejection of his daughter and, therefore, would be an insult to his family's honour. He conspired to kill Nanak instead. Moolchand arranged for the Brahmin priests to debate marriage rituals with the Guru. They made him sit near a damaged wall. It had been raining and the winds were strong. Everyone expected the wall to collapse. The story goes that Sulakhani, not wishing to break her relationship after two year engagement, sent an old woman to warn Guru Nanak of the conspiracy. Guru Nanak told the woman not to worry, the wall would not collapse for years to come. Indeed, that same wall stands today in Batala and a famous gurdwara has been built to commemorate the spot.

In 1487, the marriage finally did take place, and it did ignore the Brahmin rituals. Guru Nanak and his bride took four rounds instead of the prescribed seven around the sacred fire. It is said that he also spoke a few words at the ceremony. Unfortunately, these words were not duly recorded and nothing has been written regarding Sulakhani's thoughts or sentiments on the subject. That the event had a profound effect on her can certain]y be taken for granted. At any rate, the marriage party and celebrations were a grand and impressive event attended by the rich and influential people of that lime. Early writers have indicated that it was a most grand affair as befitted the daughter of the town's tax collector.

Nanak lived with Sulakhani at Nankana Sahib for fourteen years. Once again, he broke the conventions of the time, by living apart from both his family and hers. His sister Nanaki would try to neutralise any criticism by explaining to one and all, that her brother needed his own space, and a lot of it, because of all the people who were constantly drawn to him, to listen to his teaching. During those fourteen years, Sulakhani gave birth to two sons, Shri Chand and Lakhmi Das. Nanak took great interest in his family and gave them his love and attention. He demonstrated by his actions, his personal commitment to his teachings; that salvation is reached best through a married family life. His teaching of the equality of women must have also been demonstrated by the way he treated his wife, Sulakhani's self-esteem and happiness grew each day. She, in turn, supported his mission, participating in hymn-singing (kirtan), and working endlessly to feed the crowds that came to listen to her husband.

One day, when Guru was approximately 30 years old, the day of destiny came. Nanak sat in meditation at the bank of the Vanyi river, when he heard God's call to give his life for world up-lift by guiding men on the right path to Him."' Nanak resolved to obey the cal1 immediately. After three days in prayer, he emerged saying "There is no Hindu, no Moslem." Then he returned to the place of employment, resigning his post. He gave away all he had to the poor and prepared to set out on loot to bring his teachings to the world at large. Many authors have described this incident. Mata Sulakhani is reported to have complained of his absence to her sister-in-law. Most writers make this appear as a negative incident, with the wife whining and being unreasonable. However, one must ask, was it indeed unreasonable ? Any woman would worry if her husband suddenly disappeared for three days. What the incident demonstrates is that Sulakhani had enough self-esteem and courage that she was not afraid to speak to her sister-in-law. In the customs of those days, that was not easily done. Sulakhani took the initiative to tell Guru Nanak's family as well as her own, that he was missing. How they all must have rejoiced when he reappeared three days later.

Throughout this period, though he lived a relatively quiet life, Nanak continued to question Brahmin rituals and to rebel against them. He became quite well-known. His sister Bebe Nanaki and Rai Bhullar, the Choudhry of the area, proclaimed him "Messenger of God." His following grew. It is about this time that he met Mardana, a minstrel from Talwandi, who soon became his friend and confidante. They spent many evenings together, composing and singing sweet hymns to God. One Bhai Bhagirathi also came from Mailasi, near Multan, and stayed with him for a while, as a sort of disciple. Nanak's teaching life was beginning. At this point, Nanaki gave him a rabab, or rebeck, a musical instrument with which he accompanied himself in singing hymns of praise of the one true God. A rahab was a stringed instrument, which was of Arabian origin, and was very popular in Northern India at the time. It had four to six strings made of goat gut, with corresponding steel strings underneath which provided resonance. It looked somewhat similar to our modern mandolin. With time, it fell into disuse in India, though it remains popular in Arabic music. In providing her brother with a rahab, and later his companion Mardana with another, Nanaki helped Guru Nanak establish a musical tradition in the Sikh religion from the very start.

Nanak's disregard for Brahmin rituals must have caused havoc in his private life. All his piety did not impress his parents who did not understand what they considered to be his rebelliousness. His father-in-law would have preferred a more conventional mate for his daughter. While everyone around them lived in a joint family arrangement, Nanak, his wife and children lived separate from all. Every time he refused to observe Brahmin ritual, every time he scorned an accepted custom or tradition, it would have been Sulakhani who would have had to face the scorn of her neighbours and family. Still, he was consistent in denouncing any injustice, any custom based on caste, any tradition that discriminated against any one at all. On the other hand, Sulakhani had the benefit of listening to his preaching and his discussions with many strangers. She did not travel with him, as their children were very young when he went way. Travelling was most difficult in those days. But she did most certainly benefit by listening to the many people who constantly came to her house, seeking to hear the Guru speak. It was an education that should be envied by many.

At the age of 32, after making arrangements for the well-being of his family, Nanak left for his religious tours of preaching the doctrines of his mission. His boys were five and six years old at the time.'2 Before leaving, he made sure that his growing congregation of disciples would also be cared for. It was important that they not disband and lose faith in his absence. He left his wife with the task of being their spiritual and moral support until such time as he was able to return. Thus, it can be deduced that Sulakhani, a woman, was the first preacher and guardian of the new faith. She was assigned the task of making sure that the congregation (Panth) stays on the path given them by their founder.

Bebe Nanaki took Shri Chand, the oldest boy and adopted him as her own son. This type of arrangement was a quite common and accepted custom at that time. By this time, Sulakhani would have understood why her husband had to leave. With Baba Budha at her side, she looked after the needs of the small congregation. The tradition of hymn-singing continued, and with it the need to feed all who came (langar). Guru Nanak had taught the need to work with his own hands. Mata Sulakhani kept that teaching alive in the community. She did all the household chores herself. Nothing was beneath her. She looked after her son, did the kitchen chores and looked after the animals. Though she undoubtedly was lonely, she waited patiently. When Bebc Nanaki and Jai Ram died suddenly only threc days of each other, she took back her eldest son and continued with her daily chores of looking after the fledgling group of devotees and contributed fully to the mission of her husband.

In his first journey, Guru Nanak reached Dhubri in Kamrup (Assam) via Bengal. Nur Shah was the queen. At first she tried to tempt him in every way possible. But soon, Nur Shah was deeply moved hy the soul-stirring message of Nanak, and stood before him with joined palms, besceching him to forgive her past and to accept her as his disciple. This the Guru did, training her to become his main preacher in Assam. Thus, Nur Shah was trained by Guru Nanak himself and became the second known female preacher of Sikhism. Here again we see Guru Nanak's commitment to the equality of women. It was he, right from the very beginning, who first trained women to take their equal share of responsibility of this new religion.

In January of 15l6, after eight years of constant travel, Nanak returned from his first journey. At the age of 46, he settled on The present sitc of Kartarpur and took up farming. He consoled his ageing parents by bringing them to live with him quietly for nearly two years. Though they were upset by his continued disregard for caste rules and social order, they could not help hut be impressed by the fact that he had thousands of men and women of every class, seeking to hear him speak. He was their Guru. Late in 1517, Nanak and Mardana once more set out and resumed their journey.

Eventually, Nanak returned from his travels and established the new city of Kartarpur. He farmed to earn his livelihood and dressed himself as an ordinary householder of the day. His followers multiplied and people came to listen to him from great distances. He regularly preached to the crowds, teaching all to live in this world, in the present tense, which is, in fact, the only reality, and to work with their own hands, while at the same time to remember God in their thoughts, praying for nothing more than His grace. His strong personal attraction came from a message of love, a playful sense of humour and his persuasive words which were always simple. straightforward and easy for all to understand.

When his time had come in 1539, he chose to leave responsibility of his mission with a devout disciple, Bhai Lahina. Historians have recorded that the Guru's wife objected strongly to his choice. Their eldest son, Shri Chand had a reputation of saintliness, and was respected and liked by all. Like many others, Sulakhani had expected that he would be the rightful heir. She went to the Guru with her two sons and asked what would become of her and them, if Lahina was to be named the second Guru. Nanak replied simply that she should put her trust in God. Was Sulakhani impertinent or did she show ignorance by asking this question? I think not. On the contrary, at a time when women were completely subjugated by men, none would dare tn question their husband's decisions. Here we see proof positive that Guru Nanak did indeed have high regard for his family. He must have been very respectful to his wife, so much so, that she had the freedom to ask what she felt was important. Her self-esteem allowed her to find the courage to seek answers when she had a question. In his answer, Guru Nanak was not rebuking her or putting her down. He had made a decision. Lahina was better suited to be the next Guru. It was a very simple statement, the rest was up to God. Early writers have recorded that after Guru Nanak's death, Sulakhani spent the rest of her life in Kartarpur, contributing as always to the establishment of Sikh values and traditions. As wife of the first Guru, her role was an important one and she filled it well.

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Bibi Bhagbhari Ji

Bibi Bhagbhari ji was a disciple of Guru Amar Das ji. She was also one of the first

Sikh preachers. Little could be found on the early life of Bhagbhari, sometimes also

known as Bibi Bhago. She was very young when she became a disciple of Guru Amar

Das. After learning all that she could, the Guru gave her the manji of Kashmir. That

meant that she was appointed by Guru Amardas ji to preach Sikhism in the area of

Kashmir valley, around Srinagar.

She went out as a missionary, worked hard with considerable success, but never

returned to Punjab. She made her home in Srinagar. When she got older and was

unable to carry out her duties, her son Sewa Das continued the work of the Guru,

preaching and teaching Sikhism to all who would listen.

Bibi Bhagbhari dreamt of seeing her Guru one last time. She made a beautiful robe

and prayed to be able to see him wear it. By this time, it was Guru Hargobind ji was

on the Gaddi of Nanak as the sixth Guru of the Sikhs. The Guru on hearing of her

devotion procceded to Kashmir to meet her. He put on her robe and she blessed her

lucky stars that she had been so honoured. The Guru stayed for some time preaching

to the Sikhs in the area. While the Guru was in Srinagar, Bhagbhari who was quite

elderly at this time, died a happy woman. An important shrine dedicated to this visit

of the Guru still stands in Srinagar today.

Article taken from these book.

"Champion of Women" by Alice Basarke.

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Bibi Rajni Ji

sangat jio may have heard this sakhi under the duykh bhanjani bheri title

In the era of Guru Ram Das, one cannot leave out Rajni, youngest daughter of Rai

Duni Chand, revenue collector (kardar) of Patti. (The story has all the myth, magic

and miracles of a genuine Sakhi, but is nevertheless a charming story). Rajni was a

Sikh, a disciple of the Guru. One day she was sitting with her sisters admiring some

new clothing they all had received from their father. The girls were ecstatic and

exclaiming how good their father was to them. Rajni observed that all gifts are

ultimately from God. Their father was merely an instrument of His greatness.

Unfortunately for her, he overheard her comment and became very angry.

It was not the First time that she incurred his wrath because of her extreme piety. The

infuriated father, believing her to be an ungrateful wretch, married her to a leper with

a taunt that he would see how her God would help her lead a normal life. The leper

was severely disfigured and a foul smell came from his body. The poor girl had

accepted her fate ungrudgingly and worked hard to maintain herself and her crippled

husband. She kept repeating the name of God, and was certain that he was testing her

with this turn of events. She was forced to beg for a living. Still she bathed and fed

her leper husband, never losing faith. One day, she reached the site of a pool on her

way to a neighbouring village. Placing the basket containing her husband by the side

of the pool, she had gone otf on an errand, most probably to look for food. In the

meantime, her crippled husband had seen a black crow dip into the water of the pool

and come out white. Amazed at this miracle, the man crawled up to the edge of the

pool and managed a dip. He found himself completely cured. When his wife returned,

she was amazed to find her husband in good health. He was handsome and whole. At

first, she was alarmed and suspected that he might be a different person. He had,

however, kept one finger with leprosy marks un-dipped. He showed her the diseased

finger as proof of his identity. The couple thanked God, and went to the Guru to seek

his blessings.

The pool was the future site of the Golden Temple. The medicinal properties of the

water were said to have come trom Basil (Tulsi), which grew in abundance on its

banks. Guru Amar Das used to pick the herb there to make poultices for an infected

toe that plagued Guru Angad. The legendary importance of the site highlights the

medicinal properties of the waters of the pool, Rajni's leper husband was cured in.

Sakhi relates that if you keep faith in God then one day all rewards are paid. Bibi

Rajni had always kept the faith in Guru and God, being happy with whatever she had

and thus was rewarded at the end.

Article taken from these book.

"Champion of Women" by Alice Basarke.

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Bibi Viro

Bibi Viro ji was daughter of Guru Hargobind ( 1595-1644) and Mata Oamodan, was

born at Amritsar on llJuly 1615. She was married to Bhai Sadhu, son of Bhai Dharma,

a Khosla Khatri of the village of Malla. She was deeply religious and as well as a

warrior in the mould of her Brother like Tyag Mall (Guru Tegh Bahadur).

The nuptials were performed on 94 May 1699 at Jhabal, 15 km southwest of Amritsar.

She was the mother of five sons, Sango Shah, Jit Mall, Gulab Chand, Mahri Chand

and Galiga Ram. She raised them very well and with deep Sikh values. All the five

sons took part in a battle fought on 18 September 1688, between Guru Gobind Singh

and Raja Fateh Shah of Srinagar ( Garhval) at Bhangani, 11 km from Paonta, in the

present Sirmur district of Himachal Pradesh, Sango Shah and Jit Mall dying in action.

Article taken from these book.

Encyclopedia of Sikhism edited by Harbans Singh ji.

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Bibi Sachan Sach ji

When any one wanted an audience with Guru Amar das, they had to comply with

some simple instructions. First, they had to eat from the Guru's kitchen with all his

other guests regardless of status or gender. Women were asked to remove their veils.

The Raja of Haripur was no exception. He came with his entourage of wives, and all

were asked to have a meal first. The youngest wife was very shy and refused to

remove her veil. The Guru asked her what the problem was. In those days, women

never ate with men and were certainly not used to he spoken to by men. The poor girl

was totally confused and embarrassed. She ran out to hide herself. The Raja wanting

to please the Guru, feigned disgust with her behaviour and abandoned her altogether.

Thus, when he returned home, she was left behind, alone and frightened. This was

500 years ago, when women were not able to work and support themselves

independently. This poor girl was far away from family and friends. She hid in the

forest, and people said she went totally insane.

The Guru had many disciples and they all did their chores together and listened to the

Guru's teaching. There was one such man who came from a place near Shaikhupura

which is now in Pakistan. He left his home and joined the Guru's camp at Goindwal.

He took upon himself the responsibility of bringing firewood daily for the kitchen.

One day, while he was in the forest, he had a terrible clash with an insane woman. She

was filthy, her clothes were torn, and her hair was matted. He startled her when he

accidently tripped over her. She reacted by screaming and biting and clawing. He

managed to subdue her with kind words and a strong arm. Covering her with his

shawl, he brought her to the Guru. After taking a bath and eating well in the kitchen,

the lady was invited to join the congregation and listen to the prayers and the


A great peace entered her soul and she was able to slowly regain her strength and selfesteem.

She was once thc Rani of Haripur, but no one knew her real name. As she

grew stronger and joined the others in chores as well as prayers, she was often heard

muttering "sachan sach" meaning "truth is truth". This soon became her nickname. As

time passed, she became totally cured, and showed hatclliger1cc and goo(l

iudgclllellt. The Guru was immpressed with her commitment and devotion. She

eventually married the gentleman who had rescued her against her will from the

forest. Mata Sachan Sach was made a masand and sent with her hushand to his home

in west-Punjab to preach the word of God.

Article taken from these book."Champion of Women" by Alice Basarke.

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Mai Bhago


Mai Bhago was was a descendant of Pero Shah, the younger brother of Bhai Launga a

Dhillon Jatt who had converted a Sikh during the time of Guru Arjan. Born at her

ancestral village of Jhabal in present-day Amritsar district of the Punjab, she was

married to Nidhan Singh Varaich of Patti. A staunch Sikh by birth and upbringing.

Mughals and hilly chiefs had surrounded Anandpur and were demanding it be

evacuated. They called that any Sikh who says that "he/she is not anymore a Sikh of

Guru Gobind" will be left untouched. A group of 40 Sikhs, led by Mahan Singh Brar

told Guru Gobind Singh that they are not his Sikhs anymore. Guru told them that they

have to write it in a document that "they are not his Sikhs anymore" and sign it. All

forty Sikhs signed this document Bedava and left Guru Gobind Singh. Mai Bhago was

distressed to hear that some of the Sikhs of her neighborhood who had gone to

Anandpur to fight for Guru Gobind Singh had deserted him under adverse conditions.

Hearing her taunts, these Sikhs were ashamed at their deed. She rallied the deserters

persuading Guru, then traveling across the Malva region.

Meanwhile, Guru Gobind Singh had to evacuate the fort of Anandpur, his children

were lost in the confusion. Two youngest one's Zorawar Singh and Fateh Singh, went

along with their grandmother (mother of Guru Gobind Singh). While elder one's Ajit

Singh and Jhujhar Singh were with their father. Then at battle of Chamkaur Guru's

elder sons attained martyrdom, Guru was saved by five Sikhs and he evacuated

Chamkaur and was traveling in Malva region, being pursued by Mughal forces of

Aurungzeb. Traveling day and night in the Jungles of Malva region, imperial Mughal

forces were in constant pursuit of Guru. Guru Gobind Singh reached village of

Khidrana, when Mai Bhago and the men, she was leading stopped near the dhab or

pool of Khidrana where an imperial army in pursuit of Guru Gobind Singh had almost

overtaken him. They challenged the pursuing host and fought furiously forcing it to

retreat. All forty Sikhs attained martyrdom in this pitched battle, in which Guru

himself was supporting them with a shower of arrows from a nearby high ground,

found all the men except one Mahan Singh, killed when he visited the battlefield. Mai

Bhago and Guru Gobind Singh ji were the sole survivors of this fiercely fought battle.

Mahan Singh, who had been seriously wounded, also died as the Guru took him into

his lap. Guru Gobind Singh blessed those forty dead as the Forty Liberated Ones. He

took into his care Mai Bhago who had also suffered injury in the battle. She there

after stayed on with Guru Gobind Singh as one of his bodyguard, in male attire. After

the death of Guru Gobind Singh at Nanded in 1708, she retired further south. She

settled down at Jinvara, 11 km from Bidar in Karnataka where, immersed in

meditation, she lived to attain a ripe old age. Her hut in Jinvara has now been

converted into Gurdwara Tap Asthan Mai Bhago. At Nanded, too, a hall within the

compound of Takht Sachkhand. Sri Hazur Sahib marking the site of her residence is

known as Bunga Mai Bhago.

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Kabul Wali Mai

Kabul wali mai, or the lady from Kabul is the name chroniclers have given to a

woman who rendered devoted service during the digging of the baoli at Goindwal

under the supervision of Guru Amardas. Day after day says Sarup Das Bhalla in

Mahima Prakash, she toiled away at the site,without anyone knowing who she was,

and where she had come from. One day Guru Amar Das told the Sikhs that lady was

from Kabul and that she had by her love of the almighty and duty towards her

husband attained spiritual insight.

An old manuscript Mahima Prakash sri Guru Amar Das and an inscription at

Gurdwara Haveli sahib at Goindwal mention a lady being in charge of the Manji or

Sikh centre at Kabul they give her name to be Mai Sevan.

Unfortunately nothing else is known about such great soul. There are million other

such great souls who through the years have tirelessly, effortlessly worked hard to

uplift sikhs and Sikhism.

Article taken from these book.

Encyclopedia of Sikhism edited by Harbans Singh ji.

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Bibi Anup Kaur

May this sakhi inspire todays generation of punjabi sikh women


The Sikh Gurus not only preached for the equal status of women, but also revolutionized their social life. History is full with examples where women who did not step out of house without covering their faces, performed wonderful daring deeds in life. After being baptized, they faced the enemy courageously and preferred death to an immoral comfortable life. Life story of martyr Anup Kaur is a golden example worth narration. She was born in 1690 in village Jalopur Khere, near Amritsar. Her father’s name was Lachchman Das Sodhi. In those days, Sodhis were divided in two opposite groups. One group favored Guru Tegh Bahadur for Guruship, while the other group led by Dhir Mal claimed that Guruship belonged to them. Many members of the Sodhi dynasty, like Lachchman who favored Guru Tegh Bahadur, left the central Punjab to avoid daily bickering and friction, and settled far away at Anandpur. Anup Kaur was only five years old when her parents migrated to Anandpur. She was an attractive, every happy, sweet-tongued and beautiful girl. She used to play with Sahibzadas (Guru Gobind Singh’s sons) and was liked by Mata Sundri. Anup Kaur spent most of her time with the Sahibzadas and was treated like a member of the Guru family. She acquired religious education and learned reading and writing Gurmukhi in their company. In 1699 when Guru Gobind Singh created Saint- soldiers, she along with her father who was now named Lachchman Singh was also baptized. It brought a wonderful change in her life and she rapidly grew physically as well as spiritually. Now she was regular in the performance of her daily prayers and visited Gurdwara daily. She collected other baptized girls and started learning fencing and other martial arts. They also used arms like sword, shield and spear. These girls also learned horse riding. This armed group under Anup Kaur was well versed in self defense and became famous in the area.

Anup Kaur with her group took part in the battle with the Sikhs against the hill chiefs. Victory in this battle created self-confidence among the young girls. The hill chiefs requested the Mughals at Delhi for help. As desired by Aurangzeb, the Mughal emperor, governor of Sirhind along with governor of Lahore and the hill chiefs besieged the Anandpur fort with a huge force. The Sikhs met the Mughal forces with fire from their guns. Sikh girls under the leadership of Anup Kaur played a very important part in this battle. They took responsibility of looking after the Guru’s family and taking the cooked food from the common kitchen to the Sikh soldiers in their trenches. They also helped in fighting wherever the Sikh soldiers needed help and showed feats of bravery. The siege continued for some days. The governor of Sirhind assured the Guru for the safety of all if the fort was vacated. The Guru did not rely on this assurance, but he knew that the effective defense was impossible owing to lack of food and other supplies. So the Guru agreed reluctantly to vacate Anandpur on the night of 20th December 1704. Anup Kaur’s group took care of the Guru’s family. The assurance proved false and the Sikhs were attacked outside the fort. Sikh soldiers and girls under Anup Kaur continued their march towards the rivulet Sirsa while fighting the enemy. While crossing the flooded Sirsa, Anup Kaur was separated from the Guru’s family in confusion. After crossing the river, she met five Sikh soldiers who told her that Guru Gobind Singh fought a battle with the Mughal forces at Chamkaur where the two elder Sahibzadas died fighting and the Guru had left Chamkaur. She was also told that the younger Sahibzadas were arrested at Sirhand. They all started towards Sirhand, but on their way they met a patrolling party of the Mughal soldiers. In the fight with them two Sikh soldiers were killed and Anup Kaur was injured, but the Mughal soldiers took to their heels. Anup Kaur came to know from someone that Mata Gujri and her two younger grandsons had been martyred, so they started to find the Guru. They were on their way when the chief of Malerkotla state with two hundred soldiers surrounded them. Anup Kaur’s companions died fighting but Anup Kaur’s horse stumbled, she fell down and broke her arm. She was arrested and taken to Malerkotla. When the chief came to know that the young charming girl was Anup Kaur about whose bravery he had heard a lot, he decided to marry her and instructed his soldiers to treat her respectfully and get her arm treated. She saw through their trick and realized that she would be forced to embrace Islam and marry the chief. She was a helpless prisoner, but she made up her mind to commit suicide to save her faith and honor. At Malerkotla she was under strict watch. Her maid servants told the chief that she was always meditating and remained in a serious mood. The chief persuaded Anup Kaur to marry him as there was no other way for her to save herself. He also promised her a comfortable life in the royal palace, but she refused. One day he called the Kazi (Muslim cleric) to forcibly convert and marry her, but they found only her dead body as she had thrust a dagger into her chest. She was buried quietly according to the Muslim rites.

Professor Ganda Singh, on the basis of his research, writes that Banda Singh Bahadur was moved to hear her pathetic story. When he marched upon Malerkotla in 1710, he said that last remains of this brave Sikh lady should not be allowed to rot in a grave. He was not opposed by anybody as the chief of the state had fled before Banda Bahadur reached there. He did not destroy Malerkotla as its chief had advocated mercy for the younger Sahibzadas at Sirhind. Body of Anup Kaur was exhumed and cremated according to Sikh rites as desired by Banda.

Thus the martyr Anup Kaur who sacrificed her life at the altar of her faith and chastity was given a decent cremation she richly deserved.

She had not embraced Islam and had died a Sikh. She is still remembered respectfully by the people of the area and her sacrifice will never be forgotten.


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Bibi Kaulan

Qazi Rustam Khan had bought her from her parents while she was a child. The Qazi gave her the education of Islam and sent her to Saint Mian Mir for higher schooling.

Saint Mian Mir was sufi saint. He had no prejudice against any religion. He had a very deep love with Guru Nanak's Institution. It was usual for him to go to Amritsar to meet the Guru. Whenever the Guru visited Lahore, he never went back without seeing Saint Mian Mir. Due to these meetings, Saint Mian Mir knew a large number of Guru's verses by heart which he used to quote to his disciples. Bibi Kaulan also remembered some of the verses by heart which she used to recite by herself for her pleasure. Her attachment to the Guru's institution increased further when she saw the Guru and the Sikhs came from Amritsar to Lahore at the time of the plague epidemic and nursed the patients with their own hands.

One day, Qazi Rustam Khan heard Bibi Kaulan reciting Guru Nanak's verses at home. He rebuked her and said "Do not recite these verses of the infidels in future." Bibi Kaulan Said, "Dear father! Saint Mian Mir bows in all humility to the man you call an infidel and thinks it a privelege to seat him by his side. It is unbecoming to call the man an infidel whome the saint hold in such esteem." The qazi gave a sound thrashing to Bibi Kaulan on hearing the praise of the Gurus from her and said, "I do not want that you recite the verses of these infidels even unintentionally." Between her sobs Bibi Kaulan said, "You may beat me to death but I cannot live without reciting these verses."

Qazi Rustam Khan went and asked other Qazis, "Kaulan persists with reciting the verses of the infidels inspite of my beating. What remedy shoul be adopted? They said, "It is a great sin for the Momins (believers of Islam) to praise the infidels and recite their word. Kaulan should be beheaded for this sin." When Saint Mian Mir heard about the decree of beheading of Bibi Kaulan, he sent her to the Guru's institution at Amritsar through Abdul Yaar Shah where the homeless were protected. Guru Hargobind made arrangement for separate accommodation for Bibi Kaulan. She had no fear at Amritsar of being killed by the order of the Qazis. To immortalize the memory of Bibi Kaulan's resolve to remain firm on her words, the Guru constructed a pool named Kaulsar in 1627 A.D. Bibi Kaulan died at Kartarpur in 1630 A.D

Excerpts taken from this book.

Article Written by

Sardar Santokh Singh Jagdev

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