Bhatri Sikh

[Heera Singh]

if worst comes to worst... leave home... i sure some bhenji around where ya live would be able to help ya out (even take u into their home)... some parents are whack... don't ruin ur life because ur afraid of ur rents... think bout it.. i's the REST OF UR FREAKIN LIFE... i's YOURS, nobody else.. in this situation, ur rents don't seem like the 'compromising' type, where u can talk to dem or get through to dem... if it comes to a situation where u either get married or leave home, me think the smart solution would be to leave home... dun hesitate to contact sum1 in ur area... n dun be afraid to stand up for yaself...

[chandanjit kaur]

Gurfateh

i honestly agree.....i think you should like leave the house or something and get help from some older singhs or singhnees.....i don't get why you wouldn't be able to run away...and like everyone keeps asking where are you from?

Gurfateh

[Sat1176]

I don't think you should run away from home. I know this is a difficult situation but leaving/running away from home is not the solution.

Try and find some family, relatives or friends to help you in your local area....

I know everyone is feeling really sorry for this girl, myself included, but lets not start offering silly advice.

[Jaspaul Singh]

leaving home in this situation SHOULD be a solution but at the LAST RESORT!

I totally stand by this advice ..

Try everything else..

talk to them ..

talk to your other family ..

get others involved that would help convince your family/parents..

..and all else fails consider this option of moving out unless this is what you wana be like .. in the same shoes as your sisters.. for the REST OF YOUR LIFE !!!

like someone else said here.. im sure there will be someone for sure to help you in your area.. btw i dun think you mentioned which area you are in!

anyway best of luck ..

[Simran9]

REBEL :bringitondude

its your life, and parents are not ALWAYS right about everything. Talk to them, try your best to make them understand. Get a close friend involved or your sisters, cousins and relatives who will take your side. Without education, you can not get a decent job, have good income, and all the rest that comes with money. Conveniently disappear when its time for your flight to India and stay at a safe location (friend or relative's house). If its gets to the wedding day, simply refuse to take the laavan. Make a scene. Surely then groom's family will call it off after the bride is causing so much delay. If you are in the UK there is a Sikh Helpline. Seek help.

Best of luck to you!

[Revolutionary]

Penji tell us which city you're from..

If by chance you're form my city, I know some bhatri penjis too.. and we will try to help u as much as poss.

For every1 else: Bhatra = a caste.

[Khalsa_Girl_1]

yo penji...

you from india or some other place??

cuz if you from like canada or something..

whatever youre goin through, would be against the law

so....let us know where youre from please.

[Singh With Dunalli]

If she doesn't want to reveal her location, that's okay. She has our support, advice, and suggestion. She is not a child, she will figure something out. Akal Purakh is with her, Kalgidhar Patshah is with her, and countless other Gursikhs. :TH:

[chandanjit kaur]

um...she's only 15 :D and well engagment at 15.....she still a child for that :umm: no? buh yeah i agree wit veeerji....guru sahib is with you panji :wub: and my ardas is wit ju too :wub: vaheguru

[Guest Bhatri Sikh]

I'm from nottingham. And have to go to my friends house regularly to access this website so sorry didnt reply back to the suggestions my brothers and sisters gave. I've tried to get my friends family involved in this matter but cannot get anywhere as we are different castes my paretns think my friends family are just out of their brains etc... and dont know about any traditions which I found hard. I would like to say that my friend and her sisters are regular sikhsangat users but however would like to keep them anonymous too.

The freshy boy from india that my parents that are going to get me engaged to is someone from the south of england.

I cant express myself to my parents. Like I said I got my friend and her sisters involved in this and my parents wont agree to them.

I've totally lost hope now.