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this is embarrasing, but something which is on my mind alot!! I like putting shabads on (sky radio) during the night, I often sleep with them on and wake up to them... now the embarrasing bit... is it bad to be cuddled upto my husband, to kiss him or do anything whilst these are on?? I feel bad switching over if my husband decides to cuddle me throughout the night... I sometimes ask him not to touch me, but surley we're married in the eyes of god and are antitled to hug , shabds on or not...god is always around us..what do you all think???

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why be embarrased? You are living a Grishti jeevan and such questions are as valid as any others on here.

It is the thought of God that matter, that is where your mind is. Should one stop thinking about God while procreating? Isn't the act of sex also a part of your Grishti jeevan? Why can't you be affectionate towards your husband while listening to Gurbani...i think this is the most wonderful way. Where Love and God are both present between 2 individuals. Are you not asked to remember God doing your daily activites or living throught your Grishti jeevan. It is asked of you to remember him every moment...then why should this act be excluded? There is nothing taboo about it, it is a part of your living as a householder and it is most wonderful that God is on your mind even through sharing such affection. In my view if God is on your mind throught this act, then the act itself is of purity.

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Thank you Pheena... I hear what you are saying... as I was growing up my mother always said to say ''waheguru'' at every possible moment, and I do, when I sneeze, when I laugh at something so much, when I cry, when I just feel like it!! I do feel strange when we have kirtan on whilst hugging, saying that like I said before, I also feel like god is everywhere....but still leaves me feeling strange, iykwim??!!

I usually ask my mum questions on sikhi, but don't think i'll ask this one, my mum's my best friend, and although she'd happily answer I wouldn't know which words to ask with!!

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I humbly disagree with Pheena's post and I do not think it is respectful to be doing those types of things whilst having Bani on. I think the fact that you are uncomfortable (as I and most people would be) is a sign that it might not be the right thing to do. Just as it wouldn't be acceptable to do those types of things in Guru Ji's Hazoori (ie. in the Gurdwara, or if you have Maharaj's Parkash at home), I personally don't see it as right to do intimate things with Paath or Keertan playing.

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OMG...I'm even more embarrased now... I thought this was anonymous!!! Brilliant, now my name's come up!!!

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Now that cat is out of the bag penji, for future references, Gupt section is only gupt if you first log out of your account and then post in the Gupt section. If you remained logged into ur account then the posts will apear under your id regardless of where its posted.

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