Bad Attitude

[Guest nameless]

My parents tell me that i have a really bad attitude and mouth off a lot...even though I don't think i do. I almost think they're tha ones that have the problem, not me...

...what do I do.........?

[Pheena]

We at times do feel that the problem is with the other and not me and it is difficult to accept our own shortcomings. But be concious of what you speak, and when you say it. Do not let the mind control your tounge at will.

If it is not you, instead you feel that your parents are the problem, then ask yourself why would they point this out to you? Do they have something against you? What is their intention? Why is it that they are the only ones that see this problem? Ask yourself these questions with Honesty if you wish to correct this misunderstanding or problem.

If you find that it is indeed it is you who is at fault then make steps to correct the issues. Meditate, do Simran/jap, do Yoga, Pray........ Be concoiuos of what you speak, be aware of what comes out of your mouth, be aware of your emotions taking over. Be AWARE!!!!!

[Sahiba]

My parents tell me that i have a really bad attitude and mouth off a lot...even though I don't think i do. I almost think they're tha ones that have the problem, not me...

...what do I do.........?

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:lol: It's so easy to find faults in other people, isn't it? You know what I've realized personally, with my relationship with my parents? There's a huuuuuuuuuuuuuge generation gap. This gap is WIDE, let me tell you. Some of the jokes we tell, the clothes we wear, the words we use, the things we do....it doesn't flow with parents. They might not understand it, or might take it the wrong way. Of course their reaction is to tell you that you have a bad attitude, and that you should change.

What do you do? Well, you can't rebel back at them, that'd just be proving their point. I would say you should be a little bit careful around them. Do you really mouth off in front of them? Because if you do, that you should stop...it is rude to use abseen language in front of parents - especially brown parents. And also tell them that next time they see you doing something rude or having bad attitude, to TELL you...that way it'd give you a chance to explain your ways.

mmm does that help? bhul chuk maaf jeeo

fateh :cool:

[Akaali]

Good advice Sahiba, I was gonna say the same thing about the generation gap, like when I joke with my parents they're like :lol: @ and I'm like

Or when they pronounce something that doesn't even sound like english, like almoonium (aluminum)

But, for your situation, I think you shouldn't use certain words that in our generation we think is ok but in their translation might seem offensive, so a careful choice of vocabulary is always good.