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Does an Amritdhari have to marry an Amritdhari - what if you cannot find an Amritdhari to marry, can you marry someone who is willing to take Amrit in the future after marriage?

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yep, amritdhari has to marry another amritdhari. hmm if you cannot find one, just stay freely single & enjoy life....or engage the help of gursikh elders ...and with regards to your 2nd question, you got to ensure that your partner has taken amrit before you marry him/her....as far as i know, there's no room for "willing to take amrit AFTER marriage"...my 2 cents.

P.S.: I feel one needn't fret over whether they can find someone to marry...one's sanjog was written on one's forehead when you were born...there's someone for everyone...so chill and don't worry...it's destiny...let it unfurl itself.

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Barik    0

i am talking about outer structure only here......

I Think amritdhari can marry a non-amritdhari, singh or singhani

only iff...

*a non-amritdhari have full faith on Waheguru akaal purakh...

*have full respect and "shardha" for dhan siri Guru granth sahib ji..

*have family values in it... as regards..respecting elders, loving others, truthful and all that......

As it's clarified by 1st father in japji sahib.

"Hukmi howan akaar"....."Hukmey andar sabh ko bahar hukam na koyei"ey chall".

So what ever is happening is under the control of Akap purakh parmatma and what are we facing is because of our "deeds" good or bad. By relating that to the context of marrige, If sabh kuch akal purakh dei hukam naal ho riha hie then ... who are you to say no to the marrige with non-amritdhari person. May be he/she is more internally blessed with waheguru's blessings. May be his/her time didn't come yet to get the blessings of amrit. May be waheguru has choosen you to change that person and to make him more closer to Gursikh because as guru sahib explains in one of his shabad, "Gurmukh gaddi raah chalanda....." look for this shabad and read the whole shabad and we will understand the meaning of Gursikh/Gurmukh. Often Waheguru doesn't come himself, he create a ways through some one to bless some one. So, again i can say that, "He" might have choosen you to change the other person and by living with you when he/she will see your gursikhi saroop inside out, he/she will also want to become like you. And if that person does take amrit then eis to wada kum ki ho sakda hie that you actually have inspired some one to take amrit.. But again evecrything is going under hukam of akal purakh. We are no one to say yes or no to anything. So if you end up marrying to non-amritdhari.. stay in waheguru's hukam.

May waheguru give us all better way to precieve in this world

Wadh ghat bolan layi khima da jachak haan..

Stay in Chardikala

Daas,

Barik

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Very sad to see how some people place priority marriage over Amrit.

Marriage is not based on short term infactuation (Kaam and Moh) which will, contrary to the "happily ever after" stories portrayed in western films and Bollywood, subside after years of marriage. Marriage is based on common principles, values, and a common goal in this life which is to meet with Akaal Purakh.

If the person you want to marry has this goal, and places Guru Sahib as most important in their life, they will take Amrit, and then get married. If Guru Sahib is not most important in their life, they will not take Amrit.

It is very plainly explained in the Amrit Sanchar, an Amritdhari who has marital relations with a non Amritdhari is no longer Amritdhari. He or she is a Kurehatee.

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Barik    0

where does it says.........

don't offer justopinions. show me the facts

thankyou.

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ms514    433

Sat Sri Akal:

Anand Karaj is a Sikh wedding ceremony. Therefore, it would be obvious to conclude that those participating in the ceremony would be Sikhs (aka. Amritdhari).

Also, if Guru Sahib stated that those who are really married are one soul in two beings, would not separate paths be roadblocks to this ideal state of being?

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Sat Sri Akal:

Anand Karaj is a Sikh wedding ceremony.  Therefore, it would be obvious to conclude that those participating in the ceremony would be Sikhs (aka. Amritdhari). 

Also, if Guru Sahib stated that those who are really married are one soul in two beings, would not separate paths be roadblocks to this ideal state of being?

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waheguru.................i think this is funny

Do you know who wrote anand karaj?????????????

our 4th Guru, dhan sri guru ramdas sahib ji in Raag Soohi..

And then there was charna amrit...... not khandey batey da amrit.........so you syaing anand karaj those who participating in anand karan would be sikh aka amritdhari do not make any justice in here.

Anand karan is basically making soul one through the 4 lawa where guru sahib show the right path how to live the life. It is not that just amritdhari can do anand karaj in Guru sahib's hajoori. So if that was the case then before our 10th guru..all the marriges were fake? even at the time of other guru sahib's?

Veerji think it for a second Anand karaj is not just a ceremony for marrige of two person oh vi amritdhari. It's beyond that.. i will try to post a topic about anand karaj soon.

khima jeo,

barik.

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Barik    0

it could have

but it's always new for new people like me. As i am reading it for the first time..

so it doesn't harm in discussing again with new people on aboard or does it?

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SSM    5

Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh

Barik I dont get u, an amritdhari is to marry an amritdhari according to the Pnj Pyare when one shaks amrit this is made very clear and to me it was made extremely clear, some of us may wanna shut our ears to that part.

But in Guru Ji's time when there was charan amrit that was still a form of amrit that everyone took if they wanted to be considered a proper sikh then, Guru Gobind Singh Ji knew that the human Gurus would come to an end and now it would be bani as our Guru and so now amrit is made with the recitation of Gurbani. So both amrits were amrit I think. Forgive if im wrong.

But also the rule according to the Panj Pyare is that one must not have jhooth of a non amritdhari so its a bit impossible to avoid that with ur partner unless ur planning to sleep on the floor blush.gif .

The rules are just that, the rules, hunna???

Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh

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Barik    0

well i have taken amrit "Akal Takhat" in Amritsar, 5nj pyarey never mentioed about marrying amritdhari with amrit dhari and i don't think it is even written in the rehat that amritdhari is going to marry another amritdhari peroid. Neither i have read in the history.. this is the first time i am hearing this.

khima jeo.

Barik

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Heera Singh    3

well.. the topic of JOOTH comes into play.... if u marry a non-amritdhari.. tha's fine... u just can't have any physical contact then... and its also YOUR responsibility to ask ur panj pyaray questions too.. they can't go over EVERYTHING with you.. and u know what.. if u have any questions... go ask any panj pyaray... if u get the hukam that ur allowed to marry a non-amritdhari.. then so be it... but don't be hypocritical and just go on ur own opinion... if u don't doubt that ur allowed to marry a non-amritdhari then u'll have no problem askin the panj pyaray... and that don't mean u have to ask the Akal Takht Panj... u can ask any panj pyaray... at any amrit sanchar ceremony... they're all the same..

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Sat Sri Akal:

Well, so goes the common sense approach. Here's something to ponder over:

38)Sir munae noo kanaiaa nahi daeni. Uos ghar daevni jithae Akal Purukh di sikhi ha, jo karzaai naa hovae, bhalae subhaa da hovae, bibaeki atae gyanvaan hovae - Do not given a daughter's hand to a clean shaven. Give her hand in a house where God's Sikhi exists, where the household is not in debt, is of a good nature, is disciplined and knowledgable.

( http://www.pure-panjab.net/hukams.htm )

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