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[Guest Sad_man]

Hello,, satsriakal, i found this forum looking for sikh things on google. Im very happy to see somethign like this for young sikhs. Let me explain abit about me, I am alot younger than most members here. I have loved sikhi from a young age , i keep kesh and i love reading many books to learn as much as i can. I really love our heritage.

Now my problem: Im generally very quite at my school i have only a few friends, but im happy with that because i dont want to keep bad sangat. I would love to be in company of gursikhs, thats why i go to many sikh youth groups and camps etc. but nones ever really taken any notice of me. I try to be as friendly as possibe,i dont know why but no one likes me, its quite saddening, saying hello now and then or even just saing how are you would be nice, but no one cares about the guy standing there by himself. What is it, am i really such a bad guy that everyone wants to stay 10 feet away from me, what is this sense of sticking to your own groups , doesnt sikhi say to be welcoming to other sikhs.

[Heera Singh]

at the same time u should also take initative to join them in their activities, sports, games etc...

[SSM]

awww bro you have to say Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh or kidda as is preferred nowadays to get to know people. You have to smile at people or nod or whatever. Else people gona think you just being stuck up not socialising hunna?

Nothing wrong with being quiet, but just know when you have to talk, when you meet knew people you haev to talk so they know you want to talk hunna?

so now u know what to do next time, what u want them to ask u, why dont u ask them?

[JSingh]

welcome to the forum Sad_man ji.

I went through same situation in high school, cuz of several reasons, two were the main ones. The first was language, English. I know only three things: "Yes", "No", and "I don't know". If somebody asked me my name and I did not understand what I was being asked, guess wat would my anser be..........

I would suggest you to clear your mind from the thought that nobody cares for you if you are standing alone, nobody notices you, or nobody wants to talk to you, etc. etc. If you keep thinking too much inside stuff in your mind, you will be lost in your own thoughts and it will make you feel alone, sad, and uncomfortable. Try not to think anything when you go to school or any Sikh camps. Try to act free, don't care about people what they will think of you if you do this or that. If you want friends, start each day as a new, fresh day. Leave yesterday's thoughts to yesterday and dont let them bother your today, otherwise, you today will be just like yesterday.

so try to khush riha karo janaam, at least when you meet ppl, even when you are sad inside, . ho sakda ke eh baharli happiness ek din andar chali jaavey. who know.....

[Manleen Kaur]

Hello,, satsriakal, i found this forum looking for sikh things on google.  Im very happy to see somethign like this for young sikhs.  Let me explain abit about me,  I am alot younger than most members here.  I have loved sikhi from a young age , i keep kesh and i love reading many books to learn as much as i can.  I really love our heritage. 

Now my problem:  Im generally very quite at my school i have only a few friends, but im happy with that because i dont want to keep bad sangat.  I would love to be in company of gursikhs, thats why i go to many sikh youth groups and camps etc.  but nones ever really taken any notice of me. I try to be as friendly as possibe,i dont know why but no one likes me, its quite saddening, saying hello now and then or even just saing how are you would be nice, but no one cares about the guy standing there by himself.  What is it, am i really such a bad guy that everyone wants to stay 10 feet away from me, what is this sense of sticking to your own groups , doesnt sikhi say to be welcoming to other sikhs.

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Whaeguru ji ka khalsa, waheguru ji ki fateh!

Hey veeerji... hmm welll this is my opinion on ur problem..

I think you need to be able, to be 'approachable' i guess. Meaning, you need to make the effort youself to go and make friends. I used to be likeu.... but then i realized if you want the friends/gursikh company you should go up to them with a happy cheerful face and say wjkk wjkf proudly! im sure, one day you will make great friends. But one thing you should remeber is ... GURU JI SHOULD AND ALWAYS WILL BE YOUR ONLY TRU FRIEND! :doh:

[Guest Guest]

This forum is a great place to make some friends, so I think it would be great to join and make friends through here! :TH:

[Dalvir]

wjkk wjkf

Hunji, I would have to agree with Manleen Ji. Well actualyl everyone. It's up to you really. Would you like to talk to the Gursikhs of would you like to keep to yourself. As you have mentioned, you would like to talk to them. Nowadays, many people dont like to say "Hi" to anyone as they are "strangers" or something. So if you would like to meet anyone, you should go up to them and say Fateh:) That's my advice.... well not mine but its what the other members say as well:)

wjkk wjkf

[Ambrosia]

Fateh!!

Yeah, i know what your talking about. I used to be / still am, a bit of a seclusive person... It took a very long time for me to get around to socializing with people. And my jokes still suck, ask anyone. HAHAHAHAHA

BUT ---- You are very right to seek the GURSIKH company and not just random bozos. hehe. BUt you know, GURSIKHS will welcome you with big loving arms, if you present yourself to them. Say Waheguru Ji ka Khalsa!!!!!!!!! Waheguru ji ke Fateh!!!!!!!!!!!! :doh: :doh:

I used to sit at the back of the gurdwara all the time... cause i didnt feel like i fit in, and stuff. But Gursikhs i met told me - now, you go sit where everyone else is sitting now. Dont feel shy or uncomfortable. So, i force myself out of my comfort zone and did that. When i started to meet other sikhs, i was very nervous... what they might think of me... but you have to shut that brain off for some time and just go for it... Hello... how are you... my name is... and bla bla... then usual desis are good at asking questions to you... so the rest of the convo, dont worry about it. HAHA

anyway.... yeah... you have to force yourself out of your comfort zone and initiate contact yourself :doh: good luck!!

[Heera Singh]

yeh .. trus me... Ambrosia's jokes DO suck... .. hehehehe... i'm jus messin... bahahaha..