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Hello,

I am a having problems adjusting to family life with my mother-in-law. Have been married for 16 yrs and have 3 kids but still having problems with Her. anyone else experiencing problems. I just feel that I cannot be the person I am around her - feel intimidated by her. Also, feel guilty for feeling like this but just don't feel comfortable around her, mainly because of problems we had when we were first married.

Would love to hear form anyone out there with similar difficulties

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Preet

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I'm not married yet but I expect to be some tough times with family relations, I think it's a common problem and not just you. Everyone goes through this.... and well you just have to adjust.... if you feel you can not stand your in-laws anymore then simply move away and buy a house away from them lol, which most couples do nowadays to avoid these type of conflicts.

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I aint married but i hear so much about daughter in laws not getting on with their mother in law.

From stuff i ahve witnesed in my house i notice that the mother in law tries so hard for her son not to get close to his wife. In my families case it wern't jus the mother in law but also the daughter was trying to stop the wife from getting close to her husband.

I guess its just a case of not loosing the son. most mothers fear that once the son is married he will leave her an never ask of her again.So the best she can do is to make life hard for the wife to show that she is not number one but the mother.

I have to say i have alot of respect for you as you have taken 16 years of this but you just have to be strong an when she is there pretend she aint that'll make her feel uncomfortable an show her that what she is doing is having no effect on you at all. :TH:

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Dearest

I understand your situation.

This situation can be avoided if you have a good relationship with your husband. Maybe there is a lack of communication between you two. COMMUNICATION is the most important factor to be in a healthy relationship.

I suggest you to talk with your husband about this and tell him to open the door between you and the mother-in-law. Or have a decent heart to heart talk with your mother in law - be a friend instead of a daughter-in-law.

Otherwise just stay strong!

You need to make some changes before its too late, and when you say 16yrs you must have done something, but maybe not enough! Get the car moving by putting some petrol in it, otherwise it'll just remain stuck... if you won't its your own fault.

God Bless!

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Yeah, I aint married but if I feel awkward around people etc etc. I just straight up sit down and have a real talk with them gaal dil dee karda yan - talk from the heart. Majority of the time is just some misconceptions people have about eachother, and can be easily resolved etc.

Hardy Kaur : just a wicked line of baani I remembered.

guess its just a case of not loosing the son. most mothers fear that once the son is married he will leave her an never ask of her again.

jnnI jwnq suqu bfw hoqu hY ieqnw ku n jwnY ij idn idn AvD Gtqu hY ]

The mother thinks that her son is growing up; she does not understand that, day by day, his life is diminishing.

mor mor kir AiDk lwfu Dir pyKq hI jmrwau hsY [1]

Calling him, ""Mine, mine"", she fondles him lovingly, while the Messenger of Death looks on and laughs. ||1||

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