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My older brother is not the most intelligent of people, he didn't get good grades in school and dropped out of college. About a week ago he said he wanted to follow my steps and take Amrit. from a young age he has been reading japji and reharaas sahib but unfortunately he still hasn't changed his ways. I was hesitant with his new decision as I knew he couldn't keep the rehat and he would have to change the way he acts (loves to annoy people, enjoys fights, almost like a old Indian women). I told him to stop eating meat, wake up amritvela and recite panj baniya. Now when I went to tell my mum (who is unfortunately a radha somai) suggested that he takes naam from them as it is easier and he wouldn't need to follow such a strict rehat. TBH my whole family (including me) unfortunately knew that he wouldn't be able to keep the rehat but then again I thought that if dasam patshaah gives just a tiny bit of kirpa on a manukh they can do wonders. now one week later he told me that he wanted to "stop this rehat as jaap sahib is too hard to pronounce and its hard to wake up amritvela etc" I told him he can sit with me and we will do santhiya of the path together and whatever he finds hard just tell me and I will correct it for him, but he wasn't listening and now he's saying he wants to become a radha somai. he told my mum and she was like fine, I didn't want to say anything in front of my mum as it would have caused an argument but now when I was trying to explain to him not to go down that path and I was explaining about the shaheeds and what sant ji told us about him but he was getting all defensive saying "they are just teaching us about the soul and the same stuff they tell us in the gurdwara that's what they tell us there" (hes allreasy been to hains park in London where the baba comes every year to do his "parchar"). then he told me that he had been reading their books from my mums room and he was saying they use bani from guru granth sahib ji and us as Sikhs going against him makes us hypocrites. please advice me on how I can make him not go down that path. he dosent have a mind of his own and he tends to listen to other people a lot more. I seriously don't want him to drift away from sikhi (he still reads japji and reharaas sahib daily) and I fear that he will stop reading bani whatsoever. PLEASE HELP.