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  1. Im destroyed. I thought that my boyfriend loved me. He always showed me love and after a year he said he wanted to marry me, we were already thinking about our wedding. He said he wanted to have children with me and be a happy family. I have no father so this was so important to me. We were happy. I truly love him, l thought l was the luckiest girl in the world because we truly seemed to be in love with each other. I found my boyfriend in bed with another woman. I'm destroyed. l need help. My heart is totally broken. Please, help me. Sorry x my English. Im afraid that my heart will never be the same again. I feel like lve lost my heart and soul. I pray Vaheguroo who is my only real father husband bestfriend and savior. But lm afraid to loose my mind. It hurts too so much that lve thought about death.
  2. Love someone

    I m going through hard situation. I love a guy and he loves me too unconditionally. I want to marry him . Unfortunately my parents are not accepting just because he does not have the "status" my family has. Though he earns well and has a pure soul. More important thing is we have great understanding. With him, I feel more close to that Almighty. I know we will be happy together. I don't know how to convince my parents. I really have faith in waheguru. I m praying continously and reciting gurbani . I m kind to everyone. Sometimes I really feel negative about whole situation . I want him in my life and want my parents to be happy for us. What to do?
  3. SSA, I am a 30 year old sikh man. Married a few years back to my loving wife Wanted to know is contraceptive use unnatural in sikhism? Since it doesn't lead to childbirth . I know adultery is prohibited and is sin but is having contraception sex with your wife a sin too?
  4. Fallen for a gursikh

    I've been married for years. My husband and I were blessed with Amrit and have children. Our relationship isn't bad but it's never been what I've wanted. There was always somthing missing. And by accident I've met somone, a gursikh who's so bless and in turn knows the consequences of a forbidden love . and I think I've fallen in love and they feel the same. What can I do. I don't want to live if I can't live with him. This is more than infatuation. The way I feel... I'd take the churasee lakh smiling in hopes we can be each other's in another life.
  5. My husband is Amritdhaari Sikh and he is divorcing me after domestic violence and abuse .i still believed that my husband loved me I can't let go of the feeling of love towards him My husband is Amritdhaari Sikh and he is divorcing me after domestic violence and abuse and making false criminal charges on me just after 6 months of our marriage.. I was married here and came from India and was confined at home for 6 months..there were many daily instances of differential treatment with me and of abuse with me daily..i still believed that my husband loved me but after he put me through the most horrible situation, i still can't let go fo the feeling fo love towards him..everyone is saying I am saved by Waheguru but why do i still want to be with..i still want to talk to him once..i was thrown out of their house in a demeaning way and still i have feelings for him..why? What should i do...he has applied for divorce too and i dont want to divorce him..i love him truly and i have no one to go back to..my parents are not alive..am homeless in a foreign country..why did he do this to me after all this sikhi talk at his home and i was to take Amrit with him on this Baisakhi..why is this happening?
  6. Wanting to marry a muslim

    Hello, I am not sure if my previous post was successful but my name is Simran and I have fallen in love with a muslim man. I want to marry him but I'm unsure of the reaction I will receive when introducing a muslim man to my family. He is 24 and I am 23. I would really appreciate your views on an interfaith marriage, more specifically a sikh-muslim marriage, and any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you. Simran.
  7. I fell in love with a singhni about 5 months ago and I still have feelings for her but I have not told her about this nor do I want to carry out my love through actions to her such as going out as sikhi and maharaj tells us not to. Please tell me if this is wrong that I have these feelings and what should I do? (She The same age as me, goes to the same gurdwara, lives in my area, and thinks the same about me about going out and we both think going out and carrying out actions in love is wrong, but dont get confused i don't know if she feels the same)
  8. Fateh. Does this happen to everyone. I know whats right and wrong but still blindly do it. I know I'll go to hell for a kurehet but carry on. The first time I do it guilt takes over but then get used to it. Sometimes I tell myself not to think cus dwelling won't be a solution. I try justify the worst things to myself. I try switch my mind off just so im not upset but once I started something it's just easier to carry on. Somedays I struggle too much. If certain things hadn't happened id be fine. Events lead on to other things. Thats no excuse for me but reason and now it gets worse and I get worse. Message to people out there I mean this from the bottom of my heart, love yourself because then your world cannot crush. Love maharaj and anyone or anything in the way is an obstacle it's kaljug. I don't want any human except the really bad people to ever be in my situation. If you are upset try not to be reckless. People read gurbani daily and we should but the truth is that only when you face a difficulty will you realise where you stand spiritually. Is it bad somedays I get angry at God. We say 'karam asandra khet..' but what if the 'karam' was not your fault and someone else plays mind games. Lets not believe in blame as such but somebody else has been evil and used you physically mentally etc and that person has changed you. God must realise that. Thanks for reading. Sometimes I need to just need to see things in a different light. Am I totally in the wrong for getting corrupted and losing faith because of a huge gursikh who I thought was 'mr right' amd enjoyed hurting me. And is it normal to want revenge and hate and all that. Thank you.
  9. Love Or Lust Confused

    i had a crush on a girl but problem is that I am not sure weather i really love her. what to do i don't undetstand.
  10. The Girl I Love

    There is a girl that i believe i truly love. I have tried not to love her, for the sake of not becoming attached, but i cannot stop my love for her. She is a christian girl and she is the perfect one for me. But i have taken a hukamnama and Guru sahib says: Sorat'h, Third Mehla: Serving the True Guru, the divine melody wells up within, and one is blessed with wisdom and salvation. The True Name of the Lord comes to abide in the mind, and through the Name, one merges in the Name. ||1|| Without the True Guru, the whole world is insane. The blind, self-willed manmukhs do not realize the Word of the Shabad; they are deluded by false doubts. ||Pause|| The three-faced Maya had led them astray in doubt, and they are snared by the noose of egotism. Birth and death hang over their heads, and being reborn from the womb, they suffer in pain. ||2|| The three qualities permeate the whole world; acting in ego, it loses its honor. But one who becomes Gurmukh comes to realize the fourth state of celestial bliss; he finds peace through the Name of the Lord. ||3|| The three qualities are all Yours, O Lord; You Yourself created them. Whatever You do, comes to pass. O Nanak, through the Lord's Name, one is emancipated; through the Shabad, he is rid of egotism. ||4||12|| I do not know what to do but please help me friends!!
  11. ਗੁਰ ਪਰਸਾਦੀ ਮਨੁ ਭਇਆ ਨਿਰਮਲੁ ਜਿਨਾ ਭਾਣਾ ਭਾਵਏ ॥ गुर परसादी मनु भइआ निरमलु जिना भाणा भावए ॥ Gur parsādī man bẖa▫i▫ā nirmal jinā bẖāṇā bẖāv▫e. By Guru's grace, Immaculate becomes the mind of those, to whom the Lord's will is agreeable. ਕਹੈ ਨਾਨਕੁ ਜਿਸੁ ਦੇਹਿ ਪਿਆਰੇ ਸੋਈ ਜਨੁ ਪਾਵਏ ॥੮॥ कहै नानकु जिसु देहि पिआरे सोई जनु पावए ॥८॥ Kahai Nānak jis ḏėh pi▫āre so▫ī jan pāv▫e. ||8|| Says Nanak, O Love; that person alone obtains bliss whom Thou give. SGGS Ang 918 ?? Dhan Dhan Guru Amardas ji
  12. Merging Back Into God

    Merging back into God is the story for every soul, No matter what she is experiencingin life. She will merge back into God whether it be today or tomorrow. This is the way it was written by her Husband Lord. Instagram : Gurpal_1
  13. WJKK WJKF I'm going to be talking about a very sensitive topic so please bear with me, I don't think there's anyone else that I can talk to about this issue. So I met a girl a few months ago and we became best friends, and soon enough we realized that we are both in love with each other and want to get married, which is great. However, the issue is the mistake(s) she has made in her past. She had a boyfriend with whom she was in a living relationship with, although she's living in a foreign country, she belongs to strict Sikh family from India, so she hasn't told anyone else about her previous relationship except me. She cries sometimes because of her mistakes and also tells me that she's not worthy of me and that I deserve/can find someone better than her. She also says that she will be the "..luckiest girl in the world" if we get married. She told me that she can't handle another heart break, that she doesn't want her dreams to be broken again. I get really angry, sad, upset, worried. .. about her past sometimes, simply because I have waited for her all my life and I expected the same, but what's done in the past cannot be undone, and she also has many regrets. She has also made some other mistakes in her past that I cannot discuss here.... Please don't get me wrong, but I do sometimes feel like 'getting even' by breaking up with her and marrying another girl; that has waited for me just as I have waited for her. It's just that I can't imagine the love of my life loosing her virginity to another guy and then to have 'done it' countless times with him, it upsets me and hurts me probably more than it hurts her. I still love her with all my heart and can't imagine my life without her. So I usually try to convince myself to think about the beautiful future we can have together. This is not something that I can share with my parents, because they will completely disagree with our marriage, so in a way I will also be lying to my parents by not telling them. I can tell that she loves me a lot. Her previous boyfriend took great advantage of her innocence and then walked away, got married to another girl. It was his idea to be in a "living relationship" in the first place and initially she refused, but eventually she gave in. So I'm crushed between love and her past now, I am really confused, I want to give her all the happiness in the world, but at the same time I feel that what she has done is wrong, and I shouldn't have to suffer for it. She cannot live without me and I can't live without her either. Please guide me, provide me with your views, I really need some help in order to make the right decision. .. . . I'll pray to Waheguru for all your help. Thank you. Bhul chuk maaf. WJKK WJKF
  14. Memories

    A poem I wrote. Sharing with the mighty sangat. Thank you. Memories Remember me in my memories, I feel no resemblance yet I stem from these. These parasites upon the land. Refusing to elevate, hand in hand. As the ocean melts into the sand, so I stand, on this path sword in hand. I battle my foes and share my prose and follow Your guiding light. I will send back the darkness and become Master of the night. These words are only possible, if I am One with Me. Otherwise there would be traits attached, of personality. This reality is so fickle that it trembles under my gaze. I am the essence that I feel, I am the receiver of my praise. I am the hole which I dig, a worthless snivelling pig. I am the butterfly upon escape, from the cocoon of its fate. I am the crocodile and the carcass that it eats. I am the carpenter, the protection on my feet. I stand alone sometimes, sometimes I stand with all. The only thing that is certain, with Me, I will never fall. Remember me in my memories, I feel no resemblance yet I stem from these. These parasites upon the land. Refusing to elevate, hand in hand. As the ocean melts into the sand, so I stand, on this path sword in hand. I battle my foes and share my prose and follow your guiding light. I will send back the darkness and become Master of the night.
  15. Dhan Sant Baba Isher Singh ji whom made Sant Baba Mann Singh Ji Pehowa Wale come into the light of God; they have founder over 50,000 Sikhs world wide including India, England, Canada, Australia, California ect. Showing so much dedication to seva and simran Sant Baba Mann Singh Ji have absorbed thousands of Sikhs into our lords sanctuary. They have also changed Pehowa humongously (they have killed the 5 choor {the 5 evil powers that destroy the path of light to god}vastly around their dhiraa). [however, as gossip and rumours and Kaljug is still spreading, it is impossible for people to realise how much shaktee or honour it is for us to actually have met Sant Ji Pehowa Wale. I have heard that people say "sant Baba Mann Singh Ji has been exposed" and this is a 100% so false! it's these individuals that have been corrupted with hells ambitions that they cannot seek love and truth] Sant Baba Isher Singh Ji (whom Sant Baba Mann Singh Ji absolutely adored) was one of the most remembered Sikh idols in history; as they persuaded minds of un-natural sinners to open up and see truth. Personally, if I had not bumped into this Mahaporak (Pehowa Wale Ji), I would be lurking in the pub down the street smoking and drinking ect... so much. I was so corrupted and dirty that it was not until God gave me the eyes to see compassion and humility of life which was clearly visualised in Sant Ji. It has been so honouring to meet up with Maharaj Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji and Sant Baba Mann Singh Ji that I have embedded gods wish and engaged people to help see the truth . I have explored up and down England and Canada to exfoliate Gods message and hope that I will find new generations to help guide truth into this world. Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ke Fateh !!! - #LOVE#GOD#4#EVER#DHAN SANT BABA ISHER SINGHJI#DHAN SANT BABA MANN SINGH JI#NEVERFORGET1984#DHANSRIGURUNANAKDEVJI#DHANSRIGURUGOBINDSINGHJI#WAHEGURU!!! Waheguru
  16. So as you can see from topic title, I am struggling between sikhism and christianity atm. I have raised in christian family and everytime I try to "connect" with guru I remember things from my past what father have said about other religions: "you will never find peace from any other religion, they are from satan..." etc.... It haunts me SO much. Only thing I "desire" in this life is Love and happiness, thats all. For example when I chant shabads I can almost feel the presence of guru, when im starting to feel gurus love and joy etc. That moment is ruined by my fathers thoughts what he have said to me.... "Other religions are from satan, only christianity will bring you true peace" - yet I havent felt anything spiritual in christianity..... even I have been in church countless times. How to get rid off past religious beliefs? how I am going to find happiness as sikh? It is so frustrating when I am doing even small amount of progress to my path of sikhism and then my fathers "seed of hate and hesitation" starts to affect in my mind. EDIT: My mind is also strongly haunted by my father "dreams from god". He once saw a dream where Jesus said to him that I am lost case - that my soul is condemned to hell aldready, for worshipping other/"false" gods (waheguru, krishna etc.) This is one of thought that I cant get rid off... ----- offtopic: I have also been struggling alot with Question "what is meaning of my life". I feel so useless and worthless. I have asked it and tried to find it trought many religious point of view but I still cant see it. I have heard and read alot meaning of life in "common" like live in peace and love etc.... but how I am able to live in peace and love, without getting peace and love from god himself? its imbossible to spread it if you dont have it.
  17. Bumping Into A Monah

    I've noticed a lot of people on this forum mentioning 'moneh Sikhs' and I understand the concern and worry that everyone has to bring them back to our beautiful sikhi saroop. Just happened to be I saw this story of Bhai Jeevan Singh ji, who brought back a monah to sikhi. The only method he used was total love and humility, maybe this is what we're lacking today ? THE STORY ( Its written as someone's experience, unfortunately not mine) :no: One evening, we had just finished doing keertan at Singh Sabha Slough. A singh phoned and said he had booked kirtan in Hounslow, and we should come straight away. Bhai sahib said lets go quickly, we should always be on time. As Bhai sahib, his singhni, myself and another youth walked downstairs into the joorian section. A mona was walking in the Gurdwara. He bumped into Bhai sahib. He said sorry, and looked in Bhai sahib face. Those who knows bhai sahib know how enigmatic his smile his, and how his face always shines. Bhai sahib said to him, I came here to especially see you, I have something for you. Bhai sahib took off his dastaar and handed it to him. The mona could not believe it was said to him with so much pyaar and humilty. From that day that mona kept his kesh and came into sikhi... :waheguru: In Guru Granth Sahib ji , Sheikh Fraid ji says - ਨਿਵਣੁ ਸੁ ਅਖਰੁ ਖਵਣੁ ਗੁਣੁ ਜਿਹਬਾ ਮਣੀਆ ਮੰਤੁ ॥ Humility is the word, forgiveness is the virtue, and sweet speech is the magic mantra so please forgive me for any mistakes I've made whilst posting this !! Bhul chuk maaf ji :smile2:
  18. I just found this GREAT song from snatam kaur listen this to the very end, it starts little bit boring. But the longer you listen - the better it sounds! best part starts at 3:11-> I can almost feel presence of guru ram das by listening this xd
  19. This will hit you hard ....but its about time , we living in developed world know where our dairy and meat comes from. http://www.pledgevegan.com/vegan-spotlight/gary-yourofsky-speech-why-you-should-become-vegan-full-transcript-version
  20. Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fathe I am a basic Sikh girl who has a strong typical Indian family, began speaking to a guy on fb, he was a amritdhari Sikh from india it slowly went on whatsapp and falling in love. The problem was that my family firstly would disagree to me talking to boys online and secondly they would never agree on me getting married to a boy from India who is from a different caste. Okay so my family found out and took my phone away and told me to stop and i have agreed to stop. I have begun to realise that i know i do love him but not as much as i thought i think its more that i enjoyed the feeling of having that loving relationship, so now i have learnt to divert my attention to maharaj as i have also had very unexpected close family deaths recently, so i understand that everything here is materialistic and will not stay. Also now that my phone has gone the main barrier between me and sikhi has gone because i did not have time for anything else as most my time use to be on my phone I now do my - 5 baaniya at amritvela -wear a kashera -do other paat in the day if i can -read saakhiya of Guru Nanak Dev ji (which help me incredibly) but sometimes i end up thinking about him and from my fiends account (who he knew also) i message him as if i am my friend telling him that i'm really upset and miss him (which i do badly at times),,, please can anyone suggest anything to help me stop please? Because im planning to be a amritdhari soon so i want to live a honest life with no secrets or lies ! Also i have another query, basically when i do paat i always feel that my mind somehow no matter how much i try to stop it starts to wonder. This even happens at Amritvela and as i want to be amritdahri i really want to be proper because i do have family who is amritdhari but do not live strictly to the rehat such as sometimes lack out on getting gurbani done (i know im not perfect either but saad-sangat ji please i really want to be as good as possible. I do not want people to look at me and think that im in chardikala and feel guilty, i want to be as i appear - a true gursikh ) One last question i just wanted to know that sometimes i do paat and feel happy that i am doing paat and it does have a positive effect on me so i try to be calm all day and kind and giving towards everyone. This mostly means i do all the household chores because i know i have time in which i can do them and whereas the rest of my family is busy working or doing something or another. I do feel happy that i do this and sometimes i think and feel as if im really good and that i think not a lot of other people would do what i am. I am worried in case i get haumai and egoistic ? Like maharaj ji says haumai will defeat all the purpose of doing sewa! So please Guru pyareo any tips ? Lastly i am a young Sikh girl and soon want to start tying a dummalla any really good videos of medium sized dummale pleaaaassssssssssseeeee??? THANK YOU SO MUCH. I hope Guru ji blesses each and every person as we say in the ardas "Nanak naam chardi kala tere bane sarbat da bhala " Waheguru ji :biggrin2:
  21. Hello all, first time I've ever posted anything but am a long time lurker. I was just wondering if my brothers and sisters here can help me out/give me some advice. I am a first year in university in the UK, I have met a girl who is 1st year in Uni also but in Australia. I am a Sikh from a Sikh Indian Punjabi household and she is agnostic and White. Now my question is what shall I do? I do not know what to tell anyone. I am a very private person and whilst my parents are not overly conservative I know what is "expected of me" ie nice Indian/Sikh/Punjabi kori and such. But honestly I do love this girl and she loves me, this is not some sort of immature/childish fantasy, I know what love is and regardless of anything else I do feel like we are soul mates. I am not interested in the sexual aspect of this relationship- that is immaterial to me, I love her as a person- that she is attractive is rather irrelevant to me. Now Sikhi teaches that once two souls are married they become one, that there is no Sikh/Hindu/Muslim/other that we are all on different paths to the same ultimate goal and as such her religion and mine is immaterial, isn't it? one should respect one's parents and I feel like I am being dishonest and disloyal by keeping such things from them. I am very conflicted, I would very much like to tell them but then I am also aware this could be received less than desirably and there is nothing I wouldn't do for this girl. Am I being a bad son? Am I being a bad Sikh? I would never even think about it but do I ask her to convert (this is strictly against my personal beliefs and against Sikhi, right?)
  22. https://m.facebook.com/events/160275090848184?notif_t=plan_user_joined&ref=m_notif&__user=100003697002561 - PLEASE ATTEND AND SHARE TO ALL YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS!!! DHAN DHAN DHAN DHAN MATA SAHIB KAUR JEE - OUR ETERNAL, BELOVED, TRUE, MOTHER
  23. Im not a follower of any religion. However my friend at work is a muslim- a girl recently started to work at the same company. The girl is a sikh and is madly in love with this guy. Now i know they should not get married due to their religion which isnt the same- obviously. Now that rakhi day came and he insisted to the girl to tie a rakhi on his hand. Its the brother sister thing day. She eventually tied it but shes still after this guy. Its a one way street- shes blinded by love. He sees her as a sister but she wants more. Its insane. Im here on this website for help and advice as to what to do with these two at work. Iv had a chat with the guy and hes ready to leave his job and move elsewhere. Its messed up! I know. But he cares alot for this girl and means no harm. Now what can i do to help. (Hockey stick or cricket bat) ok no jokes but help please
  24. Love- Oneness

    Love- Oneness Unity guramukh eaek dhrisatt kar dhaekhahu ghatt ghatt joth samoee jeeo ||2|| As Gurmukh, look upon all with the single eye of equality; in each and every heart, the Divine Light is contained. ||2|| Our society is separated by groups and more groups due to differentiation in belief but we live amongst the world where there are multiple differences. How can we live amongst all, if we cannot accept our own? Once we escape from our own and learn to understand to live with others, the concept of oneness within our panth will be so apparent. For this reason, the concept of loving and living with everyone will be further explained. Segregation is a flaw, we cannot find Vaheguru if our mind separates all by differences. We should achieve to love and respect everyone based on the goodness of who they are. We must always remember Vaheguru abides in every heart - so how can people be treated any different to us. As soon as differentiation exists, disrespect exists. We are automatically not only dividing ourselves from the world but from Vaheguru. hiaao n kaihee t(h)aahi maanak sabh amolavae ||129|| Do not break anyone's heart; these are all priceless jewels. ||129|| jae tho pireeaa dhee sik hiaao n t(h)aahae keheedhaa ||130|| If you desire your Beloved, then do not break anyone's heart. ||130|| It is thought many times that the people who do not abide in Guru Ji’s will are inferior to us and thus regard them as “manmukhs” in such a disrespectful manner, or in other terms we call corruption as “western culture”. But if they are manmukhs, what does that make us? Gurmukhs? No, gurmukh is a spiritual level and we remain manmukh until we reach that. Even as a Gursikh, it is from spiritual adherence to Guru Sahib that we become such that. If we see weakness in this world, it is not to be blamed on them but ourselves. We must redefine our moral thinking of what is wrong in society i.e. what would you regard far worse: someone’s harmless pleasurable desires or criminally vicious actions? Since within heart of our being Vaheguru’s light abides, humans are capable of understanding morality and having good judgement of right and wrong. No one is bad, and we should live to respect and love all regardless of our minor differences. With or without religion, everyone must be respected and should be put before ourselves. As our duty, we are a sacrifice to everyone. If one does not understand sikhi, it is not to say they are ignorant over us but that we should understand our ways are alien to theirs just as theirs may be to us. Putting aside our differences but aligning our sense of justice with the world, shall keep us united. And due to this good judgement, only if we prove that we are righteous and we behave and act for the good of everyone not just our kind, they will come to understand us. Our bravery, self-discipline, respect, tolerance, good speech is what marks us as good people in society. It is the qualities of our being that others will characterize us by. Outlook Corruptness lives amongst our mind when we do not understand and appreciate human life of another. Every life matters even if their life is not committed to Vaheguru. There is too much selfishness amongst our own where we only care for the betterment of our own kind and not for humanity. Friendship, loyalty and love are what evolved humans with better thinking and is what sikhs must always flourish in. Our judgement upon others should not be that they need to be Sikhs or follow our ways to be better people, but that everyone can do as they please as long as they do not harm another. The betterment of others is that everyone will live in their free mind without oppression but in happiness. Nothing and no one can prevent ones happiness. The key to progressing us to Vaheguru is to understand friendship and love and closeness amongst others. The more we lack understanding of being a loving person, the more our panth will be divided. If we separate ourselves from groups and understand the concept of love, the more we understand Vaheguru and become united. Vaheguru is above jathay, Vaheguru stays with everyone. Purpose Our meaning of who we are, what we do or how we look is never to say we are different to you or that I am better than you. It was never to say that we are separated and cannot live amongst “opposite” minds of us but to say we are here to serve you. Just as a police wears a uniform, it is to serve their purpose of being a hero- being the one who others know who to go to, who others know who are safe to approach and who others are aware they can be protected by. Remember that we live to unite with everyone and never to classify our ways better than theirs. There are so many different species, even across other Galaxies, universes- all are preserved and loved by Vaheguru. These are the thoughts and actions to take. har jeea sabhae prathipaaladhaa ghatt ghatt rameeaasoe || The Lord cherishes all beings. He permeates each and every heart. Our way of living and principles should be evolved around our spirituality and our spirituality is established by our meditation (on Vaheguru). It is the discipline and strength of our mind and the practice of virtues that make us wholesome and perfect. Mind leads to actions, so that is our root cause. The stronger our meditation and the more we practice virtues the better we become, and therefore more kindness and peace radiates. fareedhaa burae dhaa bhalaa kar gusaa man n hadtaae || Fareed, answer evil with goodness; do not fill your mind with anger. Our ways are becoming lost as more hate and more hate is spewing from us. We are forgetting that every action we take must never hinder or make our spirituality fall behind. One must not forget that if our name becomes threatening and aggressive, the true meaning of us will be lost and we can never be a saviour to another. One must also understand that it is human nature to always commit wrong actions. No matter what the slightest action is. Even as something as arguing, differentiating our mind amongst others, judging others actions etc is a sin within our mind. That doesn’t mean we cannot speak against injustice but it is just useless to blabber over something without any meaning but out of pleasure and ego of our mind. kabeer rorraa hooaa th kiaa bhaeiaa pa(n)thhee ko dhukh dhaee || Kabeer, what good would it be, to be a pebble? It would only hurt the traveller on the path. If a wrong action occurs we should always try to prevent it for our progression in spirituality and for the love and fear of Vaheguru. An example of a lifestyle which is living a way of life and strengthening the mind is Buddhism. A true Buddhist radiates peace and detachment and without bad judgement of others. Our way of living should be an understanding of reaching oneness with Vaheguru through meditation just as a Buddhist living is defined by their mediation. That is our way of living. Any other action or code of conduct we act upon encompasses that, but our goal of mediating on naam is our sole purpose. We should be known for that and our duty to serve everyone. Within ones mind, the act of terror and meaningless aggression should be far from one. In wrong actions, we must always remember that it is not only our own kind who we betray and regress but our Father who we disgrace. We represent our Father, Guru Gobind Singh, in every action we take. We must always be cautious and always present good conduct to everyone. One slightest mistake to the world goes against our teachings of our Father which was to spread unity and love. The thought of superiority is an illusion within our mind. Our destinies were carved out by Vaheguru, we never did anything. Vaheguru har saa preetham kar man meeth || Make the Beloved Lord your friend. We must understand the way to love Vaheguru should be the way we do to a friend, a brother, a sister, a mother, a father and a husband. To understand how to love is what will allow us to love Vaheguru. Although it is difficult to understand the concept and idea of love, it is something we must achieve and change our attitude in the world. We mustn’t forget that there can never be a perfect partner as there can be as Vaheguru- the definition of perfection. Vaheguru gave us everything, all our gifts. The love we receive is from Vaheguru alone. Vaheguru knows how to truly treat his bride as Vaheguru trully knows us- truly knows a bride. And there can never be such respect and love one can receive from Vaheguru from any other. Vaheguru is the most amazing kind husband, so full of compassion. Truthfully, everyone needs to be loved and cared but it is the thought of this that deceives someone into finding love on the outside. Going to others for the perfect true partner is not the easiest solution to our happiness, the easiest solution to love. The easiest solution is to find the one who has been listening to our cries, laughter and living through our journey right from the very beginning and will to the very end. And one must always remember that no one can ever love us the way Vaheguru can. It was decided from the very beginning that only Vaheguru can truly love us, humans can only try but it will never be to the extent that Vaheguru can. Vaheguru is not only the origin of us but the origin of everything within the universes and more, there can never be anyone more alive and real than him. A saachkhand being is not to be treated as something like a painting but as a close friend, someone who is captivated by love. The solution and our hope of love is Vaheguru. We can waste our lives again hoping to live with another partner, to believe in the illusion within our mind that they will give us never ending true happiness but there can be no one. They all depart without us. A true lover sticks with us forever and after death but humans are incapable of achieving the unachievable because they do not love us entirely as Vaheguru. Everything outside is within us and we must discover the true secrets of everything. Achieve our wondrous caring partner- Vaheguru and remain with him at all times.