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  1. Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! How to control wasting time on useless stuff and focus on building productivity in Gurmat or personal things? Sometimes, I genuinely feel like I could do something so much more; however, it all gets wasted away in stuff that I don't really need or think other people need, (this website being one example, where it just seems like debates and nobody really learns anything). Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh!
  2. WjkK WjkF Sangat ji, I wanted to know what happens to the soul when someone dies, does it stay to wonder through relative does it with draham raj? Answer with references to gurbani pls, as I have log conversations with some Singhs with lots of opinions.
  3. I came across a couple of unfortunate incidents in the news recently that served to get me thinking about issues that i suppose go to the heart of Sikh philosophy. We are instructed not to veer towards extremes; that the correct path is the balanced, considered middle way. Sikhi is as much a faith about standing up for oneself and battling for those who cannot defend themselves, as it is a faith that believes that love and kindness are essential traits if we are to live fruitful lives, and eventually merge with God. How does one decide which situation merits a particular approach? Some Sikhs would have us believe that the default position must always be the one of tolerance and kindness even in the face of the overwhelming likelihood of serious harm befalling the individual who refuses to be mindful of their own welfare, instead choosing to believe in the goodness of others even when the evidence points to the contrary. Is it the right option to "be good" but then suffer terribly as a consequence, or should we be selective with our charitable nature, and only be forthcoming dependent on the situation before us? Which way would bring us closer to God's graces? Here's two recent instances that got me thinking. All opinions welcome. http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2017/03/30/mother-son-die-triple-stabbing-home/ http://www.americanthinker.com/articles/2017/03/white_social_justice_warrior_dies_at_hands_of_black_killer_.html First: A wealthy family begin providing the local homeless with a roof over their heads by taking them into their own considerably plush home. Yesterday, allegedly, the latest homeless man who was lodging with them went on a rampage, and killed the mother and son of the family. The father was found stabbed and bleeding in the driveway. Second: A white social activist heavily involved in the liberal scene of upper middle class activism was robbed, stabbed, tortured, and murdered by a black man. She spent most of her days espousing on social media about the evils of whiteness, and that black society was a perpetual victim of the insidiousness of white America. She refused to accept that there could ever be bad apples in the black community. She met her end alone and in an utterly tragic manner. Edit: In the case of the American woman, i was initially reluctant to use a right-wing website as the source, but all other sites and reports neglected to mention her political views and opinions that she shared on social media. For some reason they only seemed to highlight her work as an artist but not her beliefs. A lot was glossed over or completely ignored in the case of the lady in question.
  4. I hope this doesn't sound strange or delusional to any one reading this. Maybe there are other people out there like me, who "know " things, or "see"things, without trying. I am a very spiritual person , who does not know how to read Gurbani, but deeply believes in the true Sikh way of life. I believe you should care for all human beings and try to help and show compassion for them. I was born in England, and raised in Canada. We used to attend the Gurdwara every weekend, when we were children, with my parents. I am an adult 47 year old woman now. I used to see auras in University. I didn't know what was happening, so I mentally blocked it , as it would take tremendous amounts of energy from me, and I needed to focus on my university studies( specializing in Political Science at the University of Toronto). After many years , I started noticing that I just "knew " things. Random things, such as who would be on the phone, before it rang, or very coincidental things of a very unbelievable nature, at times. I started to think I had some type of psychic ability. Now, I understand, its not psychic ability, but rather spirituality. Long story short, this weekend I was at the shopping mall with my 12 year old daughter, and when I turned back to look for her, I thought I saw an image of Guru Nanak Dev Ji on a Christmas poster. Then I turned away, and looked back again, and again I saw the same image , with Guru Nanak Dev Ji holding his hand up at me, with a halo around his head. The third time I looked back and saw my daughter, and I told her she might think this is weird, but I think I saw Guru Nanak Dev Ji. As soon as I told her, and looked back again, the image was gone. My daughter coincidentally believed me, as we've had many psychic type events happen to us, including my other 2 children. My daughter said she also saw Guru Nanak Dev Ji in the poster. Before we arrived at the mall, I had the thought of Guru Nanak Dev Ji flash across my mind. What does this mean, and is this real or possible? Has anyone else also experienced this? Outwardly I am not religious at all, but I am deeply spiritual inside, and everyday I pray to my 2 pictures of Guru Nanak dev Ji, and Guru Gobind Singh Ji, which are hung in my living room.
  5. I feel I can be close to God but I am very far off so I might be a Gurmukh in my next life? What can I do to be with Waheguru when I am destined for reincarnation?
  6. If you went to bed one night and the next morning you woke up as your old three year old self in your old bedroom when you were three years old but you had you same intelligence of your adult self plus the memories. If this happened and you had a chance to relive your life, would you relive it in the sense that you would make sure that you never made the same mistakes in the past plus doing things you regretted never doing?
  7. ਸੋਰਠਿ ਮਹਲਾ ੯ ॥ ਪ੍ਰੀਤਮ ਜਾਨਿ ਲੇਹੁ ਮਨ ਮਾਹੀ ॥ ਅਪਨੇ ਸੁਖ ਸਿਉ ਹੀ ਜਗੁ ਫਾਂਧਿਓ ਕੋ ਕਾਹੂ ਕੋ ਨਾਹੀ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥ ਸੁਖ ਮੈ ਆਨਿ ਬਹੁਤੁ ਮਿਲਿ ਬੈਠਤ ਰਹਤ ਚਹੂ ਦਿਸਿ ਘੇਰੈ ॥ ਬਿਪਤਿ ਪਰੀ ਸਭ ਹੀ ਸੰਗੁ ਛਾਡਿਤ ਕੋਊ ਨ ਆਵਤ ਨੇਰੈ ॥੧॥ ਘਰ ਕੀ ਨਾਰਿ ਬਹੁਤੁ ਹਿਤੁ ਜਾ ਸਿਉ ਸਦਾ ਰਹਤ ਸੰਗ ਲਾਗੀ ॥ ਜਬ ਹੀ ਹੰਸ ਤਜੀ ਇਹ ਕਾਂਇਆ ਪ੍ਰੇਤ ਪ੍ਰੇਤ ਕਰਿ ਭਾਗੀ ॥੨॥ ਇਹ ਬਿਧਿ ਕੋ ਬਿਉਹਾਰੁ ਬਨਿਓ ਹੈ ਜਾ ਸਿਉ ਨੇਹੁ ਲਗਾਇਓ ॥ ਅੰਤ ਬਾਰ ਨਾਨਕ ਬਿਨੁ ਹਰਿ ਜੀ ਕੋਊ ਕਾਮਿ ਨ ਆਇਓ ॥੩॥੧੨॥੧੩੯॥ Sorat'h, Ninth Mehl: O dear friend, know this in your mind. The world is entangled in its own pleasures; no one is for anyone else. ||1||Pause|| In good times, many come and sit together, surrounding you on all four sides. But when hard times come, they all leave, and no one comes near you. ||1|| Your wife, whom you love so much, and who has remained ever attached to you, Runs away crying, ""Ghost! Ghost!"", as soon as the swan-soul leaves this body. ||2|| This is the way they act - those whom we love so much. At the very last moment, O Nanak, no one is any use at all, except the Dear Lord. ||3||12||139||
  8. Why was i created without my approval? What if i didnt want to come here? Why was i forced into the life and death cycle? Why do i now have to worship god to escape this cycle? This sounds like a dictatorship
  9. what to do when your life and its plans all go down the drain..and everything seems to be falling apart is god doing it for the better or is it punishment how can you stop everything spiral out of control ............
  10. Waheguru ji ka khalsa!Waheguru ji ki fateh! Sadha sangat ji...i m vry much depression....i amritdhari girl .... Mine was a love marriage.....as my parents are asked marrying me with a amritdhari and against me to take amrit.....so i married a long distance frnd in fb.......my husbands parent was also against our mrg as according to them he is much handsome smart heighted than me........but his son doesn't listen to parents and agree them to marry me. After mrg father in law get hospitalized and all responsibility was under my shoulder.......b4 mrg i haven't done work...they started finding mistakes and laugh at me.......they do comments like amrit chakne nal kuch ni honda ghar safhai rakhani chahidi..............oh ladkiya batamiz hondi jedi sewa ni kardi.. and so on........... I don't want to live with them, but if i will say i want to buy home and leave with my husband......they will again enzam on me....kida di nu etc etc But what i will do as amritdhari i should not hate anyone......but i hate them as they laugh at my mistakes.....saas do toka taki alot.... how i ignore them and live with them? mann ni karda ohna nal gal karan da plz help
  11. How does karma effect the pain we will go through in our lifetimes? If one experiences a lot of physical pain and emotional pain in their lives does that mean that they have a lot of bad karma?
  12. Hi, I've seen a few topics around about people being depressed and I realise a lot more people may feel like that too but don't want to talk about it. If you have anything you want to talk about that's on your mind that's got you feeling depressed or worried post it and I and hopefully other people will try to give you advice. You're not alone, we are Sikhs and we look out for one another. Peace
  13. What if I say that I don't want anything not even my soul to exist in any form and wants to die.i just want to quit this is too much difficulty and weird for me I mean 84lakh just for one human life.we are already in a hell.Also it's too difficult to reach god.I am ok with one single life and after that a complete death but instead I am stuck here forever.I wish my soul never existed in first place
  14. I've heard that death is pre-destined. And I've also heard that one can increase one's years of life by yoga which many did according to our history. They simply slowed down their breathing and thus lead a longer life. Is this true? Does this mean that life is actually dependent upon number of breaths and if so time does not play a big part since it's up to you to decide how long you want to take to breathe each breath. Are there any quotes in Guru Granth Sahib ji on the matter? Thank you
  15. I mean we don't remember anything in afterlife.Also being animals doesn't look bad to me.Wild animals looks more happier than some humans also nothing to worry about if you are just a small virus.We probably wasted billions of lives so why not another one.
  16. I remember when I was in school I had awful days, my best days were in primary. in secondary my mum used to make me do a plait.. I had long hair lol and still do! but anyways i used to go to school and yh the boys in my class used to call me hairy!!! when really there were 2 Muslim girls who had the most bushiest eyebrows and sideburns!!!!!!! my school was a mixture of races.. white, black, Sikh, Hindu but majority Muslim. the Sikh boys were a disgrace and most of the girls were slags. they used to drink, do shisha, smoke, do weed etc etc.. don't get me wrong i had friends but my school had the fakest of people and their were backstabbers and sh** , anyhow when i left school I've never looked back, there some people i stay in contact with others can kiss my hdbfedkwek LOOOL, when i see them on the streets i don't bother! im a friendly person and that but with them nah ah. i was the only one i positively grantee that knew about the Sikh history. m not religious but i know about the singhs and sacrifices and etc etc.. what there is to know basically. there were times when i did wanna cut my hair but i always thought of my mum and dads izit.. (pride) and thought im a Sikh! and im not gonna cut my hair because of words cos that's easy defeat. BUT DRUMROLL.. THE FUNNY THING IS, MY SISTER HAS A RISTAAA AND MY JIJA TO BE HAS A COSUIN THAT BULLIED ME! basically my brother's know and they told my dad, I told my mum and sister but they didn't wanna know! and told me to keep quiet cos it was time ago but I just wanted an apology as he comes to my house! and yh.. um my brothers told my dad and my dad had a word with me and etc which was cool cos I felt as if it was off my chest, he spoke with the boys father but the boy just said it wasn't just him it there were other people involved and he don't wanna apolgise and also the boys dad said why didn't she come out with it before! which I understand but I told my father that yearh there where other boys but there not coming into the family whereas he kind if is cos my jijas asal family is in india and he lives with his mami and mama and cousins ( which is the boy) I used to say <banned word filter activated> to him don't get me wrong but he ( and the others) were constant and I just learnt to ignore it but cos his my jijas cousin and practically the only family my jija has here I wanted an aplogy so we could start fresh kind of... anyhow they tried to make it out as if the rishta was broke but it wasn't! and then my dad had a go and me trying to blame me and my brothers stood up for me. but yh I don't know what to do? like I want him to really suffer my brothers said they would of beat'd him but cos his family of family they cant. ALSO I had this incident with a boy ( just swapping numbers and chatting!!!!!!!! ) but it got twisted so badly! its been time but urm I remember my dad fought he touched me when he didn't and I wouldn't if let that happen with any boy or anyone for that fact! but yh I remember my dad wanting me to go to the doctors and have tests and <banned word filter activated> and I think my dad fought I had sex which I havnt and i would never unless im married! but yh me and my dad are back to normal but I can seem to forget that or forgive him for that I feel disgraced that he fought that ... AND i got hate for my sister cos when i told her about the bullying she didn't give a toss, or my mum. so my sister could of easily talked to her fiancée and what not ! im depressed in the sense of all this and to make things worst they took my phone away and im not aloud to go link with mates or go out on my ones. i felt like running away or even commiting... :'(
  17. My pagh taddi, 0 fikkar, still at uni Tell me about your wisdom
  18. I have been grappling a problem in my brain for the past 2 days. I have lost all interest in doing anything, whatès the point of doing anything in life, if there really is no way it is going to remain, or if the whole point of life is to remember god. Why did god create us in the first place..
  19. Few days back.... I got one question in my mind How does a person react if he is growing in spirituality... that is for sure that with reciting the name you are enhancing your spiritual power, but how can you judge it. I feel changes in myself a lot many times and I even feel relaxed and satisfied with my self.. a kind of peace is developing... Is it this, the sign of Spiritual growth? and yes i feel more relaxed while doing simran as compared to doing path.. this happened few days back.. Can anyone help me out to understand this situation?
  20. The writer Giani Pritam Singh ji Mastana studied in a Missionary college and was a firm missionary. He was strictly against Sant mahapursh especially against Nanaksar. But in this book he explains how he got surrendered himself to Sant Isher Singh ji Kalerawale. Every time he would visit nanaksar to argue with Sant ji but his missionary logical arguments would vanish without Sant ji even utterring a word to him. It was just the way Sant ji used to look at him and he used to feel ashamed and guilty. And all this would happen without any conversation. The book answers all the questions that missionaries put against sikhi and sants. http://jsks.biz/ishwar-darshan-giani-pritam-singh-ji-mastana A must read. A very very beautiful book, full of love. Unfortunately, the book is not available in pdf form to download online. Please do buy.
  21. Im only 17 and my parents are looking at rishta for me already..well people keep phoning and arsking for me its annoying. another thing is these people want to get there sons/grandsons or whatever married in the next year..so that means when im 18 basically. i keep on telling my family its too early to think about marriage as i want to focus on my career and live lifee...not make rotis and settle down and overthink what i could of done its very annoying as my family dont consider that..and say just loook...but once you look more goes into the matter. i feel like running away man..like i dont get along with my mum..she P****s ME off big time and my bro just wants me out the house so he can have the house to himself lol, he dont care about nothing. what i look for in a rishta is that click when you set eyes on eachother first, although i'd be shy to look straight to his eyes BUT also personality, goals..ambitions, if his reliable and looks..kind of but his personality should overshine that and his relaibility. i dont know if im being selfish..but my bro is older then me so they really should consider doing his first also i hate the age gaps. for me i'd personally choose 2-3 yrs but not 5-6.. which my parents are considering cos they have that age gap between them but then again that was there decadeee!!! i heard the bigger the age gap the better but i dont know.. if you know why that is please state. In my head i work it out as if i was in school again aha me being in yr7 and they'd being in yr 12 YUCK!!! also i dont want to go far but my parents are like the futher the better for you :| LOL! my dad is unwell.. but like i guess if i keep thinking that and force myself into marriage and it doesnt work out that be my excuse which is petty.
  22. waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh now i am middle of my path of spirituality....means i think i am going in dhandikala i sometimes when listen to katha & jeevanis of mahapurakhs and chardi kala gursikhs and their kamies then i dont know what happens to me i think they used to jap for 22hours a day and i am nothhing , i am not progressing not getting any clues you kow what i mean to say...i am getting alienated with my friends..i mean like before 2 years i was not the same person that i am now ......i think i have completly changed........now when my friends call me i dont get along with them as i used to.... i mean for instance today as because our exams of 12th got 2 months ago and so also jee so we all are enjoying this free time my all friends thought of playing cricket and do gossip afterwards and u know the normal gossips of teens and their central point...........u know the things which i used to think as normal before now i feel them as trash and gross......... and they say i am not same jasdeep ...............from this my mann just becomes i dont know which feeling exactly but something between sad and deprssed..when i do some path for that moment i mind is ok...otherwise i am think that my situation is like lok gayio parlok gavaio .............. :( i know that jag rachna sab choot hai but yet again one has to live in a society...........
  23. ਬਾਵਰੇ ਤੈ ਗਿਆਨ ਬੀਚਾਰੁ ਨ ਪਾਇਆ ॥ ਬਿਰਥਾ ਜਨਮੁ ਗਵਾਇਆ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥ ਸੂਹੀ ਕਬੀਰ ਜੀ ॥ Soohee, Kabeer Jee: ਥਰਹਰ ਕੰਪੈ ਬਾਲਾ ਜੀਉ ॥ Thharehar Kanpai Baalaa Jeeo || My innocent soul trembles and shakes. ਨਾ ਜਾਨਉ ਕਿਆ ਕਰਸੀ ਪੀਉ ॥੧॥ Naa Jaano Kiaa Karasee Peeo ||1|| I do not know how my Husband Lord will deal with me. ||1|| ਰੈਨਿ ਗਈ ਮਤ ਦਿਨੁ ਭੀ ਜਾਇ ॥ Rain Gee Math Dhin Bhee Jaae || The night of my youth has passed away; will the day of old age also pass away? ਭਵਰ ਗਏ ਬਗ ਬੈਠੇ ਆਇ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥ Bhavar Geae Bag Baithae Aae ||1|| Rehaao || My dark hairs, like bumble bees, have gone away, and grey hairs, like cranes, have settled upon my head. ||1||Pause|| ਕਾਚੈ ਕਰਵੈ ਰਹੈ ਨ ਪਾਨੀ ॥ Kaachai Karavai Rehai N Paanee || Water does not remain in the unbaked clay pot; ਹੰਸੁ ਚਲਿਆ ਕਾਇਆ ਕੁਮਲਾਨੀ ॥੨॥ Hans Chaliaa Kaaeiaa Kumalaanee ||2|| When the soul-swan departs, the body withers away. ||2|| ਕੁਆਰ ਕੰਨਿਆ ਜੈਸੇ ਕਰਤ ਸੀਗਾਰਾ ॥ Kuaar Kanniaa Jaisae Karath Seegaaraa || I decorate myself like a young virgin; ਕਿਉ ਰਲੀਆ ਮਾਨੈ ਬਾਝੁ ਭਤਾਰਾ ॥੩॥ Kio Raleeaa Maanai Baajh Bhathaaraa ||3|| But how can I enjoy pleasures, without my Husband Lord? ||3|| ਕਾਗ ਉਡਾਵਤ ਭੁਜਾ ਪਿਰਾਨੀ ॥ Kaag Ouddaavath Bhujaa Piraanee || My arm is tired, driving away the crows. ਕਹਿ ਕਬੀਰ ਇਹ ਕਥਾ ਸਿਰਾਨੀ ॥੪॥੨॥ Kehi Kabeer Eih Kathhaa Siraanee ||4||2|| Says Kabeer, this is the way the story of my life ends. ||4||2|| Pg 792
  24. If so how? ..... How do you personally react around people who dress a bit lazy (e.g. sweat pants, patka) compared to someone dressed a bit more professionally (e.g. suit, tie, damalla)?
  25. I have been feeling this way and I need to get it out of my chest. To start off, I'm a 20 year old girl who's recently just started loving my religion, Sikhi. I had to experience a major downlow in my life for me to have my eyes truly opened and get my head out of this life, all this illusion..However, I did make mistakes in my past which I took self-pity for over 1.5 years and then I realized "that's it..I can't sit here and be sad anymore, Guru Sahib has already forgiven me". I am now starting to understand that my past actions are in the past - and whatever I have done wrong (which btw were A LOT OF THINGS!) ..I have to simply let go. Now, I read a few posts on here about people that went the same wrong path as me and realized how badly they messed up and were asking for forgiveness. However, I came across RUDE people that told them "oh well, you should've known better" or "Well, thats what you get by doing that, or doing this", etc etc etc...The list goes on. I just want to let everyone know - and I mean EVERYONE - cause I know all of you have made mistakes..that it is okay to make mistakes. Some are bigger than others, but as long as YOU can feel it in your whole body and soul that you were wrong and you ask with a pure heart for an apology to God...he has already forgiven you my friend <3 The hardest part is not too get forgiveness from babaji (because let me reassure you that he already has forgiven you), sometimes it's about forgiving ourselves for what we have done. It is not easy to let go of our past mistakes and the past can be such a heavy burden to hold on too every day of our lives but I realized that life is just that - life. Don't take it too seriously...you're here for ONE thing and that is to go back home. Your time is NOW - not the past, not the future but right here, right NOW. If you can truly feel your unconditional love for God NOW then nothing else matters. Do good things NOW - don't repeat your mistakes NOW - Love God NOW...it's all about right now (hopefully, i've said now enough to make you guys understand hahaha) I just made this post because I know a lot of you are seeking some kind of comfort from your past..or something "bad" you did yesterday. No one else is gonna give you comfort besides our guru sahib <3 you have to feel the love flowing in your body for him and that is how you know your life is slowly changing..Go recite some bani, spend some 'alone' time with babaji, etc.. All I know is I'm not the same girl I used to be a year ago. Living in a westernized society, I made mistakes (boyfriends, intimacy) and even though God has always been there for me, I am beginning to truly see him. He's always been within me, I was just so caught up with illusionary stuff that I forgot to look inside of me, my heart, my soul. Okay this is getting super long (and I need to get back to studying lol) but I just wanted to write this out to everyone who needed to hear a positive thought today. God is there for you, he is NOT mad at you...we're all his children and he's seeing us fall and stand back again and one day..we will be back at our true home. For now, hang in there <3 Life is too precious - our Gurus have given us this life because we are one step closer to God..let's take this chance, yea? and to all those mean people trying to make people feel bad about their mistakes...STOP. You are not superior to anyone - we are all here as equal's. Let's offer guidance to those that need it & love everyone. Wow, I'm sorry for sounding like Mother Teresa =P but hopefully, this makes sense and I'm sorry if I said anything wrong.