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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ke Fateh! Hi its the first time im using this forum i usually try and get answers from elsewhere but no luck to my question. What I wanted to ask was about sex before marriage. I am a bit confused about the concept of kaam is it acceptable or not? obviously the answer seems like a no, but then why does Gurbani say 'dharma artha kama moksha ka data...' meaning God is the giver off all of the mentioned. Also the Guru's all had children.. some had more some had less... I don't understand and please no answers like its ok but after marriage only, because when a Sikh gets married its laavan the paat which is read, i dont know why this is because thats about marriage to Waheguru. but then I know Gubani also says they are not husband and wife who simply sit together they are husband and wife who have one soul and two bodies, But i believe this applies to us individually and the relation between us and God/ as im assuming we are all the soul brides and this is telling us we have not completed our journey by simply sitting with Waheguru's in Nij Ghar etc, but that we as soul brides need to merge completely into the Shabad while yet alive to become true soul brides. I make this assumptions as Gurbani is a guide for the soul and as the mind is always portrayed as a soul bride and not our body. So this brings me to the questions is kaam acceptable after or even before marriage, and well if we define between kaam and love thats a different story. because one can easily say the have sex through love and not kaam. but bearing in mind and correct me if im wrong but Guru Sahib's also had children after they took Jyoti jot forward from previous Gurus? I am not using this as a gateway i am just asking if it is right before marriage or even after marriage. cz someone once said if u are not thinking of God because of a sexual desire or a ice cream cone it dont matter because the love for that moment aint there because of u have left the thought of Waheguru. BULL CHUK MAAF. please help