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  1. I can only edit topics but not delete them. Also, is there a way to delete my account?
  2. When i do saas giras simran, i feel as if there is no body any more and i get scared when i lose the senses for a few moments. I feel only sound and thats it. Once i open my eyes i have to feel my surroundings because i have to get back into the other senses of the body and try to become aware of the world again and if i am here. i get depersonalisation. Can someone help. What is happening to me and what do i do??
  3. At school all my friends have turned their back on me and no one listens to anything I say. I've always been nice to my friends but they just bully me and say I'm too weird to be their friend. Why is Waheguru doing this to me! I do paath and always help others. But now my life is so miserable! I'm a girl in grade 9. Everyday I cry and all I ever hear are rumors about me! No one listens to me and my mom thinks I'm lying! Is Waheguru listening to me? Is there any shabad or paath to help me? I feel so alone and miserable. I have restless nights because I'm scared to wake up and face another terrible day. Sometimes I wish I could just die in my sleep! I cry myself to sleep every night. Even when I do paath it's like Waheguru isn't listening. Please help me, what should I do? I have posted the same thing to another sikhi forum, I would really just like some advice. Thank you so much. Wjkk Wjkf
  4. Greetings everyone. A week ago a came across a beautiful shabad, but lost it now in dhur ki bani app. But i remember its meaning. "When a person is bound to lose by speaking, its better to stay quiet." Jithe .......othe changi chupp If somebody knows atleast a line, plz write the shabad or Ang number. Thnx in advance
  5. Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! I made this thread as a way to give my own personal tips on how someone can limit the influences of massive increase in Kaam, these being pornography and masturbation, (Note: not doing these 2 does NOT mean you beat Kaam, but that's where the problem is started.) This is also the male version of the problems, I don't know the causes of females going towards these things, so I won't discuss too much on it, but; hopefully I can assist them as well. Also I'm not an expert on any of this stuff, just felt the need since it's a big topic to provide legit assistance. I will be adding more on, the first post is just intro. Some important things to note: 1. Why does someone have Kaam? Since the beginning of time, you have been carrying the power of Haumai, and from Haumai comes the 5 evils, one of these being Kaam and Kaam especially effects us, because of we have usually wanted to stay productive with reproduction and so in possibly many animal lives, we've been having sex like crazy people, these traits carried on till we became human, (which in a way tells us why some people have crazy fetishes). 2. Is Masturbation and Pornography related? My experience on this has been that they are only slightly related, but the reasons for them are different. Porn acts as a depresent; which means it's meant to take something from you; while masturbation happens due to circumstance-based. You can do both exclusively, but due to the nature of porn both usually go together. 3. Is there hope? This is the good news, and something we can be grateful for. That is the blessing of the greatest Dhan Dhan Sri Guru Nanak Dev Ji holding our hands and freeing us from all our past deeds, and gives our life true meaning instead of being Ghulamis to our own problems. The greatness of being a Sikh can not be comprehended into normal thoughts or words, and even Kaam himself surrenders at the name of the blessed Guru. This is just a tiny intro on the basis of the issue, I plan to delve further into it, what my experience has been, why it's not going to be easy, and why there is hope for anyone if there can be hope for someone like me.
  6. VjkkVjkf Guru Pyareo, soo over the past few weeks i feel kaljug is taking over my Mann Tann Dhan,every night i go to sleep wanting to wake up at Amritvela knowing that will fix everything but then laziness kicks in ,then the 5 mins after the alarm goes( 5 mins more to sleep) end up in missing amritvela, then i spend all day playing catch up, prior to going pesh kaam was my biggest problem and now its coming back and truely right now i am dying everyday and the worst part is now stupid doubts are coming to my mind against guru sahib and vaheguru, pls pls sangat jee help me i love sikhi but now kaljug is taking me over to throw me off and i need help.
  7. Wjkk wjkf, i am 12 yrs old and I want to take Amrit but my parents won't let me. 1. They say u r too young. 2. You might cut your hair when u grow up. 3. People don't hire amritdharis. 4. When will u get if u take Amrit. 5. You don't need to take Amrit to be a true Sikh. (I know this but I said u r not a complete Sikh) 6. God doesn't give anything to amritdharis These r some of the issues I am facing please help very depressed
  8. Fateh sangat ji, im an old poster and for some reason i cannot log on anymore but the my question to the sangat is that i have the desire to do whageuru with every breathe, i have been amritdhari for a while and do my nitnem etc but i now want that i do saas saas simran so i can be free from moh, maya etc... I have begun to try and train myself to breathe in saying wahe and out saying guru... and am trying to get mool mantar done alongside this ... i am eager to know how long it will take me to get into the routine and when will my moh from the world break off and go into parmeshwar ji.. i sometimes get a random thought thinking whats the point being loved by a human must feel better than god, what will i really get from god.. i dont know how to answer this kalyugi thought when it comes in my mind so i just try to ignore it. I am scared incase i give up one day and think i cant be bothered anymore .... Sangat ji i am here for your help but also your blessings i remember when i first took amrit i recieved lots of blessings from all the sanget here and now this is another step i am taking towrads mahraj ji and again i need your blessings because i am here where i am because of you all ... Thank you
  9. gurfateh jeeyo Im having the hardest time with my sikhee atm. just got no motivation to continue. i love sikhee. i love gurujee. but i dont feel loved back. i feel like a bhoj on gurujee. that moorakh child that continues to make mistakes, break rehat and never learns. i try so hard sometimes but my willpower is easily shattered. i dont know if i was never meant for this path. they say a sikh does not take of his amrit, but amrit takes care of him. i feel my amrit didnt take care of me, and that i was meant to try and fail and never reach the destination...that gurujee will always keep it out of reach for me...maybe its not in my destiny for this life. please help me. i don't want to let go of my sikhee. please.
  10. Hello guys, i am a 15 year old boy living in Canada. I have kesh, little bit beard, and regularly go to the guruduwara, though im not amrit dhari. I have this issue that completely ruins my day & for others. No one knows about this, not even my respected parents. I play lots of sport & am quite athletic. I have never had a significant other female in my life, except my mom lol. But still after all this, i commit sin by falling to kaam, by masturbating on nude girls. This started happy 1 year ago but i somehow put a stop to it, and did not masterbate for full 6 months, yet i had terrible wet dreams that i could not control whatsoever. This makes me feel like a garbage bag, floating through the dirty winds, and destroys my gur sikhi jeevan. I cannot even do ardaas properly without thinking about this. I do not know if masterbating is right or wrong, some people say it is normal, then some people say it is wrong & a sin. If i stop masterbating, i get wet dreams, which are even worse. If i start masterbating then i feel terribly guilty & out of sikhi order. So respected members, please tell me the right path & how to successfully solve this problem. This is what making me not reach my full potential as human being, so again please & thankyou. ð¢ð³
  11. Does anyone know how I can download all of Sant Giani Gurbachan Singh Jee Khalsa Bhindranwale di larrivaar katha in one download rather than separate files?
  12. A couple of years ago I began to really feel pyaar for Vaheguru. I felt like my Guru was, my Guru, and I'd never felt that before in my life. Things were going so well, I was learning so much, things made sense, and at times I had knowledge on certain things I didn't before (not sure how to explain it, but I didn't feel that at the time, but with hindsight I can see how different I was). I was more in touch with myself, with other people, and with emotions. I was empathetic, more compassionate, the things I'd always wanted to be. At the time, I was a happy person and felt happy, but didn't realise how different I really was to before I began feeling like this. It was as if I had just woken up. Unfortunately, I fell. I suddenly (literally. Am really not exaggerating) entered a sad, low, numb phase and it was the worst experience I have experienced in my life. I barely remember it now because I've never felt so numb. I just hated everything, felt like nothing was okay (because nothing was) and knew how weak I was for giving in. But I couldn't care less, because I was so numb. I could go on and write pages of this. Anyway, I have sort of come out of that phase, but now I basically have nothing. I don't feel the urge to do a single thing; I don't read Bani anymore (I am amritshak), I don't listen to Kirtan anymore, I don't go to the Gurdwara, I'm still ashamed of myself for being weak and uneducated. I can barely be bothered to type this actually but I know I need to do something because I don't want to waste anymore of my life. Sikhi is the only medicine that I feel will cure me. Without it, I would have fallen into that 'depressed' phase years and years ago. But I don't feel like taking my medicine. I don't feel like I'll be able to get back to how I was when I was in chardikala. Please, please, please give me some advice! I want so bad to reverse time to when I was progressing in my life for the first time. I can easily fall back into my worst phase but at the same time I won't let myself. I know Guru ji never leaves us, but I feel alone. How do I get myself back up?
  13. can anyone tell me where to get granths from such as sarkutavalee?
  14. wjkk wjkf, Im 1i years old and im confused about university and what degree I want and what job im looking to get. I dont wanna live my life working a pointless 9-5 job for a billionaire and support the capitalist system. I want to do a job thats satisfying morally, a job which involves helping others and not jist about making myself money. Ofcourse some may say i dony need to go uni to help others, but I want to be as effective as posdibl in helping people, I want to make big changes and big impacts that will help a lot of people and set up systems that help large groups. eg. I would rather start up several soup kitchens then work in one because setting up several will help more people, thats just an example but i hope you get what i mean. Ive been thinking of doing Law so i could go into human rights law and help set up aid in other counteries and stuff, or work in the UN so i can have a say in what happens around the world etc. im not really sure how that will work but i just want to do something! start a discussion which may spark some ideas, I hope someone reading this will have some ideas about what i can do. WJKK WJKF
  15. Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh I am a kaur, I have been amritari since I was a child. Just a few years ago, I was clinically depressed, and at some point last year, I couldn't bring myself to showerv every day, or anything. I didn't comb my hair for about a year due to depression, and now my hair is matted and impossible to comb. I still wear a dastaar but my hair is so rough and big, It's bundled up I want my old hair back, when it was long, silky, and beautiful. I do NOT want to cut it, obviously. But I am looking for advice. I don't know how to get my old hair back. I wish to never cut it. I know I've made a terrible mistake and I do ardaas, but please help me. What do you think I should do?
  16. How do I disable email alerts from this forum please? Urgent, inbox keeps filling up.
  17. Gurfateh, I am suffering a lot by nightfall problem, I do my nitnem and mool mantar jaap. Brought many expensive medicine but nothing cure the problem. Any help pls, feel like dying..
  18. So today, this kid was a <banned word filter activated> to me and kept calling me a "retard", or "stupid". Because I didn't wear my glasses, as kids might make fun of me. So I didn't and the teacher yelled at me, and I was yelled at, then the kid told everyone I was a retard. After his goonies kept calling me some insults. A couple days later, we had a math assignment to do, and the kid called me a "fudu", and after that he needed help... So I did, and he wanted pencil crayons, and it was after he insulted me. So I gave him the crayons. His goonies called me some stuff and they stopped. I am in PRE-AP with them, so high marks are required, and yeah. I felt ashamed and thought I was stupid. In the weekend I had to finish up a project, I saw his goonies working together I tried to hide, but we had to print right beside him he called me stupid.. Then I told him I got a higher mark. So today he wanted scissors, and our group said,"no". I called him a <banned word filter activated>, and he said that his group almost failed, and he nearly told on me. After that we had a presentation he started to flinch me, and I got so angry by his insults, I wanted to do a prank, and he did a "lockerbomb" to me a couple of times. It means closing the lock and handing it back. He did it to me a couple of times, and I did to him at the first time he smacked me at the back. Today I did, and he jumped on my friend. I tried to get them away, but I accidently pushed him, and he attacked me. We did a couple of shoves, and yeah. I throw my lock at him, and the teacher told us to stop, and I did. As I put my stuff away, he kicked me in the knee, and we got in a small shove. After that he told me" You have 10 seconds to leave the school or he will beat me up". I didn't listen to him, and I did the opposite, and went inside. Please help man. Its always me that get bullied and picked on. I got bullied as well. (Sorry for the errors, I typed very fast.) Also, he is also a Sikh.
  19. Vjkk Vjkf Sorry this is probably not the best place to post but does anyone know if there is anywhere I can go to get darshan in chigwel Essex? Can't find any Gurdwaray local so was wondering if anyone is doing the seva at their home in the area??
  20. I have a baptized Mormon friend and she wants to become Sikh as well. I was born into a Sikh family but I only have little information about Sikhi.according to my understanding It is misleading. When she asked me this question I said you should just follow one religion whether it be mornonism or Sikhi. She got offended when I said that. I want a more detailed answer on why this is wrong so I can prevent any further confusion. Your thoughts will be appreciated.
  21. I am a worthless person and I have not gained anything in my life. I have made some big decisions about my future. I am going to move away from family friends to a completely new place. I am thinking of moving to BC or Alberta in Canada. I would like to ask for help and would like to know if it is easy to find work in BC. I would like to be in touch of gursikhs and gurughar and improve my gursikhi as well. I am looking for an affordable city to live where finding work is not like trying luck. I am a young amritdhari person and capable of doing anything. Please guide my way my beloved gursikh friends.
  22. Sat Sri Akal This may not be to do with the Sikh religion but... I'm in desperate need of learning Punjabi and Bhangra dance. I live in New Zealand have a Punjabi boyfriend and soon will be visiting India. Please any help what so ever would be highly appreciated. Thank you.
  23. Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh Hi I need some guidence from the Sangat here and would like to know how to be prepared to become a fully fledged Sikh (AND TAKE AMRIT) I am currently monah and have realised that I am not in control of anything in my life, I have a good Job and other things, but nothing has hit the spot. I have form a young age always thought that I have Kindness and compassion and try my self to be respectful towards people, and to a certain level looked at Guru Nanaks teachings of how he interacted with others and encouraged others to practice their faith, Me and a Muslim friend once went to the Gurudwara and a Mosque in one day and felt we broke boundaries in terms of apposing each other and talked openly how the relations were between Muslim and Sikhs over years and realised that it better to look at the good rather than the bad. In that way My faith in Sikhi was average still compared to what I feel know. I went into the mosque knowing that I will walk out a Sikh in my heart no matter what, Not in the way to apose the them if they did try to force convert me, but the fact that looking at the examples the Gurus and what they did when they were in these situation. I wasn't scared, because I already went to the Gurudwara already and felt strong. At the time I felt I was close to Sikhi, but i look back and realise that it was the fact that I liked the idea of it rather than being a Sikh. I now realise where I thought I was knocking on Gurus door back then, I am infact a million miles away. However now I feel like I want to take them steps. I realise that taking Amrit is not a restriction its more a liberation, it does not tell you what to do it tells you too think more. I.e when people talk about eating meat, although it says you can eat meat (Jatka) generally Amritdharis don't, that way I believe it does not make you sit there arguing or stressing over it, but instead you realise its not necessary to eat meat. I love that because if we make a decision on our own belief then our belief is stronger rather than feeling forced to do it and feeling inadequate, To be fair I had enjoyed meat for many years, but that's the point I enjoyed it, Had it made me a better person? No, has it made Worse ? Probably yes ...why because I felt that it was superior to everything and that it made me a man to eat like a caveman (Cannot I be a man without it?).....see this is how recently i have not eaten meat, that's what I find beautiful about this way of thinking. Sorry about the above but, that was a way I could introduce myself I guess. So at the moment the Hair is Growing and want to wear Dastar and follow Sikhi the best I can. Here are my questions hopefully you can help with, I cant read Gurmakhi? Is this Going to be a problem? I will try and learn but do I need to do this before Amrit? Can I listen to instead if I Struggle? I work and have explained to them what Intend to do, they are cool about it I do long hours (12) Can I read My Paath from the PC, with my shoes off, this will only be the Rehraas. Are there any support Networks in East London? anyone I can talk to for Guidance maybe. Also Will I be able to interact still with my friends/family) from different backgrounds and religions, go for meals in restaurants etc, weddings, birthdays funerals etc? These maybe silly questions but I just would like to have a feeling of what the online Sangat feels?And also makes me feel part of something great!
  24. Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh Watch does it mean by jor in this video. My head feels heaver when I do Path but can concentrate kind of like a headache. Waheguru
  25. Hi guys, just looking for some advice on an awkward situation. :unsure2: I've been 'suffering' from depression for several years now alone, and recently found someone who was willing to listen to my concerns and help me through what was a very very hard time recently, which consisted of anxiety attack after anxiety attack, breakdowns and feeling very low and even considering suicide at times. It wasn't a pretty sight haha. I'm 18 and a Jatt, and he is 18 but Tarkhan. Obviously this raised a huge problem among my family when they realised of his existence. They got into contact with his family making threats etc. which was the wrong way to go about it in my eyes. My relationship with my family has not been very good for several years now, and I often isolate myself from them so it's been comforting to be able to talk to this boy, and his family are very understanding of the whole situation. I fear that cutting contact would have some drastic consequences on my mental function. Just wondering what I could possibly do? Appreciate your help