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  1. Bullying

    At school all my friends have turned their back on me and no one listens to anything I say. I've always been nice to my friends but they just bully me and say I'm too weird to be their friend. Why is Waheguru doing this to me! I do paath and always help others. But now my life is so miserable! I'm a girl in grade 9. Everyday I cry and all I ever hear are rumors about me! No one listens to me and my mom thinks I'm lying! Is Waheguru listening to me? Is there any shabad or paath to help me? I feel so alone and miserable. I have restless nights because I'm scared to wake up and face another terrible day. Sometimes I wish I could just die in my sleep! I cry myself to sleep every night. Even when I do paath it's like Waheguru isn't listening. Please help me, what should I do? I have posted the same thing to another sikhi forum, I would really just like some advice. Thank you so much. Wjkk Wjkf
  2. My age is 27. I work in a small -size IT company . I am a software developer by profession. The size of company I work in is around 70 people. It all started in July 2015 when I first joined the company. This psycho south indian guy thought I was an easy target would ridicule me on my turban and although I don't wear 5 Ks as I am not amritdhari , but he would insult other kakkars by saying "Can a sikh auntie cut vegetables with her kirpan if she forgot knife?" . Other ridiculous questions targeting my turban soon followed like "How do you scratch if you got a scalp itch?" , "How do you wear a helmet?". He did this in front of HR manager once and manager didn't give a damn. Infact seemed happy because he hated me Some other people joined in January last year and when they noticed I am being made the clown amidst these people, they soon joined in the bandwagon of abusing and ridiculing me. Jokes are mostly not about my faith, but sometimes about my turban and other times mostly about my sexuality They use really horrible words. I think there are 5 such people who have dehumanized me by mockery , direct and indirect messages . It has demoralized me to an extent and I feel really insulted now. What should I do ? These people are more in number and considering all of them are of one community (marathi), I feel overwhelmed. So If I complained to HR or boss , its likely they might instead get me fired It has become really bad for me in the office. I feel I have lost all dignity
  3. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g8rNRThPouo Let this be an inspiration for all Sikh Youths. Fight back....and fight back hard. Give back twice as hard as you get.
  4. Dear Sangat Ji, I am a frequent reader of this site but I seldom post, and am for the first time ever starting a new thread. I do so because I feel that we can perhaps openly examine as a community some of the root causes of many of the challenges that posters present here, especially in the Gupt section. I post here instead of "Whats Happening" as there may be those who wish to contribute but not reveal their identities. The topics that keep coming up over and over include: Women and issues with hair (and the fact that it affects their chances of marriage) Youngsters and romantic relationships (how soon they wish to start their journeys toward Ghristi Jeevan) Depression (having nobody to talk to or share their feelings with) Isolation (lack of sangat and the impact of social politics and dynamics) Each of these can be reduced to the last one on the list: Isolation or loneliness. The need for human contact, identity and belonging is recognised as paramount to healthy human development. The impact of being "under socialised" or isolated can lead to all kinds of psychological issues. In fact, the affects of isolation in the young can lead to "Failure to Thrive" syndrome where people cannot function or catch up with their "normal" counterparts. Today we exist in greater numbers that ever in human history, have vastly greater social connections than we have ever had, (this site is one example, and of course there is the social media that surrounds us), yet it seems that humans have never been lonelier. It has also been proposed that while we have more connections, the relationships have become shallower and less meaningful as they become greater in number. We might have 300 facebook friends and 300 phone contacts but feel like we have nobody to talk to. At the same time we naturally make efforts to be part of some or other social "tribe", and try to identify and be accepted by them by acting, talking and dressing alike. The human social instincts that we have been blessed with drive us to join with others and also drives our fear of rejection. In ancient times, social rejection (from your tribe or village) was a sure death sentence. We could not survive without the protection of our social group and its function to sustain members of the greater whole. Today, rejection is unlikely to result in death yet we still fear it as such. Loss of friends, the end of a marriage, the rejection of a proposal, rejection by those we would keep Sangat with, a breakdown in communication or relations with family, we may fear and treat any of these and react in a manner as if it is "the end of the world" (read death). Fear of being alone seems to be a great driver of the challenges that keep coming up for the Sangat on this site and beyond. Women who fear rejection due to their facial or body hair are afraid that they will end up unwed and alone (or with someone who does not fit the ideal picture they might have of a husband). Youngsters drawn to the rose tinted fantasy of romantic relationships are also trying to get a head start in the race to find a partner, again for fear of ending up alone. We all want to be close to others, to have understanding and to be appreciated by someone that will find us to be worthy. If we do not have this acceptance and appreciation, we face the terrifying prospect of not only a lonely life, but death at a genetic level as there are no children to carry on our biological heritage. Parents desire the respect of their children. Those who are bullied for being different wish that they would be accepted just like others are instead of being socially rejected. All human beings want to find their place in the world. And if we feel that those needs are not being fulfilled, we end up feeling isolated and depressed. Depression is so ubiquitous now that I was told that one Chardi Kala Gursikh said to one of the Singhs in their Sangat that "People come to us claiming that they have been attacked by black magic, that they do not understand what is happening to them, when in fact they are suffering from depression". They said that Mahraj describe it in baani as "Mann Ka Taap" or "disease of the mind". And why not. For someone who doesn't know what a panic attack, or a bipolar disorder is, a sudden shift in their equilibrium can be terrifying and seem supernatural. They may develop agoraphobia, claustrophobia or any one of numerous symptoms, as result of feelings of isolation and loneliness which lead them to depression. It is important to mention that isolation doesn't have to mean physical isolation. We can feel isolated within Sangat, within the family, even within a marriage. When faced with depression people can behave in destructive manners, i.e using the five vices of Kaam, Krodh, Lobh, Moh and Hankaar or addictions such as alcohol or drugs to try to protect themselves from the symptoms of depression. Then, we often see posts of people confessing their guilt and doing a virtual Peshi before the Sangat here, asking if Mahraj will ever forgive them, or posting that they have lost faith as they feel isolated even from Mahraj. The truth is depression is a mental illness. It has symptoms and those symptoms can be treated to correct the chemical imbalances that drive this illness. Further, it needn't be a cause of shame, any more than having the flu should cause us to be ashamed. For those who are currently facing depression I would like to add that there IS light at the end of the tunnel and there are ways of combating this. Different methods work for different people and there will be a combination of methods that will work for you. So Sangat ji, I invite you to share ways, both spiritual and practical that we might combat depression and its symptoms. I know some members will say "Do more Paath" and others will say "Get some exercise", I think it would be especially useful if those who themselves have faced or are dealing with depression to share the solutions that they have found and applied on their own journeys. I am hoping that in the advice that is shared members of the Sangat, wherever they are on their spiritual journey, will find inspiration and tools to carve their own path to well being.
  5. What is UMEED? UMEED, meaning “Hope” in Urdu, Punjabi and Hindi, is a UNITED SIKHS National Family Resource Center with a 24-hour toll free helpline : 1-855-US-UMEED (1-855-878-6333). This unique and confidential service is multi-lingual and provides support in English and Punjabi to assist with Community Empowerment and Education via a multitude of services. UMEED is a project of UNITED SIKHS Community Empowerment and Education Division (CEED) What is UNITED SIKHS? UNITED SIKHSis a U.N. affiliated, international non-profit, non-governmental, humanitarian relief, human development and advocacy organization, aimed at empowering those in need, especially disadvantaged and minority communities across the world. UNITED SIKHS is registered: as a non-profit tax exempt organization pursuant to Section 501©(3) of the Internal Revenue Code in the USA. Our mission is to transform underprivileged and minority communities and individuals into informed and vibrant members of society through civic, educational and personal development programs, by fostering active participation in social and economic activity. For more information go tohttp://www.unitedsikhs.org What is the purpose of UMEED? UMEED was borne out of a need seen within the community. For the past several years, under the CEED program, UNITED SIKHS has been providing services to address the issues that are faced by individuals and families. These cases have involved individuals seeking help from all over the United States and also from Canada. Since inception, UNITED SIKHS has seen over 150 cases involving Hate crimes, Domestic Violence, Bullying at workplaces and schools, Senior citizen assistance and providing legal guidance on a multitude of issues. Seeing an increase in the number of such individuals seeking help, UNITED SIKHS leaders conceived UMEED, a Nation-wide Family Resource Center to provide uniform, 24 hours/seven days a week, outreach of services to the community. UMEED will now extend the reach further in the community by providing a 24-hour helpline to assist on the aforementioned issues. What Services are provided at UMEED? Services provided at UMEED include a 24 hour, 7 days a week, helpline that serves all communities. Support services at UMEED include: Senior Care and educational services Domestic Violence Counseling Substance Abuse Counseling Helping Families and Individuals in Courts Youth Leadership Training Programs Bullying Prevention Initiative and Anti-Bullying Training Anti Hate Crime Counseling and advocacy Personal support and Social Work Services Where does the funding for UMEED come from ? All the services and activities at UMEED are funded through donations by general public, private sponsors and organized fund-raising social events. Do my donations qualify for Income Tax Exemption? Yes, all donations to UMEED or UNITED SIKHS qualifies for an income tax exemption. Formal receipts will be given in-person or mailed to be used for Tax Exemption filing purposes. How can I help ? UMEED team is grateful for all the help it gets from generous individuals like yourself. You can be actively involved in making UMEED a success by volunteering your time and expertise. You can also support UMEED by sending one-time or regular donations of any amount at http://unitedsikhs.org/donate To contact a UNITED SIKHS representative or find an office near you, please visit http://unitedsikhs.org/contact.php
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