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I live in join family my husband having 2 brothers... The time I came in this home I feel alone as my husband don't listen to me don't understand me he is angry man... I m angry too... We both are amrit Dhari..i get frustration very soon same with my husband... Now we had a daughter every one love her too much... My mother in law wants her to sleep with them... Be with them... I get angry after listening this... My mother In law says we don't have time of our kids to play with them as we leave in joint family... So she wants to play with my daughter be with her.... Behave like her mother... They accept I will also do the same.... But I m not so great that I fully dedicate my time to house hold work without playing with my daughter... In frustration I said I want to leave alone from joint family.... So my husband started to pull my dastar and he said don't tie this if u like to think against gurmat... I don't know what I do I am a human being I am unable to give my daughter fully want to take care of her too... How I can control myself? Is that against German?

I live in join family my husband having 2 brothers... The time I came in this home I feel alone as my husband don't listen to me don't understand me he is angry man... I m angry too... We both are amrit Dhari..i get frustration very soon same with my husband... Now we had a daughter every one love her too much... My mother in law wants her to sleep with them... Be with them... I get angry after listening this... My mother In law says we don't have time of our kids to play with them as we leave in joint family... So she wants to play with my daughter be with her.... Behave like her mother... They accept I will also do the same.... But I m not so great that I fully dedicate my time to house hold work without playing with my daughter... In frustration I said I want to leave alone from joint family.... So my husband started to pull my dastar and he said don't tie this if u like to think against gurmat... I don't know what I do I am a human being I am unable to give my daughter fully want to take care of her too... How I can control myself? Is that against German?

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Fateh When I say shut up to my brother I feel bad, because I know I should't be talking like that. I want to say sorry but then he will probably laugh at me or swear at me. Is it necessary to say sorry or is it ok if i don't but learn from my mistakes.

WJKK WJKF I need help letting go of anger. If i have an arguement with my wife for example it takes me a while to let it go and its getting worse. I end up holding a grudge. How can i let go of the anger or hate? PPul Chuk Maff

hey guys, How do I deal with anger, I'v bursts of anger over the most pointless things sometimes. I don't stay angry but I can go from 0-10 within seconds and backdown again. Let me know your opinions, I've been meaning to make this topic for a long time but finally got the nerve. Thank you

I have been an amritdhari since June and now I am facing a most extreme battle with myself. Please help me. 1.) Lust- I have tried very hard controlling it but it seems to be triumphing. I wake up in the mornings and sometimes my kachera is soiled. At first I thought it would be the food I eat and so cut down on my diet but this problem still continues. How to stop this? 2.) When lust is done I feel angry at myself very much. When I wake up late to do nitnem I feel very angry How do I stop this? 3.) During the weekends I try waking up but my body feels the cold and doesn't let me. How do I overcome this?

O anger, you are the root of conflict; compassion never rises up in you. You take the corrupt, sinful beings in your power, and make them dance like monkeys (sggs 1358) O Nanak, through lust and anger, no one has ever found God - go, and ask any wise man (sggs 551) Anger barks and brings ruin on itself, blindly pursuing useless conflicts (sggs 1288) Ego: With the false ego ("I-ness") up and active, all our acting in the world becomes selfish and evil. When the materially identified ego has sided with the materialistic forces of creation (Maya), it is said to have the following faults: lust (Kaam), anger (Krodh); greed (Lobh), delusory emotional attachment (Moh), pride (Mada or Ahankaar), envy (Matsarya) and stubborn mindedness (Mann-Hatha). Also called evil passions, man's Spiritual heritage constantly gets looted by these internal thieves (and their numerous variations), causing him to lose knowledge of his True Being. Anger: What is anger? Loads and loads of books have been written on anger. But it still appears to be one of the most misunderstood and overused of human emotions. Anger is one of the human emotions or feelings - one of the psychological ego's passions (negativity, Bikar or Bikaar). Anger is an emotional-physiological-cognitive internal state of consciousness which renders a man blind to the existence of inner Light. Hence sometime it's referred in the scriptures as hidden evil or thief, waiting for an excuse to find expression and expansion. Anger, the outcaste, hides within man's body (sggs 759) Lust and anger steal the wealth of the self within (sggs 352) Within this body dwell the five thieves: Lust desire, anger, greed, emotional attachment and pride (sggs 600)