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  1. Waheguru Ji ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji ki fateh, As a new member a bit about myself. I was 17 when I got baptised. 11 years on wards I have, so far, enjoyed every minute of it. STILL am! with kirpa. BUT you have not clicked this post to read about this am sure? So let's got on with the title. Why Sikhs should not gamble... In late August 2015 I had came up with an idea, to gamble online. I had known it is against the rehat especially for Amritdhaaris. It even states in SGGS "Gamblers, adulterers leave this world barefooted/ empty handed" (referring to NOTHING good can come out of it in the long run), whether you lost a couple of thousands or made millions from less than 100 (pound/ dollar take your pick). But I applied worldly thoughts on myself and thought I could hit it BIG with this shortcut system, besides I been failing lately in life education/ job wise anyways... I opened an account and proceeded to gamble. Does anyone know why alcohol is bad for you? (NO I do not drink). But thing is, with alcohol intoxicated the mind goes into a state of frenzy. The next morning the drunk person wakes up and says "Where am I? what happened last night?" They may notice their hair has gone short, they have woken up with someone beside them. They do not know what happened. Maharaaj Foresaw the future and asked himself "Drink drivers? How many Sikhs will suffer as victim or perpetrator?" Maharaaj also realised (did this happen back in the days)? that alcohol comes in strengths, like from 3% start (I think thas the start)? to 90% in volume (Accent in France as told by my friend). Maharaaj also must have thought "Well, if I give the go ahead and say Sikhs can drink a little then it's ok?" BUT Guru Gobind Singh Ji also realised that Sikhs like to bypass Rehats and everyone will waste away their time on debate "How much is less?" IF Maharaaj gave a unit or figure and said "I suppose 100ml glass once a week?" PEOPLE WOULD HAVE DEBATED THAT TODAY AND USED THEIR MANN CHATURIAA OR "INTELLIGENCE" AND 100ML WOULD HAVE BEEN 500ML somehow. We Sikhs can be excellent in by passing rehats as such. Dussa Paasha came to a straight point and said "Do not even touch the bottle of alcohol" NO means NO! Let's get back to the point of gambling (I will get back to the point of alcohol and gambling). Anyone familiar with Mahabharaat story will know that the punj pandavs had lost EVERYTHING on gambling. Land, estates, Money, Army, any Businesses right down to their wife!!! Why had they kept playing despite it was a rigged game? THEY KNEW IT WAS RIGGED! because they had HOPE! They hoped the game will eventually turn in their favour. Today slot machines have a message written on them, that "There is no money within these machines overnight" so robbers know not to rob the place overnight. What will a gambler do first thing in the morning? THEY HAVE HOPE TO POP IN A QUID AND TAKE OUT MAXIMUM WINNINGS! SAME PRINCIPLE, SAME HOPE, SAME SCHEME AS THE TIME OF MAHABHARAT!!! Just like the alcoholist makes fake promises "I'll stop soon" I would like to speak from first hand experience, when gambling and winning you say "I'll stop soon" IT WILL NOT HAPPEN. Like people call money Maya (I don't, i hate that) gambling and alcohols are physical forms of maya too. Once you indulge in them the mind says MORE MORE MORE! and you make these false promises (lying is against rehat too) and you lie to yourself. I can speak from ONE point of view why gambling is forbidden. BECAUSE YOU DO NOT STOP WHEN WINNING UNTIL YOU LOSE ALL THE MONEY!!! It drives you crazy and depressed. Maharaaj does not want to see his Sikhs crazy, depressed and broke. Just like an alcoholist will promise "I shall stop drinking soon" but the brain is pulled like a magnet towards the evils of the physical form of Maya. What I mean is, when I was on the website I thought "Okay, if I win £300 I stop for 7 whole days then go again. Where will I be in a year's time?" However, when I got on, first day guess how much I won? from £100 deposit to £3,000!!! Any guesses what happened then? I carried on and until.. I lost the winnings and my deposit too! Within 2 days I had lost £2,000 of REAL money. So much for 7 days, I was not a santokhi bandha to stop first day. THE GAME GIVES YOU FALSE HOPE AND FALSE DREAMS! All the material gains, big cars, big bank balances etc etc. But your mind gets trapped LIKE AN ALCOHOLISTS!!! YOU DO NOT KNOW WHEN TO STOP! Now, am sure many people state "Gambling is forbidden as the morals of it, not your money, against an honest living" etc etc THATS 100% TRUE! But it's also true, the only way you'll know why it's TRULY forbidden, the ultimate true way is if you become a gambler (please don't. Just take this ex- gambler's word for it). So, it was an ongoing battle where I lost, won, lost, won lost and won. Whether I won/ lost or neither is not relevant here. Second part in why not to gamble is because the morals behind it. It's like taking money that does not belong to you. And let's not forget about Karma! If a person wins from gambling like £200,000, enjoys the cash what will happen to them in their next life? Will they be born in a rich family only to lose ALL their wealth of £200,000 and live in poverty? Who has stolen/ taken their cash? maybe the person/ people in the past life that had lost the money on gambling, that YOU then won? This is all perception and an idea. Only Maharaaj knows why bad things happen to good decent people, why people suffer and how much to balance out the Karmas. I shall write more posts on here, Saakhis, Rehats and, like this post, personal experiences of life. Until then, Bhul chuk maaf, take it easy and feel free to ask questions. WJKKWJKF.
  2. Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! Any solutions? It happens a lot, don't know how to fix my weak focus. Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh!
  3. Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! Why is there such a bad gender ratio of fewer female Amritdharis than that of male Amritdharis? Do the parents teach the daughter about the need for Amrit or what? (Also I seem to notice that some of them seem to be told off that if they want to take Amrit to wait till marriage; which only hurts this ratio more.) Is there a way to get both males and females interested, in the olden days people begged to take Amrit, now pracharks are begging for others to take Amrit. (Also if someone falls in Prem with Guru Sahib; what stalls them from taking Amrit.) Just wanted to know these questions with the answers. Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh!
  4. WJKK WJKF, Now before this discussion begins, spare us all with "you aren't perfect so stop talking", "they might be better off on the inside" wale bachans, because yes, they might be better than us on the inside and we are not perfect. But as a panth, we should have the right to make sure that people are not misunderstanding sikhi and defining it their way, instead of that defined by Guru ji. there are quite a few women, who tie dastars and are amritdhari, beautiful but then some of them constantly reject the maryada. Now, I have been taught that a true Sikh never neglects the maryada and a true Sikh aims to follow the most of it. These women wear make up, shorts and low-neck shirts, dancing and singing songs, swearing. While feminism has a great role to play in the whole "make up and clothing" choices, they often blame some Singhs for exposing their body, which I am against, simply because both parties are luring the other into "lust" (read it from a post, makes sense) i read a few posts from kaurlife and they wish to achieve women equality by wearing fewer clothes because singhs do it, participate in the panj pyare and walking beside their husband during anand karaj. Ignoring that as a panth we are all in it together, we shall help each other instead of trying our best to let the other spiritually down. It is hard to have them listen to us, so... Opinions ?
  5. I was looking through Bhai Randheer Singhs Gurmat Bibek/Vivek Books and it took me really long to get through the pages especially because he uses very high level Punjabi when writing. I was wondering if anyone knows any translations to the books or if they would like to collaborate with the Canada Sangat to have them translated? Vaheguruuuu Ji Ka Khalsaa Vaheguruuuu Ji Ki Fatehhh!
  6. Waheguru ji ke khalsa wahiguru ji ki fateh i understand and agree that the Akaal Bunga is the head of the Panth but could I have some quotes and itihaas to back this up thanks
  7. VJKK VJKF, Khasla Ji - can someone please provide all knows sources of rehatnama in English please? Fateh Ji. Bhul chuk maaf karna
  8. VJKK VJKF Online sangat Ji, this daas has one beantee. By way of background, I am a Sikh who met a non-sikh partner. We started dating and sometime into the relationship, Guru Sahib did kirpa and gave me the thirst for amrit. I understand and now agree that dating the non-sikh person was not proper. However, it may have been Maharaj Ji who set this khel for me. This person is lovely and has been very supportive in my aspirations. Now, she would like for us to get married and have a family etc. All of which I supported. However, now that I wish to be blessed with amrit, I ask: - will the panj payare administer this situation? - if they do, can I have a physical relation and children with her? The other thing is: - If it is a choice between Amrit and this person, I will pick Amrit and the Guru Sahib. However, I do not wish to break their heart as they also have akal roop inside them and I also consider this to be a sin. I am really confused either way. I wish to take hukamnama to resolve this and guidance from panj payare. But any other thoughts from the sangat will be greatly appreciated. VJKK VJKF Please forgive any mistakes from this lowly Sikh.
  9. Khalsa Fateh Jee can we follow two Rehat Maryadas like Taksaal and Tarna Dal and merge things from both?
  10. Vjkk Vjkf I had a question which is what do we do with the Kesh that gets stuck in our Kangha after combing and what do we do the kesh that is dead and falls out?? Thanks
  11. WjkkWjkf I took amrit a few months back and it was magical. I lived a normal life, attended events and high profile parties and all was fine.Things seem to change a little before I went to Bali for a convention; also my path was lessening. I went to eating some meat as I read a hukumnama from Akhal Takht Sahib, saying that we could and I was simply not adjusting to vegetarian fare which I had never eaten. I was almost doing fine, till I met this man. I met him and my prayers stopped and I almost gave into temptation. He constantly encouraged me to violate amrit saying he too was an amritdhari once but his Guru was Guru Nanak, who laid down no rules and a loving God did not care if we followed rules. I met him again yesterday and he offered me a job, where I would have an amazing position, if I cut my hair. My answer was obvious I do not want any job, where i cannot follow rehat. However I feel I have violated my amrit and do not know what to do. Living without amrit is like burning each day and yet I feel I do not deserve to even go and ask maafi from panj pyare. Should I go and renew my amrit or should I wait. If I wait would I keep getting into this pit and if I go what if I make a mistake again?? Help me please.
  12. I've been looking at this recently. It's a very interesting extract from the Chaupa Singh Singh rehatnama as translated and published by Hew McLeod. If it is an accurate account, it suggests that Guru ji didn't expect all Sikhs to fight in war, deeming some unsuitable. I've not compared the translation to the original Panjabi text as given in McLeod's book yet. I'm posting both for people's inspection. I love reading, but unfortunately I just can't do it for prolonged periods in electronic form (ebooks, kindle, ipads etc.), and can't afford to print out the whole ebook at the moment hence I haven't read the book fully yet. Translation: Full book available here:
  13. Can anyone tell me exactly why Sikhs can't date other Sikhs? (If you are from the same religion it shouldn't be a problem). Also if we keep our Rehats during the relationship, wouldn't it help find a suitable partner in the future. Keeping the basic rules of no Adultery and kissing and all that junk. Also I'd like either Rehat Maryada or Gurbani views on this, if it even mentions it.
  14. I believe that Katha should be limited as it is very dangerous play when novice or bad person starts mixing his own manmat views in it. Why we should we listen or follow the advice or views of the person who is on the stage? We don't know who he is and what views he got. Taksali style katha is ok where a person keeps their own views on control and they do have another person right next to them reading bani every other line. Too many people from india are entering in katha field as it is easy to get in and make quick money. I believe that there should limit to this.
  15. WJKK WJKF Sangat ji, Yesterday my upper thigh was bleeding and a band aid wouldn't stick on the wound. So, I took a towel paper and used it as a gauze. To hold it down, I took medical tape and taped around my leg to hold the gauze in place. Later on that night, when I went to remove the tape. I lost some hair where the tape was. Would I need to be pesh in front of the 5 pyare or is asking maharaaj for forgiveness through ardaas enough because I didn't see any other option at the time?
  16. Does anyone know how we can wake-up early at Amrit Vela?
  17. It didn't seem to have to get banned, I'm sure ramghariasingh was just asking a simple question which could help him with life decisions.
  18. [The Singhs would] consume MARIJUANA, OPIUM, ALCOHOL and KEBAB's to their hearts delight. ਖੇਲੈ ਨਿੱਤ ਸ਼ਿਕਾਰ ਬਨਨ ਮੈਂ ਮਾਰਿ ਮ੍ਰਿਗ ਬਹੁ ਖਾਵੈਂ । They would constantly be engaged hunting in the forest, consuming and killing many deer. ਘੋੜਨ ਪਰ ਅਸਵਾਰ ਹੋਇ ਕਰਿ ਸਜ ਕੈ ਸ਼ਸਤ੍ਰ ਸਾਰੇ । Riding atop horses, [the Singhs] adorn themselves fully with weapons. ਭਾਂਤਿ ਭਾਂਤਿ ਕੀ ਪਹਿਨ ਪੁਸ਼ਾਕਾਂ ਕਰੈ ਕੁਵੈਦ ਅਪਾਰੇ । In many different ways [they] adorn the dress [of a warrior], and engage in endless military exercises. Naveen Panth Prakash, Poorabaradh Bisraam 62, verse 91. "The Sikhs are not restricted in the matter of EATING OR DRINKING. When Partap Mall Giani saw a Hindu boy who had a mind to embrace Islam, he said, 'Why do you become a Muhammadan? If you have an inclination to eat everything, you may become a Sikh of the Guru and EAT WHATEVER YOU LIKE." Dabostan e mazahib, Mohsin Fani Banda wished to make Sikh abandon their blue dress, to refrain from DRINKING AND EATING FLESH' Sketch Of The Sikhs, by J.C. Malcolm, 1812, P. 83 'He was not in accord with the Khalsa. Without the Gurus approval he started his own sect. He did not take baptism of the dagger. He did not adopt the Sikh way of life. He did not EAT MEAT AND DRINK WINE' Santokh Singh in Suraj Granth Also, bhai Vir Singh had replaced the word Sura(alcohol) with Suda (Ambrosia/Khalsa initiation) while editing Pracheen Panth Prakhash Sikhs of Hazoor Sahib consume meat and alcohol(all are amritdhari), they do not believe in Singh Sabha movement's version of Sikhism
  19. In regards to the 4 kurehits there seems to be diff interpretations of their scope extent. I tried to find the exact scope of kaam kurehit and found the following ੧) ਕੇਸਾਂ ਦੀ ਬੇ-ਅਦਬੀ । ੨) ਕੁੱਠਾ ਖਾਣਾ । ੩) ਪਰ-ਇਸਤ੍ਰੀ ਜਾਂ ਪਰ-ਪੁਰਸ਼ ਦਾ ਗਮਨ (ਭੋਗਣਾ) । ੪) ਤਮਾਕੂ ਦਾ ਵਰਤਣਾ । Both guman and bhog refer to intercourse. However some people translate this to mean anything physical while others say anything sexual and others say it's intercourse with someone other than wife. What exactly is the right answer? I have heard of all three different levels for being a cardinal sin. I personally think it means intercourse - with any lesser forms of that being punishable but not bujjar. Thoughts?
  20. WJJK WJKF Are Amritdhari Sikhs allowed to eat eggs? Personally, I do not eat eggs or anything that has eggs in it, but I find it kind of exhausting to look at the ingredients of a lot of food products just to see if they contain eggs. I heard from someone once that most of the eggs that people eat are not even fertilized so technically you do not kill anything. I'm kinda confused so can someone answer. Bhul Chuk Maaf Karo Jee WJKK WJKF
  21. Gurfateh everyone. I hope most of the people on this site must also be using ''. Recenlty I came across the following question on Quora The Questions is "What is it like for a Sikh to cut his hair?" I do not know who asked this, but I did go through the answers. There are about 5-6 answers given by Sikh males themselves who got their hair cut at some point in their life. Yes, it did hurt me reading those answers, but I felt, as you all will feel that everyone has a right to express his/her story and there is not much wrong in that. However, let me describe some things here. If you look at the contents of the answers, you will find that mostly the people are describing that how difficult it was for them to maintain their hair, and how free they felt after getting it cut etc etc. They even mention that they felt 'proud' and 'free' after doing that. Now, tell me how many of us feel this way? Hair keeping is of course not difficult for us and we lovingly maintain it. Don;t you all feel that a wrong general idea is being circulated? I mean so many people read these answers; what information would they get? That all Sikhs are in great difficulty keeping their hair? I did have a one-one comment discussion also with one of those 'answerers'. Okay let us say that we ignore this and say that let people speak what they want to, we can't stop their mouths. But you know what is more disturbing??? I have seen answers there,in which the writer (a Sikh) addresses other Sikhs who want to cut their hair and narrates to them his act of bravery (of cutting his hair ) and even advises them to act!!! I have seen some Sikhs commenting and asking these people that even they want to cut their hair and how should they go about doing this? You know what reason a person was giving there? He writes that since he has cut his hair he has made many girlfriends , and before he had none. Such statements are being used to lure the youth to cut their hair? ( If you read one 'Jas Anand's' answer, you'll find this). Shouldn't we do something? I mean those people are advising other Sikhs that how to cut their hair/ how to convince their parents /how they will get girlfriends after that etc etc? What can we do? Atleast : 1)We should comment in opposition, that keeping hair has great benefits and we take pride in it, so that the readers are not misled. 2)We should report abuse the question( We never know if the answers are actually coming from fake accounts to demean the Sikh practices) 3) We should message the Quora admin in large numbers and ask him/her to remove the question as it is hurting religious sentiments. Here is the list of the admins (their names are mentioned in the answer Or we can send a mail to asking to do the same. Please everyone discuss and decide upon this.
  22. wjk wjkf can non amrit dharis do naam jap and recieve the same benifits as an amrit dhari? or do you have to take amrit? im not saying this because i dont wanna take amrit, im just saying is, me doing naam japna before taking amrit a 'waste' ? and if not can you become jot vich jot wiothout taking amrit?-just curious wjkk wjkf
  23. wjkk wjkf just wondering if someone could summarise main points of the rehat mariyada which i should be aware of, planning to take amrit soon wjkk wjkf
  24. Gurmukho plz help me I live in the area where smoking is very much haptual and people dont stop if u request them so going on work outside the smoke is respired plz tell me,is I m kurehatiya.coz if u respire near a smoker your passive smoker