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Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh i just want to spill my heart out that today after our kirtan smagam at an university i was randomly asked by someone to do ardas afterwards I answered with a yes. But when i satrted doing ardas after kirtan i was blank i forget the ardas I don’t know how and completed it all on a very bad note. It was very humiliating for me that I can’t even do an ardas being an amritdhari sikh i should have done it smoothly but I can’t and moreover as i do ardas for karah prasad no one was there i waited and again repeat it but no one came which turns the things into more blunder. Everyone was laughing at me afterwards, some were disappointed, some were angry, everyone was pointing at me. So all this leads to shake my self confidence, my inner peace. I can’t even have courage to go to the kirtan smagam and do kirtan next week as every Tuesday it was held. I dont know what to do i just want to share this all with sonebody so i just posted.

WJKK WJKF, I used to suffer from porn and masturbation problem, just wondering if this requires pesh and what'll have to say to panj pyare etc.?

Dear All ive had a tough life- never been married, rejected so many times that I believe I am not good enough to love or be loved. Have had a good career but so many ups and downs that I am tired fighting 1. can I do something to get a stable life? 2. Why does this keep happening to me? I know its Gurus parshad but it pains and i

Wjkk, Wjkf sangat ji, My siblings and I sat our parents down for a serious conversation about their health. They’re getting older & they need to be eating healthier. My dad said that his body isn’t healthy if his food has ਬੈਅ. My question is.. ** WHAT IS ਬੈਅ? Pronunciation: B with short A sound [ back without the ck ] It would be great if someone could let me know what this translates to in English, please. That way, we can do better when we prepare our parents meal plans. As of right now, my parents & other uncles/aunties have given vague explanations of the word ਬੈਅ. (I’m told Fauja Singh said he doesn’t eat things with ਬੈਅ) Thank you, Wjjk, Wjkf

Well I just got some nihung banas made from India but the problem is that from where the buttons end (waist level) the bana is open around the legs i.e 2 pieces which overlap and one end keep flapping about (since there are no buttons) and if doing gatka it exposes the kachera from the front due to this fact. Are their any nihung banas which don't have the central split from groin area below as i would like to get some but need some help.

WJKK WJKF ji, I'm an international student in US who used to be a really good student in Science. I came here to study strong fields of Computer Science which required to sell all property we had in India and also take debt. My parents only saw my dreams and sold all the property. After coming in the US, (I got into a few prestigious universities like UWaterloo) but chose an affordable one. The university is really for-money only and no education was found. I felt like cheated but couldn't do anything. I had no idea which University I should transfer to. I felt confused. I accepted it as Maharaj's Bhaana and attended this college. It's going to be almost an year. Really bad things happened with me I asked so many professors that I'm doing a research in making a device for blind people and various other interests I shared. All of them heavily discouraged me all the time. In classes, I was pointed out all the time. The professors wanted me to praise them for some reason, I felt like. All my internal peace and confident got murdered. This semester, I went through a financial hardships. I am only eating once in 2 days since the last 3 months. I've been trying really really hard to stay alright. But the professors killed all my confidence and self esteem. I have exams coming up and I'm so low I couldn't even study. Everything is failing. I have no idea what to do. I got a job but the Starbucks manager asked me to cut my beard which is hard although I used to trim it before. Everytime I try, the financial issue always comes up. I felt like I couldn't tie turban. I'm so poor after paying thousands of dollars in international & out-of-state tuition. I really wanted to ask my veer and bhenjis to please suggest me something. I'm really going through tough time. I've been in a situation where a large part of my funding is taken while returned nothing in education. I've been murdered internally. Please help.

I am a sikh girl who started to keep her head covered a few years back but now ive really begun to hate it as i cant do anything/wear anything etc. I still love god but my family is against me uncovering my head. Please help because this has become a burden which is making me depressed. Im so sorry

WJKK WJKF https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DuY6LCTSG1s In the video after the very short Satnam Waheguru Jaap, they sing a little shabad before Aarta. It has the word 'Maharaj' in there. If you know which shabad it is, please tell me so I can include it when I do Aarta too as it is a beautiful shabad especially with the melody they are singing it in. WJKK WJKF

So I'm at 17 year old male amritdhar, so I've abstained from porn and masutrbation for about 4 months but lately my old habits of masutrbation and watching porn are coming back and i feel so devestated after watching porn and masutrbating, I know it's wrong but sometime I can't seem to controll, I do japji sahib path and ardass after each time I do masturbate and watch porn. How can I stop myself from feeling devestated and stop myself from this bad habit?

Is there any gurdwara for couples having problems in their marriage? Eg go there to do seva or ardas to help the relationship I know of gurdwara in India where u go do ardaas for finding partner or having baby but wat about this

I heard that 2 white people wrote a book about their experience during intense meditation (tap). The basic story that I heard about it was that these 2 people were very close friends, and were searching for the truth in this world. They decided that whatever remains at the very end of this world will must be the truth. Thus, they both decided to continuously do tap and have a race. The race was between whoever could find out the truth first before the other. One of them found what lasted eternally and described his experience. There was the singing of kirtan (From what I remember from how these people described the singing, I figured it may be kirtan) , and all of the males there all had beards and long hair. However, I explicitly remember hearing that the person who had this experience wrote that he was not allowed entry to this place, but I forget the reasons given to him as to why. Firstly, I am sorry for the terrible description of the book. This happened 2 years ago, where I heard about this so some details are forgotten and may be inaccurate. I write about this now since because I remembered it after reading the "Life transformation Books" post. I wanted to know, does anyone know the name of this book, or any information regarding it. Also, what do you think about the authenticity, if you do know or have read it. I think these people got a glimpse of Sachkhand, maybe as a result of their tap and karams.

ਸਾਚੁ ਕਹੌ ਸੁਨ ਲੇਹੁ ਸਭੈ ਜਿਨ ਪ੍ਰੇਮ ਕੀਓ ਤਿਨ ਹੀ ਪ੍ਰਭੁ ਪਾਇਓ ॥ When I listened to this, i got really emotional and questioned myself, what is love towards guru sahib, do i have that love within myself, is what I have right now real love, how does one love the truth

WJKK WJKF I have been having amritvela issues ever since I broke my sleep routine. The reason we don't wake up is because oh it's too comfortable in the bed and we just drift off asleep. Some of us wait like 5 minutes in the bed and randomly drift off asleep. Some of us wake up and say 5 minutes and we realize 4 hours have passed. This all comes down to what time we sleep, what we eat before we sleep and the amount of effort we put in to initially waking up, right? It's sort of like that. We have 6 sleep cycles. One in which there is a light sleep and if we wake up during that cycle we will be fully refreshed. So yesterday I came across this app named "Sleep Cycle". I didn't read anything I just set my alarm to 2:30 AM to 3:00 AM. I put the alarm volume high and then slept. 2:30, the alarm starts. I am angry and immediately rush to turn it off (it turns off with one tap). I fall asleep again angry. The snooze time will then determine the movement of when you disable the alarm clock and add on snooze time. When the snooze time is over the alarm comes on again, but this time for some weird reason you will quickly disable the alarm but you will notice you are fully awake. Link to the app: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.northcube.sleepcycle&hl=en_GB

I am currently amritdhari and keeping amritvela with maharaj Kirpa. However I make big mistakes that I regret occasionally. Kaam is a big one for me. 2 years ago, I was masturbating daily or every other day. However now it is every 4-5 months with maharaj's kirpa. I just did it again today , after 5 months and I feel so ashamed. It hurts when I imagine how Vaheguru ji is always present and watching when I was being a disgrace. I tried to tell my mind that I was being watched when doing it but Kaam completely overtook my mind. It was such a strong urge. I feel to do that I need more abhiyas to destroy it. That's why I thought of doing a few all nighters doing simran/path in conditions where sleep will be restricted to get rid of it permanently once and for all. My concern is that what if I am not able to pull it off, my entire sleep schedule for amritvela would be ruined it would take a while to start up again. Also I have school and I am in grade 11 but grade 11 and 12 are the years that can really shape your future career, so I do not want numbers to drop either. Also, where I sleep is not a suitable spot to do all night simran because people come up and downstairs where I sleep all the time and I do not want anyone to know about it . There is a room upstairs but I do not want to use it until I am sure everyone is asleep at 11 usually whereas I sleep at 8. That is where I need Sangats advice on what to do.

WJKK WJKF Sadh sangat ji. My quaestion is how you deal kaam or sex thoughts with your children. today scenario is completely change. Today kids and children talk about sex with each other. like for example : - talk about sex etc etc because now days its very difficult to control over there because of facebook, whatsapp and youtube. but my quastion is how you people or parent teach your child according to gursikh amritdhari and khalsa need your help. regards, Gur sangat kini khalsa

I wish i found this earlier. It would have been helpful a long time ago. For people who have problems with kaam sant ji explains what we lack. We need to recognize god is watching us every second. The next time you find yourself overwhelmed by lust and are about to lose control, try to apply this scenario. So the procedure 1. Pick a sant mahapurkh (a real sant) that you respect a lot (for me i am going to use sant jarnail singh ji khalsa) 2.When you find yourself overwelmed about to lose control and act in lust, imagine that sant/ mahaprurkh standing behind you watching you. 3. Ask yourself if you would be comfortable performing this action in front sant ji if you were to meet them right now. 4. Imagine what they would say or do if they discovered what you were doing. That should help control your mind hopefully. You really want to convince yourself that god is always watching your actions as they are. Then eventually you gain more control over your mind because you begin developing fear of god and control your actions better. In sukhmani sahib - ਆਠ ਪਹਰ ਪ੍ਰਭ ਪੇਖਹੁ ਨੇਰਾ ॥ Behold God near at hand, twenty-four hours a day ਮਿਟੈ ਅਗਿਆਨੁ ਬਿਨਸੈ ਅੰਧੇਰਾ ॥ Ignorance shall depart, and darkness shall be dispelled. The rest is in doing more naam/ gurbani/ sewa. Also, abandon "bad" sangat. Sangat is a big factor, especially since youth spend so much time at school with other kids. You could have the potential to be a great gursikh, but could have been ruined because of the sangat you kept. You should be able to tell the difference "good" and "bad". If it is a school enviroment, it may be hard to find good sangat, and you may have to isolate yourself because everyone around is bad sangat. In that case contact "good" sikhs and keep their sangat as much as you can afterschool, and keeping do simran/path at school quietly, while ignoring 'bad' sangat. You could probably find good sangat at your local gurduwara. This may help you feel less isolated. Meat, alcohol, tobacco increase the strength of 5 vikaars. Avoid them! Taking amrit will help in my opinion, but keep rehat and have faith and do ardas. Also I found this video

sangat ji I need ur help pleas. I am keep on falling in the trap of kam and then I start to m@$+ür&@+€. I always say I will never ever do it again but I keep on doing it. I have kept rehit for a couple of years and wish to take amrit on the 6th but then I think gurupita will never bestow me amrit because of my actions. Please tell me how should I quit. Thank you

Waheguru je ka khalsa, Waheguru je ke fateh Guru kai piyariou I have gone away from sikhi alot. I got into sikhi 2 years ago, at first i had so much excitement and spent literally every day trying to learn part and memorizing the meanings. I use to wake up at 3am every day, do simran and nitnaim. I learnt to read and write gurmukhi. And can now speak pretty decent punjabi. Everyone was surprised when they found out. Then i dont even know what happened, i got away from sikhi and into my old habits. I stopped waking up at amrit vela, doing part, simran, etc. And i dont even know what happened. I had so much passion for guru ji and i wasted it all on the wine of maya. I have become extremely lazy. I was once half of a gurmukh and now i am a total manmukh. I alway dream that one day i would be a true singh and kill my ego, but i dont know what to do, every effort i make. i am to lazy to follow through on it. My willpower has mostly disappeared. I do ardass and beg to be released from the shakels of myself and duality and realise everything is one Please someone beloved of guru ji help me. I cannot continue like this. I have thoughts of suicide because what is the use of my life if im gonna waste this jewel of a body like this. Also im 16 years old and have kept kesh when my parents and family tryed to discourage me alot. Do you think getting out of the environment i am currently in and into a different one will change me? I convinced my mom to let me go to india for 1 month. I wanted to go there and stay with sants, nihang singhs, or something. So they would force me to wake up at amrit vela and keep rehait, but i dont really know how to find any of them or approach them. Besides that do you think it is worth going to india for this reason? Im Sorry if i rambled on alot. I have kept all of this to myself and have been wanting to tell someone, but couldnt.

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh! What is "NAAM"? Gurbani.org in an article basically states that Naam is knowledge Link to article: https://www.gurbani.org/gurblog/gurbani-defines-naam/ While other sources state that Naam is just the name of god. My question is simple: What is "NAAM"??

About 2 years ago if you had met my friend (who I’ll just call singh) you would have thought he Is your average good looking, popular and misbehaving lustful teenage boy. Singh shocked us all recently by leaving all the popularity from girls and abandoning his good looks to becoming an amritdhari singh, so I thought. Sangat ji I’m not amritdhari, nor keshdari but I have respect for guru Jis image. Singh and I before used to chase after girls and go out to party’s, even though the party’s have stoped, he is still talking to girls. true, girls come and talk to him first but it’s so obvious that he is flirting back. He talks to so many girls in a flirty way and they always give him attention vice versa. I just recently went on his phone in sixth from and he’s been talking to this one girl on Snapchat a lot. He still does his nitnem and wakes up amritvela, but his habit of talking to girls hasn’t gone. Sangat ji, please tell me how I can advise him, I don’t want him slipping off the path, I know it’s funny coming from me (a person who isn’t on the path in the first place) but I don’t want him to leave Sikhi over girls, as I have seen this happen in my own family. How can I advise him to stay away from girls, when they are the ones who come and talk to him first or comment on his looks. I’ve known Singh all my life, I don’t want to offend him in anyway. Please help

Guys I'm falling off the path so badly. It was going so well and everything was so good and now even the basics are just so hard someone please help me I'm starting to feel suicidal because if I don't have sikhi then Id rather be dead I can't control my mind from panj Chor anymore the nitnem is just about getting dont get Anand from naam or bani anymore I can't fight or anything anymore it's much worse than just two points help me please

VJKK VJKF Sangat Ji, I want to start taking hukamnamas but I don't know how to take one from the Gurudwara. Can anyone help or talk me through what to do? Vaheguru Ji.

The usual story, she thinks im not ready I've looked for an amrit sanchar for the past 2-3 months and Guru Ji helped me find one What do i do