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Accidentally removed hair, I didn't know it was hair on my fore head as I thought it was blacks heads, but when I took it out I realised it was hair. Would I have to go for peshi or should I just do ardass? I wouldn't have poped the hair if had known it was hair.

hi everyone i stopped cutting my hair a couple of months back, i think its been about 3 months. i still trim my dhari but i was getting this urge not to cut my hair for a while and then i finally stopped :-) this urge to not cut my hair came when i started doing simran and stopped eating meat. now the thing is my hair is just over 4inches long! how can i make it grow faster? i really want it to be longer. i wear a patka when i go out. the other day my laptop crashed so i took it to this singh who repairs laptops mobiles etc i had seen this singh out and about before and once went to get my phone repaired from him. this time he asked me if i have kesh or if i just randomly wore patka. i told him how im not cutting my hair and he was like very good etc. the thing is it made me really paranoid! like do i just look like a monah wearing patka! i asked him and he said yes and no both. he said because your wearing "flat" patka it looks like you could have kesh or be monah, both. im going india in december 22nd and i want my hair to be at least long enough so i can put an elastic band around them! this singh told me to put yogurt on my hair as it will make it grow faster. anyone know what else i can do! ?

I was wondering don't you feel a bit uncomfortable for example under the armpits and in the private region. What about if you are very hairy near the back passage? You can't remove. In Islam we are told to remove / trim hair underarm and private regions. Looking forward to your replies. Peace.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-37305050 Hi I was reading this article about this lady who has a condition where she grows facial hair and has grown a beard. What do the Sikh scholars view on this? Is it still not allowed to shave?

HONESTLY, what are the chances of myself, a Singhni with a little facial hair (not willing to remove or bleach), finding a decent Singh who will be fine with my Kes. Wherever my Kes is.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh I am a kaur, I have been amritari since I was a child. Just a few years ago, I was clinically depressed, and at some point last year, I couldn't bring myself to showerv every day, or anything. I didn't comb my hair for about a year due to depression, and now my hair is matted and impossible to comb. I still wear a dastaar but my hair is so rough and big, It's bundled up I want my old hair back, when it was long, silky, and beautiful. I do NOT want to cut it, obviously. But I am looking for advice. I don't know how to get my old hair back. I wish to never cut it. I know I've made a terrible mistake and I do ardaas, but please help me. What do you think I should do?

1. Are you allowed to twist the kapra with your hair when tying a dumala 2. are you allowed to twist your hair in a circle when tying a jura or is that against sikhi 3. are you allowed to wear rubber band on your joora

Hello, I have a problem with my joora. My hair is pretty short due to me not taking care of it when I was younger. I am 17 years old. My hair is about to my bellybutton. the problem is when I do a joora, the part after the knot is not long enough to wrap around tightly, so after i wrap it, it will get undone because it is loose. is there anyway to grow my hair longer soon?

What is Sangat's opinion ....

Guys, I have noticed that I have got shorter hair on my head compared to others which have got more longer hair nearly reaching their feet. Im so embarrassed of my short hair, please please please help me get longer hair

I was curious - our religion asks both men and women to keep hair. However wherever I go I don't see women keeping hair (arm hair, leg hair, eyebrow hair, upper lip hair etc) Even the American white sikh women 3HO who are quite famous don't keep full body hair. You can clearly see in their videos that they do upper lip and eyebrow plucking. I was curious about whether the men like it this way and therefore haven't encouraged the women to keep their hair. Surely we should be raising our sikh boys with the view that they marry a sikh girl who keeps full body hair. Also I've noticed there is a huge emphasis on boys having the turban but none for the girls. No wonder many singhs remove turban when girls are cutting hair. Most don't want to be the Singh that settled for the 'one with facial hair' when there are other girls who remove their hair for them to choose from. Maybe if all Sikh girls kept their full body hair none of this hair thing would be an issue as everyone would be keepin it.

Hello everyone I'm growing a beard again, I have trimmed it before. Its quite long now but doesn't look good, my hair are very thin and wiry. So what can I do to make it look good? Don't say let it remain as it is. Give me ideas.

Gurfateh everyone. I hope most of the people on this site must also be using 'Quora.com'. Recenlty I came across the following question on Quora http://www.quora.com/Sikhism/Whats-it-like-for-a-Sikh-male-to-cut-his-hair-and-or-beard The Questions is "What is it like for a Sikh to cut his hair?" I do not know who asked this, but I did go through the answers. There are about 5-6 answers given by Sikh males themselves who got their hair cut at some point in their life. Yes, it did hurt me reading those answers, but I felt, as you all will feel that everyone has a right to express his/her story and there is not much wrong in that. However, let me describe some things here. If you look at the contents of the answers, you will find that mostly the people are describing that how difficult it was for them to maintain their hair, and how free they felt after getting it cut etc etc. They even mention that they felt 'proud' and 'free' after doing that. Now, tell me how many of us feel this way? Hair keeping is of course not difficult for us and we lovingly maintain it. Don;t you all feel that a wrong general idea is being circulated? I mean so many people read these answers; what information would they get? That all Sikhs are in great difficulty keeping their hair? I did have a one-one comment discussion also with one of those 'answerers'. Okay let us say that we ignore this and say that let people speak what they want to, we can't stop their mouths. But you know what is more disturbing??? I have seen answers there,in which the writer (a Sikh) addresses other Sikhs who want to cut their hair and narrates to them his act of bravery (of cutting his hair ) and even advises them to act!!! I have seen some Sikhs commenting and asking these people that even they want to cut their hair and how should they go about doing this? You know what reason a person was giving there? He writes that since he has cut his hair he has made many girlfriends , and before he had none. Such statements are being used to lure the youth to cut their hair? ( If you read one 'Jas Anand's' answer, you'll find this). Shouldn't we do something? I mean those people are advising other Sikhs that how to cut their hair/ how to convince their parents /how they will get girlfriends after that etc etc? What can we do? Atleast : 1)We should comment in opposition, that keeping hair has great benefits and we take pride in it, so that the readers are not misled. 2)We should report abuse the question( We never know if the answers are actually coming from fake accounts to demean the Sikh practices) 3) We should message the Quora admin in large numbers and ask him/her to remove the question as it is hurting religious sentiments. Here is the list of the admins (their names are mentioned in the answer http://www.quora.com/Who-are-the-current-site-admins-of-Quora Or we can send a mail to moderation@quora.com asking to do the same. Please everyone discuss and decide upon this.

Gur Fateh! I am 24 years old and have quite a bit gray hair in the front. I am hesitant to dye it as I have been blessed with amrit recently. Our rehat says we are not to dye our beard, but doesn't that also mean we cannot dye any of hair? I am asking because I'm in the midst of a marriage proposal. Our side is about to meet the guy's family, and of course I am being asked by many, to just dye my hair. Or at least, do something temporarily, like put mascara on the few hairs. I do wear makeup, so in my mind, that should be ok. But for some reason, i am still hesitant and had to ask my sangat. I am aware that ultimately, it is my connection with Guru ji that matters. I am aware that focusing on petty things like this aren't really of any real value, as this world is just a play. Yet still, Waheguru ji is watching us in each and every moment, watching all of our choices no matter how big or small. If some say sure, find a temporary fix, no problem-what do you suggest? If some say don't dare do it, stay strong-how would you answer to those sikhs/non sikhs that don't understand why it is important? Guide me please! Bhul Chuk Maaf.

WJKK WJKF Do you have to go pesh for accidentally removing hair? For example cleaning the inside of your nose with a tissue and hair being scraped out. Or beard hair being pulled by accident.

I'm a 14 year old Sikh boy. I have very long hair, it's down to my knees. My hair is starting to thin and my hairline is receding. How can I grow my hair back and make it thicker? Also, what should I use for daily grooming and how often should I wash it? I wash it once a week because it takes too long to dry. After I wash my hair, I usually put baby oil in it. I don't put anything in it daily. Does anyone have suggestions for what to use?

So I used to have long, strong and beautiful hair, don’t what happened over last two years but now my hair volume is halved, strands are thin and the ends are completely dry, brittle and weak. Whenever I wash or comb my hair, like long strands are just continuously coming out. It’s real scary as I’m in my early 20’s. Some background: I do have dandruff - my scalp is extremely flaky and itchy so I use an anti-dandruff shampoo. I’ve recently started using an antifungal cream in my scalp which has given me some relief. I never curl or straighten my hair and style my hair in anyway. I always air dry in the sun (only blow dry if it an absolutely must), and I do put some light oils like Moroccan oil to moisturise my hair. So I appreciate your suggestions for the following questions: What can I do to prevent hair fall- i.e. make my hair stronger? Since trimming is out of the question, how do I treat my annoying split ends? Is there any product that helps binds the strands together? My friends say I should leave my hair out for a few days and not tie in bun/guutt for better air ventilation. Is this true?

How do you do your hair for a gol pagh? I do a loose one at the moment but it looks really stupid. One side of the joora is higher than the rest so it sticks out and makes my pagh look wonky. ^sort of looks like that, one side has a lot more hair than the other.

Hey everyone, So I have been lurking this forum for quite some time, and I really like the help that everyone is getting. A lot of the people that post here are very intelligent in the Sikh ways and I hope you guys can help me out too, being that I don't know a lot of Sikh people besides my immediate family.It's only fair that I post my story so that other people can gain insight from my situation as I did. So I've been through a lot mentally, so I'll try to leave out the details. Basically I've been going through a lot with coping with my identity. I grew up in a Sikh family and I was having thoughts of cutting my hair and beard. I didn't want to tell anyone because I knew it would hurt my family, so I kept it in trying to battle it on my own. I didn't know a lot of Sikh people besides my close family, so I've been on my own for the most part. However over time, it got harder and harder. I was suppressing my emotions while I was with them, and was bottling it all in. After a few years of this, I had to tell someone. Eventually, we were bickering back and forth on discussing this matter and going nowhere fast. There was going to be no middle ground in this, and both of us knew that. Fast forward about 8 months later. I cut my hair and beard. I feel a lot better when it comes to my appearance, but its still not enough for me. We don't have the discussion much anymore, besides a few times when my dad says that it hurts him when he sees me. (When I go home, I wrap a turban on out of respect for my family. Yet it is still implicit that I did get it cut.) Not only does that add on to my guilt, I think about my family members who kept their identity and are doing well. I think about where I went wrong in my thinking that lead me to today. I love my family so much that I hate hurting them in this way. The last time I got my hair cut was in mid-July, and my mother was very happy that I haven't gone to get a haircut recently. It's things like this where my guilt clashes like a golf cart and a semi truck. I love my family so much that I don't want to hurt them, yet I'm conflicted with what I want to do. Even yesterday I went to the hair salon, but I couldn't go inside with the feelings of my family going through my mind, so I turned around and left. If I am really honest with myself, I like the way that I look now then the way I did before. I was even surprised about the reactions I got before and after; they are more positive now. But it's tough to maintain because of all the factors that I have mentioned before; with my family and those who kept up with it. I guess what I'm alluding to writing in this post is that my conflict has stayed the same. Before when I had my identity, it was my views vs the family views. And now after the fact, the game is still the same. Has anyone or does anyone know of anyone that has been through the same thing that I am going through and can share their experiences? My scope is limited because I don't know a lot of Sikh people, but from what I gather, its either an all or nothing thing: I've seen families where either they are all Sikhs and keep their identity, or families where none of them keep their identity. Not split like the situation that I am in. Any input would help. Thanks in advance for reading this and for your help.

In the last few years, I have been losing all of my hair. Doctors called it male pattern baldness and say theres nothing they can do. I have tried lots of western medicines and homeopathic medicines but nothing has worked. I have done ardaas to Guru Ji many times but it does not work. I will be bald before I am 30. I don't know what to do.

Im a skih and have been brought up to cut my hair and beard. although my dad doesnt approve of this i would like to keep my hair. if i start growing it now will it have any effect if i plan to take amrit or in general as a sikh thanks all for help waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh

Okay I'm 16 Years old and I have found some discrepancies in Sikhism that have caused me to lose faith. First of all guru Nanak dev ji did all he could to avoid violence and he was automatically respected wherever he went. Guru gobind Singh ji was war oriented and proclaimed Sikhs as the warrior race. Guru gobind Singh ji also said that we must keep a turban and Kesh. On the other hand guru Nanak dev ji said in one of his sakhis where the pandit was tying a bracelet on him, that he won't wear it because no exterior feature will help someone reach god. In addition guru Nanak dev ji said that it doesn't matter what religion you are as long as you're one with god and are humble. Guru Gobind Singh ji said we should wear a turban because kings at the time wore it and we should be proclaimed as kings. In my opinion that's not humble at all. Guru Nanak dev ji said that we are all equal no matter what and you shouldn't care if you have something others don't. Guru gobind Singh ji gave us a turban so we stick out and be recognized as Sikhs. Again not humble. Also Sikhs are not allowed to have their backs and feet towards Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji. But guru Nanak dev ji in one of his sakhis guru nakak dev ji went to a mosque and pointed his feet towards Mecca which Muslims could not do but he said that god is everywhere. I believe in guru Nanak dev ji but not the others after him. I believe I should cut my kesh now because I don't see a reason to keep it. How do I approach my parents about this? They aren't really religious and my dad trims but he loves India and Indian culture. He's very authoritarian but how do I approach my patents about this?

Do I bujjur kehhit if these thinks we're put on u and they had to been removen and they pulled hair out and u couldn't do anything

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa ,Waheguru Ji ki Fateh Everyone, I have a doubt. I read somewhere in the forums that we dnt cut hair because they are living(living cells) where as we cut extended nails because they are non living(dead cells). What if a sikh is born with a rare mutation ,example : a extra hand or something which is living but of no use.(the cases you see on discovery or national geography). Is he/she allowed to cut(obviously through operation) it? Now one more thing,Due to hair at my private parts I have got a fungal infection.Doctor simply said the reason was water clogging after bath. And no matter whatever you do it wont dry(i cant simply use a dryer)..and according to the forums I see you should not shave hairs no matter what. But whats the point when these living part is the cause of killing of other living cells plus the rashes and itch. Regards, Confused Sikh

Dear Sangat Ji, I am a frequent reader of this site but I seldom post, and am for the first time ever starting a new thread. I do so because I feel that we can perhaps openly examine as a community some of the root causes of many of the challenges that posters present here, especially in the Gupt section. I post here instead of "Whats Happening" as there may be those who wish to contribute but not reveal their identities. The topics that keep coming up over and over include: Women and issues with hair (and the fact that it affects their chances of marriage) Youngsters and romantic relationships (how soon they wish to start their journeys toward Ghristi Jeevan) Depression (having nobody to talk to or share their feelings with) Isolation (lack of sangat and the impact of social politics and dynamics) Each of these can be reduced to the last one on the list: Isolation or loneliness. The need for human contact, identity and belonging is recognised as paramount to healthy human development. The impact of being "under socialised" or isolated can lead to all kinds of psychological issues. In fact, the affects of isolation in the young can lead to "Failure to Thrive" syndrome where people cannot function or catch up with their "normal" counterparts. Today we exist in greater numbers that ever in human history, have vastly greater social connections than we have ever had, (this site is one example, and of course there is the social media that surrounds us), yet it seems that humans have never been lonelier. It has also been proposed that while we have more connections, the relationships have become shallower and less meaningful as they become greater in number. We might have 300 facebook friends and 300 phone contacts but feel like we have nobody to talk to. At the same time we naturally make efforts to be part of some or other social "tribe", and try to identify and be accepted by them by acting, talking and dressing alike. The human social instincts that we have been blessed with drive us to join with others and also drives our fear of rejection. In ancient times, social rejection (from your tribe or village) was a sure death sentence. We could not survive without the protection of our social group and its function to sustain members of the greater whole. Today, rejection is unlikely to result in death yet we still fear it as such. Loss of friends, the end of a marriage, the rejection of a proposal, rejection by those we would keep Sangat with, a breakdown in communication or relations with family, we may fear and treat any of these and react in a manner as if it is "the end of the world" (read death). Fear of being alone seems to be a great driver of the challenges that keep coming up for the Sangat on this site and beyond. Women who fear rejection due to their facial or body hair are afraid that they will end up unwed and alone (or with someone who does not fit the ideal picture they might have of a husband). Youngsters drawn to the rose tinted fantasy of romantic relationships are also trying to get a head start in the race to find a partner, again for fear of ending up alone. We all want to be close to others, to have understanding and to be appreciated by someone that will find us to be worthy. If we do not have this acceptance and appreciation, we face the terrifying prospect of not only a lonely life, but death at a genetic level as there are no children to carry on our biological heritage. Parents desire the respect of their children. Those who are bullied for being different wish that they would be accepted just like others are instead of being socially rejected. All human beings want to find their place in the world. And if we feel that those needs are not being fulfilled, we end up feeling isolated and depressed. Depression is so ubiquitous now that I was told that one Chardi Kala Gursikh said to one of the Singhs in their Sangat that "People come to us claiming that they have been attacked by black magic, that they do not understand what is happening to them, when in fact they are suffering from depression". They said that Mahraj describe it in baani as "Mann Ka Taap" or "disease of the mind". And why not. For someone who doesn't know what a panic attack, or a bipolar disorder is, a sudden shift in their equilibrium can be terrifying and seem supernatural. They may develop agoraphobia, claustrophobia or any one of numerous symptoms, as result of feelings of isolation and loneliness which lead them to depression. It is important to mention that isolation doesn't have to mean physical isolation. We can feel isolated within Sangat, within the family, even within a marriage. When faced with depression people can behave in destructive manners, i.e using the five vices of Kaam, Krodh, Lobh, Moh and Hankaar or addictions such as alcohol or drugs to try to protect themselves from the symptoms of depression. Then, we often see posts of people confessing their guilt and doing a virtual Peshi before the Sangat here, asking if Mahraj will ever forgive them, or posting that they have lost faith as they feel isolated even from Mahraj. The truth is depression is a mental illness. It has symptoms and those symptoms can be treated to correct the chemical imbalances that drive this illness. Further, it needn't be a cause of shame, any more than having the flu should cause us to be ashamed. For those who are currently facing depression I would like to add that there IS light at the end of the tunnel and there are ways of combating this. Different methods work for different people and there will be a combination of methods that will work for you. So Sangat ji, I invite you to share ways, both spiritual and practical that we might combat depression and its symptoms. I know some members will say "Do more Paath" and others will say "Get some exercise", I think it would be especially useful if those who themselves have faced or are dealing with depression to share the solutions that they have found and applied on their own journeys. I am hoping that in the advice that is shared members of the Sangat, wherever they are on their spiritual journey, will find inspiration and tools to carve their own path to well being.