my dear paji, keeping kes, refraining from meat, alcohol, drugs, and relationships, are not restrictions ...they are common sence
these are disciplines and TOOLS, rather then just 'rules' to HELP us acheive union with mahraj.
e.g not drinking alochol keeps a clear and alert mind, so we can keep focus on naam
before making the big decision, make sure it is a well and informed one, so i implore you to fully study/meditate on the essence of sikhi/truth, which is moolmantar.
In reference to ' i will look alot better with my hair cut'.... alot better for who? Its important to keep asking yourself why you are doing something in order to get to the root of it. Most of the time the root will be the existence of your 'self' as a seperate being, which is exactly what we should be trying to overcome
guaranteed, that once you take a closer look at this very rare and beautiful jewel of sikhi, it will be completely impossible for you to turn away, nothing else will seem as sweet
Maharaj has done much kirpa to bless you with enough pyaar to atleast question what you are doing, so let that pyaar grow, through seva, sangat and simran
please do ardaas to ask for the ability to understand the importance of kes, and the rest is up to maharaj
: )
hope that all goes well