Gurbani teaches us that this world is like a dream, nothing here you see is going to go with you when messenger of death will come to you.
The problem you are facing is the same most of the youth is facing today. Its called emotional attachment.
Gurbani says help everyone without expecting anything is return, means live in this world but remain de-attached .
Give God the first place in your heart and second position to your parents especially mother.
Anybody else deserves 3rd place even though if she's your wife (my view).
Remain attached to bani, do paath regularly , almighty God will give you power like a flower , drops of water fall on petals, but flower doesn't keep them.
It is freshed by water daily but it doesn't keep it.
Be like a flower, totally miles away from tension and un-necessary over-attachment.
Dnt get over attached, you are allowed to get only attached. The moment byou will cross line, you will one day reap Pain then whether its life partner's love ir children's love .
Do paath regularly you will surely become flower then.
No path means no progress.