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  1. Fair enough. To be more specific the "tragedy" from the "golden age" of "glory days" of when you went to a gurdwara to what you experianced going to that specific gurdwara you went to today in 2017. The resource I will give you is this playlist. If you want because it has at least 20+ hours of material. But I would specifically want you to focus from 1801 - 1925 and 1925 - 1984 and forward. This is the series made by The Basics of Sikhi. Personally I have never heard Nanak Naam channel. I will check it out now.
  2. "Either there are no answers or there are no satisfactory answers." - Radhanath Swami To understand this lecture watch the whole video. Now that you know the answer, should you stop complaining? Should we all stop complaining about what we think are bad? Including myself? I have meningitis and PTSD, it affects my studies in such a degree that my memory is like a 3-5 year old and because of that I can not keep a job as well as I have lost more then 4 jobs already. It makes it difficult to pass exams as well, I can not memorize my studies even if my life depended on it. My parents are in thier 60s and I worry that they will get dementia / alzheimer's and that I have to take care of them. I can write more when I got my cancer diagnosis but I think you get the point. So what am I supposed to do? Just lay down and die? No! I am not a depressed teenager anymore. I went to the internet to find the answers, because of course the answers are there. What I started to do was to first research on the internet because of course, how should I take care of my health during cancer? So I searched around the net and I gathered was that I should see after my own needs first and that I should have control over the life choices I make in life when it comes to cancer diagnosis. "Well, maybe in my next life." I thought: "I can not change s*** in my life." I mean I live in a punjabi family for Vaheguru's sake. But I think we all have choices in our lives. That is the gift that Vaheguru gave us. So what did I do? I started to change diet, for example Low Carb after I listened to the audiobook Grain Brain I try not to eat sugar at all any more. I try to do more Sadhana so that I can focus alot more on studies and on my life and ishnaan / cold showers to make my meningitis less painful. Trying to be physically, mentally and spiritually balance to deal with the issues in my life. So what I want to say is that as the lecture above mentions, focusing on your Sadhana will help you with alot of problems. Some more answers of karma. VJKK VJKF Cloud
  3. To answer this question I will just copy paste what I wrote here: http://answers.sikhnet.com/question/9590/amritdhari-women-and-dresses/http://answers.sikhnet.com/question/9590/amritdhari-women-and-dresses/ VJKK VJKF /Cloud
  4. Are you talking about youtube videos?
  5. Not all gurdwaras are punjabi social clubs although most of them started that way. Before I answer your question, how much of sikh history do you know?
  6. Alright. To clarify. Source: http://answers.sikhnet.com/question/10870/my-husband-is-amritdhaari-sikh-and-he-is-divorcing-me-after-domestic-violence-and-abuse-i-still-believed-that-my-husband-loved-me-i-cant-let-go-of-the/
  7. Coconut trees in North Canada and Scotland.
  8. I was watching this video If you watch between 15:00-38:00 He is talking about Lareevar. https://www.sikhnet.com/pages/lareevar I would like to know if there is any place that can teach me to read Lareevar in Europe? VJKK VJKF /Cloud
  9. When your parents came to UK for 25+ years ago. Alot of things were different then in Punjab compared to their new country. Usually when any family moves to another country, one coping defense mechanism to deal with the situation is to hold on tradition and values. That is basically what your parents have done. This will affect your parents and your brothers judgement when selecting a partner for your brother. Mostly they think that if they can choose a country girl that does not have access to internet they can then "mold" that country girl to your brothers future with that girl. Unfortunetly that country girl after getting married to your brother then want to go to Paris fashion week 2018 and become a modern sikh woman. This is a example what your parents see when they think of women in UK, US, CANADA etc. https://www.youtube.com/v/LFebWgqUtRY?start=27&end=420 Watch this until 7:17. Safe for work. That said I would just like to give you a word of advice. Right now in India was not what is what 25+ years ago. What is going on is a "Woodstock sexual revolution" were young teenage girls have to choose between view of women in India which has been so distorted by the moghals for 800-1000 years which treat them like cattle or like a group of consumers in the modern consumer culture which is right now consuming the consciousness of mankind. Most of them will choose the consumer ones of course. They will think this is 2017! They do not know of the "bad" sides of consumer culture like Bibi Sat Kirin Kaur. Good luck penji VVJK VJKF
  10. Penji. Put your degree at work and just leave him. I am suprised he did not get into jail for drunk driving endangering innocent peoples lives. Let me tell you something, you may not like to live with him but he does not want to be in his situation right now either based on my experience when I got arranged married by force. According to what you wrote he is texting other girls which means he maybe did not choose to get married either. And he is using alcoholism to deal with his issues. When he will not use the guru as an anchor to deal with his issues, did your parents even marry you off to a sikh? Your parents say that in sikhism there is no divorce. Well alot of people these days can not make a difference between anand karaj and marriage in sikhism. https://www.sikhnet.com/news/anand-karaj-and-lavan There are other good sources like basics of sikhi and Jagraj talk on "modern" anand karaj etc. Speaking of divorce. http://answers.sikhnet.com/question/9892/sikhism-on-divorce-and-re-marriage/ Your case is a clearly a karmic marriage as referred to the 3rd question. VJKK VJKF
  11. https://www.sikhnet.com/news/nihang-sikhs-modern-day-warriors-pacifists
  12. 1. My parents tell me that I am to young to take amrit. We have 3 things which belongs to god / Vaheguru. 1. Our soul which the source of god comes from. Our body which our souls reside to get back to the one source, the one akal purakh. And our mind which can we can either train with help of sadhana and bani to get closer to the source of light which is also Vaheguru. Now that you are 12 your body is going through alot of changes until you reach the age of around 25. What your parents worry about is Puberty Your soul will be the same. However your body and mind will go through some drastic changes. Puberty is a very sensitive part especially related to future school and work life.If you do not have a constant sadhana that can help you through puberty , this time of your life can be very diffucult. And as stated in the video, most of us that are adults speak with experiance. 2. You are going to cut your hair when you get older. Also based on experiance. Your parents maybe even took amrit themselves during young age/teens and speak of experiance. Without constant sadhana you will not have a back up plan when the time comes. 3. People don't hire amritdharis. Depends on which field you will apply. One reason is why most sikhs around the world get jobs is because they have been raised by thier parents to take a specialist field were the employer market needs people. For example by becoming a pathologist, a doctor that studies diseases and cells. 4. When will you get if you take amrit? ??? 5. You don't need to take Amrit to be a true Sikh. Sikh means a learner / disciple. With that perspective everyone in the world is a sikh because we learn through life. Being a sikh of the guru, a gursikh is a difference. More of that is discussed in the video above. 6. God doesn't give anything to amritdharis EDIT: Viktor Frankl experiances. 7. I am depressed, what should I do? VJKK VJKF /Cloud
  13. A hot potato topic! Let me in! I just want to say before I continue that when I got married I was a virgin and she was not. I got married at 22. Like the evangelical christians say, I "saved" myself for marriage unwillingly. More on that later. Your statement which is your personal opinion is that women should have fun as well. The answers you will get will probably be these videos from this forum. I personally think that these are very good answers on onwards towards the topic of virginity. Before we continue what is the concept of amrit and not taking amrit? Now lets turn that questions around. Why should men "save" themselves until marriage? Having sex outside of marriage will create karma which cause consequences. Whatever gender you are. WJKK WJKF
  14. I see a trend in Q&A sikhi forums with usernames for example with Sinful Kaur and PaapSingh etc. That sort of thinking comes from how our caretakers upbringed us in a punjabi background. As future parents we can lead by example. By eating healthy and taking 30 brisk walks and not "sair". And speaking of yoga... Watch it till 3:44 What is receiving amrit from the guru to you? Good luck! WJKK WJKF!
  15. Not my intention. Altough I find the borderlines security programs entertaining. My idea was to make sure that that what he wanted. Many who go to punjab for religious experiances get very disappointed when seeing the corruption that Punjab have which makes it a very traumatic experiance. Punjab as the land of our ancestors and our historical places does not mean anything to me personally when it comes to sikhi. In Gurbani it says that even you visit the 68 places of pilgrimages you will still not find amrit within yourself. If I want to learn and have a deeper connection to sikhi, to meet the right group of people/sangaht that we can help ourselves toghether towards sikhi then Punjab would be not the place to go. If I were him I would stay in England, Southall and go every Sunday to the Gurdwara there and listen to the english kathas which also have classes in gurbani or at least people willing to help you learn gurbani. No need to chase the big money in London City. I've listened to the Audiobook Swimming with Sharks: Inside the World of the Bankers by Joris Luyendijk. no need to earn money in London City. Exactly. I am aware of the problems in Punjab. You sir in my opinion have a very green fantasy that Punjab is greener on the other side. First of all we all know of the Desertification of punjab, the radioactive spills, the cancer villages, alcoholism, drugs etc. That is also true. I just do not think that either if he stays in London or he moves to Punjab, it is the same. I am NOT saying we should let Punjab go this way. I personally think that Punjab future should be built this way all over Punjab. But with a more ECOSIKH values , green energy and less consumer consumption thinking and more green houses with lower rent for building the slums away. To help others we have to start by helping ourselves and our sikhi. WJKK WJKF /Cloud