I want to say thank you for all the messages.. I was in tears reading some of them! I think it is very important for myself and my husband to do this the sikh way. We are not as religious as I'd like us to be, but do go to the gudwara... I do pray everyday, the mool mantra, and during the pregnancy would often play shabads on full volume in the car and house to my baby bump... She would often move closer to the speaker when I had the mool mantra on.. it was like a sign to say she enjoyed it more than the usual r&b! I started to learn more about sikhism thoughout the pregnancy, as I wanted her to learn early on.. My parents are religious, however they didn't really teach us much as children, I really wish I knew so much more!
Before I read any replies, I was broken in bits... couldn't hold back my tears..My family too are finding it difficult to cope, however once I read what our Guru ji's had taught us, i felt better... I mean, I would love to believe she is an angel and is watching over us, and will wait for me with god... I think I hold this somewhere in my heart.. I don't understand about the bad karma.. I mean she is a baby...!! I know some of you say that she was innocent and her soul did bhagti.. so then if she did this then surely her sins from a previous life have been washed??
The fate of the baby is entirely up to Vahiguru, I totally believe this..this is what made me feel better. I know she is in safe hands too! The reason I wanted her buried is so I could go to visit her in the baby garden at anytime, I know now that we believe the body is a shell... but i just want to know she's there... I guess I just never planned to arrange a funeral for my child, so it's hard, but I do wish to take flowers and things like that whenever I miss her! Had the Gyanni said she MUST be cremated then I would have arranged this no question about it... but knowing it's for us to decide I prefer the burial! My husband would like her creamated along with his family..but I don't think i can do this! Another thing.. I came home from the hospital yesterday, so the 3 days n hospital, i spent with her body.. I held her and kept her close to me for hours, I gave her back to nurses after a few hours as she needed to be kept in a fridge..i wanted to keep her with me, but i did wonder if this was wrong of me... my mum said I shouldn't keep her body with me as it's not her anymore, but I needed her... I still do! Sorry, i know i am going on..I'm just very much on edge right now...and like I said the messages and shabads really touched my heart.. I feel like your all praying for her kinda thing!! Thank you once again!
WJKK WJKF!