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  1. Any specifics? You wanted to teach your kid Mandarin Chinese by immersion? Dadi doesn't recite sakhis to the child? Extremely bad idea to have a business partner of the opposite sex. The feminists reading this probably won't like this, because it will restrict women's business and working opportunities, but: It is a very bad idea to have someone in your work that you spend large amounts of time with alone of the opposite sex. Of course, it is entirely possible that nothing is going on between your husband and the other lady, but 1) I doubt that, and 2) even if nothing's going on, the situation has bad effects all around, such as on you, and maybe this lady's husband. The reason this is a bad idea is that when two people struggle together for a common goal, and then achieve that goal, there are strong feelings of accomplishment and happiness. It is very easy to succumb to wanting to celebrate that happiness with physicality. This is not just in relation to business partners, but can also apply to big customers and co-workers (the "work wife" phenomenon). Why a 'work wife' is a threat to your marriage. It is entirely possible that your husband has become emotionally attached to his business partner lady, and that's the reason he is dismissive of your concerns, because he's emotionally blinded. Don't take this the wrong way, but you need some help with English composition before you become a writer. There are many writing workshops being held, like here and here. Good luck.
  2. Where did the original poster say her MIL was using Whatsapp? There's no mention of Whatapp whatsoever on the first page of posts that I can see. Not true, necessarily. There are plenty of cases of doting grandmothers who possibly think that their grandsons will be their chamchas, but when they grow up they know exactly who their mother is and who their grandmother is, and what the difference is. To that extent, I think women should not be alarmed at sons spending a lot of time with dadi. As I mentioned before, children need time with mother, but they should not be used as pawns, either by the mother or dadi. While the dadi was basically using the poti as a pawn in the OP's post, there are also women who do the reverse and use the children as pawns to control or restrict the MIL. Telling women your statement above is a good way to make them paranoid about children spending any time at all with dadi, for fear that they could be influenced by the dadi, thereby setting up the stage for fights and shouting matches. What would better to tell a mother is "Let the children spend however much time with the dadi, it still won't have an effect on your relationship with them when they grow older." That would set mothers up for being calm and sane. Who says the MIL was sponsored by the DIL? It could easily be the other way around, and probably is, given some clues in the post.
  3. First video summary Arvinder Kaur, program director Fateh TV says: In the parikarma Koriean ladies were speaking In Hindi and English asking if you want to become Christian. Will give money if you adopt our religion. Arvinder got upset. When Arvinder tried to take one of their parchar books, one of the women hit her with a slap on the face. SGPC employees came and said the women could do a case on you, and had them write a letter that we didn't know you can't do this (convert people) in India. SSP also came and said, "Nimarta rakho" (Be humble) We get pleased that foreingers are coming to our Gurdwaras. But they are coming and possiblyconverting wayward Sikhs. The girls were very light skinned and good looking and stylish. SGPC employees said that the matter will go to the embassies, they we hit them. [What's the use of the SGPC's security cameras in the parikarma, then?] I didn't hit them, I just tried to get the book. Second video summary The Korean guy in the 2nd video from Facebook says, "We are praying for all these people so they can receive Jesus Christ". Has 3 Indian Christians with him (showing him the way as local guides, presumably). Comments The gall of these people is amazing! To come to our place, just such an open and welcoming place like no other in the world. Instead of being amazed at the hospitality of the Sikhs, they take advantage of it to run up their conversion numbers like it's a game. They have totally missed the point, both of life and religion. Out of all the peoples of the world, they had to make a beeline for Darbar Sahib to convert the Sikhs? I'll bet you an old and broken Rubik's cube that they then went to Langar to enjoy free food off the "pagan" Sikhs. You mean to tell me there are no illiterate tribals they can convert? No boozers and rapists in Korea to convert? No non-Christians in the entire country of South Korea? Not to mention North Korea? They hate Sikhism because they fear it. Can you imagine a bunch of Sikhs going to St. Peter's Square at the Vatican to convert Catholics to SIkhism? Does the church in Korea that these women attend allow Sikhs to come inside their church and convert Christians? Yeah, I thought not. Forget being Christian, these people do not even have the right to be called humans. Normal human beings have a sense of respecting the owner of the house you're in. These people don't even have that level of sense. Would you go to someone's house and ask the wife if she wants to leave her husband? Now, I know a lot of you are going to come down hard on the SGPC, but under the current Indian inferiority mentality, I think they are probably right. These women and their church would probably have made big deal about the whole thing, and the Indian government would have lain down in front of the Korean ambassador. The Korean man has chutzpah, that's for sure. He gestures towards the Sikhs in the parikarma like they are all just blind, deluded people, Jesus please save them. Again, would we go (or even be allowed) to pray at their places that all these people are blind, Guru Nanak please save them? BTW, this also disproves any fear that people like the Quebecois have about Sikhs and their kirpans. You've got a Korean guy plus the Korean girls openly preaching Christianity and basically calling Sikhs pagans at their central place, and all these Sikhs walking around with their "knives" and swords don't immediately kill them? Disproves the kirpan-derangement mentality (OMG! A knife!). Oh, and Samsung SUCKS!
  4. You could be strong mentally, yet weak physically. See here about relative physical strength of women. It's true that the idea of continually reminding the man to protect seems problematic. One time isn't enough? At the same time, how is it the natural duty of a Singh to protect his sister if she can already take care of herself? Hmm. Yet Sikhs dispense with thalis. Could this be analogous to non-Christians exchanging gifts on Christmas while also not believing in Jesus, having a tree, or going to Church on Christmas?
  5. Story? Guru Sahib said that? Brother, if a woman could defend herself against a man in the same way that a man could defend himself against a man, why do women not compete in the Olympics in the same events as men? It's because, on average, they don't have the same strength, endurance, or explosive force as men. Forget on average, even the top women cannot beat men, even boys. Australia's national women's football team couldn't score a single point against 14 year olds, and lost 7 to 0. What if the Singhs back in the day had said to Hindu and other abducted girls, "Hey, equality. Save yourself." Note that the above does not mean that it logically follows that you have to wear a thread on your wrist. True. So, what about friendship bracelets and LiveStrong bands? Sexism is a reason to not do something? I think people (in the West) are increasingly waking up to the problems with feminism and feminism's definitions of equality. In fact only a maximum of 18% of people even are feminists in America. If the West is waking up to the problems of feminism, why do we have adopt it, and then later reject it 100 years after Westerners do so?
  6. You're right. But nothing in this world is for free. He'll definitely have to hustle, and convince the employer that employing him would benefit the employer highly. The other option is the working holiday visa, not requiring a job offer. One assumes that if he were to get a free visa in the mail for Canada, he'd have to find a job. So he can just pretend he's immigrated to Canada, and get a job with that mindset.
  7. Yeah, sounds like the UK now, and the US, and Germany, and a lot of other places. Leaving the only option being to go back to Punjab if you're allergic to those sorts.
  8. You're absolutely right. I'm surprised that no one has mentioned that he can travel to Canada with no visa whatsoever. Once he's visiting, he can hook up with an employer. The employer can put an ad in the paper, and if they get no suitable responses, they can truthfully state that no qualified Canadians are available. But you should not state that you are going to look for work. You should go on an actual vacation and see Canada. Only while you're there, you can also look and see if there are jobs. A second way which I had forgotten, is that one needs absolutely no job to go to work in Canada. If you are between 18 and 30, you can go on a "working vacation" in Canada, no job offer required! http://www.canadianimmigration.net/work/holiday-visa/ http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/work/iec/index.asp?country=uk http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/work/iec/eligibility.asp
  9. While agreeing that the fasting and tombs and such are out of the question, including getting threads from babas and of course the janeu, would the same apply to non-religious gift threads like Rakhri? If so, are we also prohibited from wearing a medal, whose strap is made of thread? If not, why not? If we can't wear Rakhri, can we wear friendship bracelets? And LiveStrong bracelets?
  10. OK, bro, whatever you say. You may want to look into the requirements of the various provinces, except for the most populous provinces of BC and Ontario. They have much lesser requirements for immigration, because they want to fill up their provinces, where nobody lives. Quebec is a whole nother kettle of fish, which its own immigration requirements different from Anglophone Canada. Not sure how much French you know. Check here and here for province requirements. Each province has its own website which you will have to go through and determine your points. Good luck.
  11. If by "you" you mean "one", then one does not need a job offer letter merely to apply for a visa to move to Canada (which is what he said, not a work permit). It's just that having a job letter gets you a hundreds of points in the Express Entry point system. A letter from a province gets you even more points. But to get that letter, you usually have to ... have a job offer. There are other ways, too, but none that may apply to this brother: higher education, having studied in Canada, having $500K ready to invest in Canada. So yeah, for this brother, he would likely only make the points cutoff if he had a job lined up. For other people reading this thread, you could easily qualify without a job.
  12. You have no progenitors? Well, that's certainly not good for trying to get into Canada. Go here and figure out how many points you have for immigration to Canada: http://www.workpermit.com/immigration/canada/canadian-immigration-points-calculator
  13. Well, if it's impossible, sure. But note that the the impossibility stems from krodh (anger) and haumai (ego) all around. Yet the same anger and ego that makes it impossible for a nuclear family to live with dadi also makes it impossible for husband and wife to live together, and then when the wife splits off, for the children to live with the mother and they will want to be legally emancipated because it's "impossbile". What we end up with is simply the same thing as the 21st century Leftist West: Do whatever you want to do. Which is another name for manmat: Doing what your mann wants. Seriously, bro? The tuk is Guru Sahib's, not mine. You are effectively questioning Gurbani. In any case, the point is not necessarily dadi recounting "we used to idol-worship Shiva back in the day", but all manner of things that your ancestors did: Some examples: how we cultivated the jungle region of Pakistan, the pain of partition, how people used to live simply, how we lost our business due to inability to pay back a loan and we had to struggle for 2 decades to get back on our feet, how your grandfather's brother was born genetically deformed and how he had to help him all his life, how the servant was so poor she could not marry her daughter so we helped her out, etc, etc. Bro, dharam is not the same thing as getting up and doing Japji Sahib and wearing 5 kakkars (though that's required for us indeed). Dharam is not something that didn't exist before Guru Nanak Dev ji, and just came into existence when Guru Sahib was born, or started parchar. Dharam is something greater, and older. Read this tuk: ਸੁਣਿ ਸਾਖੀ ਮਨ ਜਪਿ ਪਿਆਰ ॥ Listen to the stories of the devotees, O my mind, and meditate with love. Now a question for you: Do you think the sakhis that Guru sahib says to listen to are "Sikh" sakhis or "Hindu" sakhis. Don't look ahead and cheat!! ---- Answer: "Hindu" sakhis: ਬਸੰਤੁ ਮਹਲਾ ੫ ਘਰੁ ੧ ਦੁਤੁਕੀਆ Basant, Fifth Mohalla, First House, Du-Tukee: ੴ ਸਤਿਗੁਰ ਪ੍ਰਸਾਦਿ ॥ One Universal Creator God. By The Grace Of The True Guru: ਸੁਣਿ ਸਾਖੀ ਮਨ ਜਪਿ ਪਿਆਰ ॥ Listen to the stories of the devotees, O my mind, and meditate with love. ਅਜਾਮਲੁ ਉਧਰਿਆ ਕਹਿ ਏਕ ਬਾਰ ॥ Ajaamal uttered the Lord's Name once, and was saved. ਬਾਲਮੀਕੈ ਹੋਆ ਸਾਧਸੰਗੁ ॥ Baalmeek found the Saadh Sangat, the Company of the Holy. ਧ੍ਰੂ ਕਉ ਮਿਲਿਆ ਹਰਿ ਨਿਸੰਗ ॥੧॥ The Lord definitely met Dhroo. ||1|| ਤੇਰਿਆ ਸੰਤਾ ਜਾਚਉ ਚਰਨ ਰੇਨ ॥ I beg for the dust of the feet of Your Saints. ਲੇ ਮਸਤਕਿ ਲਾਵਉ ਕਰਿ ਕ੍ਰਿਪਾ ਦੇਨ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥ Please bless me with Your Mercy, Lord, that I may apply it to my forehead. ||1||Pause|| ਗਨਿਕਾ ਉਧਰੀ ਹਰਿ ਕਹੈ ਤੋਤ ॥ Ganika the prostitute was saved, when her parrot uttered the Lord's Name. ਗਜਇੰਦ੍ਰ ਧਿਆਇਓ ਹਰਿ ਕੀਓ ਮੋਖ ॥ The elephant meditated on the Lord, and was saved. ਬਿਪ੍ਰ ਸੁਦਾਮੇ ਦਾਲਦੁ ਭੰਜ ॥ He delivered the poor Brahmin Sudama out of poverty. ਰੇ ਮਨ ਤੂ ਭੀ ਭਜੁ ਗੋਬਿੰਦ ॥੨॥ O my mind, you too must meditate and vibrate on the Lord of the Universe. ||2|| ਬਧਿਕੁ ਉਧਾਰਿਓ ਖਮਿ ਪ੍ਰਹਾਰ ॥ Even the hunter who shot an arrow at Krishna was saved. ਕੁਬਿਜਾ ਉਧਰੀ ਅੰਗੁਸਟ ਧਾਰ ॥ Kubija the hunchback was saved, when God placed His Feet on her thumb. ਬਿਦਰੁ ਉਧਾਰਿਓ ਦਾਸਤ ਭਾਇ ॥ Bidar was saved by his attitude of humility. ਰੇ ਮਨ ਤੂ ਭੀ ਹਰਿ ਧਿਆਇ ॥੩॥ O my mind, you too must meditate on the Lord. ||3|| ਪ੍ਰਹਲਾਦ ਰਖੀ ਹਰਿ ਪੈਜ ਆਪ ॥ The Lord Himself saved the honor of Prahlaad. ਬਸਤ੍ਰ ਛੀਨਤ ਦ੍ਰੋਪਤੀ ਰਖੀ ਲਾਜ ॥ Even when she was being disrobed in court, Dropatee's honor was preserved. ਜਿਨਿ ਜਿਨਿ ਸੇਵਿਆ ਅੰਤ ਬਾਰ ॥ Those who have served the Lord, even at the very last instant of their lives, are saved. ਰੇ ਮਨ ਸੇਵਿ ਤੂ ਪਰਹਿ ਪਾਰ ॥੪॥ O my mind, serve Him, and you shall be carried across to the other side. ||4|| ਧੰਨੈ ਸੇਵਿਆ ਬਾਲ ਬੁਧਿ ॥ Dhanna served the Lord, with the innocence of a child. ਤ੍ਰਿਲੋਚਨ ਗੁਰ ਮਿਲਿ ਭਈ ਸਿਧਿ ॥ Meeting with the Guru, Trilochan attained the perfection of the Siddhas. ਬੇਣੀ ਕਉ ਗੁਰਿ ਕੀਓ ਪ੍ਰਗਾਸੁ ॥ The Guru blessed Baynee with His Divine Illumination. ਰੇ ਮਨ ਤੂ ਭੀ ਹੋਹਿ ਦਾਸੁ ॥੫॥ O my mind, you too must be the Lord's slave. ||5|| ਜੈਦੇਵ ਤਿਆਗਿਓ ਅਹੰਮੇਵ ॥ Jai Dayv gave up his egotism. ਨਾਈ ਉਧਰਿਓ ਸੈਨੁ ਸੇਵ ॥ Sain the barber was saved through his selfless service. ਮਨੁ ਡੀਗਿ ਨ ਡੋਲੈ ਕਹੂੰ ਜਾਇ ॥ Do not let your mind waver or wander; do not let it go anywhere. ਮਨ ਤੂ ਭੀ ਤਰਸਹਿ ਸਰਣਿ ਪਾਇ ॥੬॥ O my mind, you too shall cross over; seek the Sanctuary of God. ||6||\ ਜਿਹ ਅਨੁਗ੍ਰਹੁ ਠਾਕੁਰਿ ਕੀਓ ਆਪਿ ॥ O my Lord and Master, You have shown Your Mercy to them. ਸੇ ਤੈਂ ਲੀਨੇ ਭਗਤ ਰਾਖਿ ॥ You saved those devotees. ਤਿਨ ਕਾ ਗੁਣੁ ਅਵਗਣੁ ਨ ਬੀਚਾਰਿਓ ਕੋਇ ॥ You do not take their merits and demerits into account. ਇਹ ਬਿਧਿ ਦੇਖਿ ਮਨੁ ਲਗਾ ਸੇਵ ॥੭॥ Seeing these ways of Yours, I have dedicated my mind to Your service. ||7|| ਕਬੀਰਿ ਧਿਆਇਓ ਏਕ ਰੰਗ ॥ Kabeer meditated on the One Lord with love. ਨਾਮਦੇਵ ਹਰਿ ਜੀਉ ਬਸਹਿ ਸੰਗਿ ॥ Naam Dayv lived with the Dear Lord. ਰਵਿਦਾਸ ਧਿਆਏ ਪ੍ਰਭ ਅਨੂਪ ॥ Ravi Daas meditated on God, the Incomparably Beautiful. ਗੁਰ ਨਾਨਕ ਦੇਵ ਗੋਵਿੰਦ ਰੂਪ ॥੮॥੧॥ Guru Nanak Dayv is the Embodiment of the Lord of the Universe. ||8||1|| ਬਸੰਤੁ (ਮਃ ੫) ਗੁਰੂ ਗ੍ਰੰਥ ਸਾਹਿਬ ਅੰਗ ੧੧੯੨ Was Ajamal a "Hindu" or a "Sikh"? Why did Guru Sahib tell us to remember his sakhI? Please answer these two questions. Don't doubt Guru Sahib. He is Satguru, we are followers. Note for Hinduphobes: If you read the entire shabad, Guru Arjan Dev ji lists all the "Hindu" personalities that we should remember, but at the very end says Guru Nanak Dev ji is the very form of God. Meaning that the Avatars (Ram Chander, Krishan Bhagvan, etc.) had some level of powers from God, but they were not God. Not so for Guru Nanak Dev ji.
  14. The reason, bro, is that I'm responding to each individual person's posts, and people probably don't want to read a book in order to know how I responded to them. Neither do lurkers, in my estimation. Just the response to @jkvlondon was 4 laptop screens long, and I had to break up a separate part of that. Having a 10-screen long post would be insane, in my subjective view. Easier to keep arguments apart when the posts are manageable. Bhul chuk muaf.
  15. Agreed: ਮਿਠਤੁ ਨੀਵੀ ਨਾਨਕਾ ਗੁਣ ਚੰਗਿਆਈਆ ਤਤੁ ॥ Sweetness and humility, O Nanak, are the essence of virtue and goodness. ਆਸਾ ਵਾਰ (ਮਃ ੧) (੧੪) ਸ. (੧) ੧:੪ - ਗੁਰੂ ਗ੍ਰੰਥ ਸਾਹਿਬ : ਅੰਗ ੪੭੦ You started off with a bang and ended with a whimper. What I mean to say is that you made it seem like you were going to say something extremely controversial, and you followed up with something that's really not that controversial. All you said is they should spend more time, not 100%. That's fine, I suppose, but it will vary from family to family. The classic case is the dad who is busy at work, and the kids play with the unmarried and vehla chacha, who is happy to oblige. Again, varies upon the situation. Yes, it is different. Gurbani stresses on how important the mother/father and child relationship is with multiple references. ("Mera mat pita har raia", and "Tu mera pita tu hai mera mata"). Yet it also shows the importance of ancestors (precedents of our parents): ਬਾਬਾਣੀਆ ਕਹਾਣੀਆ ਪੁਤ ਸਪੁਤ ਕਰੇਨਿ ॥ The stories of one's ancestors make the children good children. ਰਾਮਕਲੀ ਵਾਰ¹ (ਮਃ ੩) (੧੦) ਸ. (੩) ੧:੧ - ਗੁਰੂ ਗ੍ਰੰਥ ਸਾਹਿਬ : ਅੰਗ ੯੫੧ The word "baba" used here is literally what people call their grandfathers. So while love and time spent with parents attaches us to our (physical and immediate) creators, the same with grandparents grounds us with our ancestors and the link to the past. I think both are important. As noted above, leaving the joint family is an extreme step and in general is against Gurmat, though I can't know about any family's particular situation.
  16. Agreed. The dadi should not throw a fit demanding that the child sleep with her in order to show her power in the household. Rather, she should offer to let the child sleep with her, in Gursikh piar, as I wrote above. However... Stunningly wrong for someone who usually posts good advice. Let me fix that for you: "Children need to bond with their parents so they can develop correctly, mentally, and physically. The problems are stored for later, and they will want to climb in your bed yet be banned from doing so, unable to have a sense of being loved, unable to travel easily, infantile temper tantrums at school age due to lack of love." This is called "attachment parenting" and "co-sleeping". Your baby needs motherly contact (best being skin-to-skin), and proximity. Your baby can smell its mother being next to it. Don't deprive her of that. Don't be like the Westerners that cruelly put their children into separate bedrooms while they cry themselves to sleep. Also don't be the people who put their baby in a cage (crib) apart from mommy. Now, our grandparents didn't call it "co-sleeping", it was just "sleeping". You put the baby next to mother. Where else would you put her? She's not a dog that you keep off to the side. She's a little part torn off of you. Any unmarried girls reading along, plan to keep that little jiggar da tota right next to you when you have babies. Get an appropriately sized bed for this purpose. The biggest thing crazy thing that brainwashed Westerners will say about lovingly keeping your child with you is that you'll smother it. This mostly happens to the extremely small number of Western women whose motherly instincts have been extinguished by an artificial society. Otherwise, as mentioned above, God has already put the right instincts into a mother to be able to care for her child, even while sleeping. Being worried that you'll smother your child is like wondering how you could ever push a 5 pound baby out of the birth canal: women have been doing it for hundreds of thousands of years. Most people are deadly terrified of snakes. You are 28X more likely to die in your bathtub than from a snake. Yet have you ever heard anyone be more terrified of a bathtub than a snake, let alone 28 times as afraid? So get this nonsense about smothering out of your head. Finally, most mothers should be thankful that the dadi offers (not demands) to take the child off of her so she can "get down to business" with dear hubby . Physical (and non-physical) intimacy between man and wife is extremely important. This (sleeping with dadi) can be occasionally, weekly, every other day, or even daily, depending on the family and mother's desires. As for whether a dadi can fulfill this role of a mother-substitute after nursing stops, and to what extent, is something that each family will have to decide on their own, based on the child, her desires, dadi's personality, mother's desires, etc., in Gursikh love, not using the children as pawns. 180 degrees wrong. A child that fulfills her social needs in her own family and home will not need to look elsewhere to manmukh neighbors/"friends" or even worse Internet "friends" or possibly predators. Western children are usually lonely and starving for attention, which they get in spades from all the wrong places.
  17. Very good constructive advise. Maybe the dadi can do all this and/or Kirtan Sohila before the child goes to sleep wherever she will sleep. Strongly agree w/ the part about men. Don't necessarily agree about the part about MIL. Regardless: what cries? One assumes the child is not nursing. If she is, she should not be with dadi in the first place, she should be with her mother. If she's not nursing, then: what cries?
  18. You refused to give up your son for a single night?! How will you be able to send him to school?
  19. Excellent advice. Now, why don't you sign up for a FREE account (limited time offer), and regularly dispense such sage advice on this forum, which sorely needs it.
  20. Sorry to hear that. Sounds like you both need some clam naam simran. You know, you could have it a lot worse. You could be having to tie her up on your back while you toil in the fields, and then later forage for firewood. Instead, you've got a whole extended family of people who are falling all over themselves to take care of her, leaving you free to do your work (admittedly much easier than most women in this world have). First world problems. Let's be thankful and not ungrateful to God. I do agree that the the MIL should not command that the daughter has to sleep with her. Rather, she should offer to have her sleep with her. In addition, she can very kindly ask you to let the child sleep with her sometimes. And I think you should agree to it. Not every single time, though. I'm assuming the girl is not nursing anymore. By having the child sleep with her, the MIL is letting you and your husband have love time, which is very important. I would not recommend to anybody to pull anybody's turban off, be they even a jihadi, much less a Sikh. I understand your frustration, but you should not seriously tell your husband to leave his parents, because this is against Gurmat: ਨੁਹੁ ਨਿਤ ਕੰਤ ਕੁਮੰਤੁ ਦੇਇ ਵਿਹਰੇ ਹੋਵਨਿ ਸਸੁ ਵਿਗੋਈ। Now, the bride starts ill-advising the son, goading him to get separate from the parents, and consequently the mother-in-law becomes sorrowful. ਲਖ ਉਪਕਾਰੁ ਵਿਸਾਰਿ ਕੈ ਪੁਤੁ ਕੁਪੁਤਿ ਚਕੀ ਉਠਿ ਝੋਈ। Forgetting lacs of benefactions (of mother) the son becomes disloyal and sets himself at logger-heads with his parents. ਵਾਰਾਂ ਭਾਈ ਗੁਰਦਾਸ : ਵਾਰ ੩੭ ਪਉੜੀ ੧੧ I do think that all of you should resolve the situation in Gursikh love and give each family member his due. Wish you well.
  21. Oh, is there a non-anonymous like system? That would be good, if that's just a small setting that the admins can set. The only reason I say that is that there seemed to be some abuse of the system in that one thread noted by, I think, @Jacfsing2, about sockpuppet accounts liking some newbies posts within minutes of the post. Myself, I only like a very small number of exceptional posts, not necessarily even ones that even 100% agree with.
  22. Yeah. Just a small benti to the admins: Please don't ban @JS79 or @singhunit. So far as I have seen, they have argued vigorously for their views, but haven't made the mistake of use bad vocabulary like the detestable Inder Singh Ghagga. @JS79 has even disavowed Ragi Darshan Singh, showing that he's not a blind missionary robot. Only by engaging with Sikhs who have been infected with the missionary mindset can we hope to make progress in refuting their (missionaries') nonsense. Not only that, but the vast majority of people who come to this site never post. You have to have arguments present to them in order to dissuade them of the missionary mindset. And you can only have an argument if you have an opposing side.
  23. Although I don't have a tuk ready for you at the moment, I would like to say that there are many references in Gurbani to the fight of the Pandavs and Kauravs plus what happened to Draupadi. Now what's the cause of all this? Wagering, basically. So I feel we should train ourselves to be able to avoid wagering. That said, my money's on McGregor. (Jk, bro!) If Mayweather wins, I will give you a smiley face icon.
  24. What, this really happened?! Sunny Hundal is a seriously messed up self-hating Islamophile coconut leftist, but in this he would truly outdo himself. I know that he hates his own Kaum with a passion, but not being able to even spare your own saka brother?? I can hardly believe it ... so, do you have a link, bro?