Sath

So now we'v heard the shabads, but how is that we clean our inner self? Is there something called a free-inner-cleansing-programme? Yes! And its free. The best way to clean every dirt in urself is to talk about all the previous negative thoughts and experiences u'v had... v. very openly. Try it and you will feel relieved!

Well said Pheena. NEVER expect anything from anyone... Expectations are no good - it leads to dependency of the other person - which leads to attachment - which is then only a false relationship. And about this brother of yours... He might have started to get feelings for you, which could be a reason for the distance. Or some other things might have gotten into his life that has occupied him. Or maybe your just growing apart from each other. And if you dont want that to happen - COMMUNICATE - talk to him about this problem. Be open and ask why this distance? Wish you the best!

Dearest I understand your situation. This situation can be avoided if you have a good relationship with your husband. Maybe there is a lack of communication between you two. COMMUNICATION is the most important factor to be in a healthy relationship. I suggest you to talk with your husband about this and tell him to open the door between you and the mother-in-law. Or have a decent heart to heart talk with your mother in law - be a friend instead of a daughter-in-law. Otherwise just stay strong! You need to make some changes before its too late, and when you say 16yrs you must have done something, but maybe not enough! Get the car moving by putting some petrol in it, otherwise it'll just remain stuck... if you won't its your own fault. God Bless!