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Everything posted by AjeetSinghPunjabi

  1. Disclaimer : Not intended to spread hatred for any religion . But to expose biases that exist in sikh community Someone else started a thread "Why Muslims should never be trusted" , so I thought of it a fair act to create a similar thread on why hindus shouldn't be trusted either, based on sikh history, both old and recent. Guru Arjan dev was martyred because of kartoot of chandu baahman. Guru Gobind Singh ji's small saahibzaade were martyred because of suchanand and gangu traitor . Pahaadi raaje were hindu and didn't value Guru ji's sacrifice of his father for saving hindu dharm. One of genocides of 18th century, chhota ghalughara was done by lakhpat rai. 84 genocide was done by and condoned by hindus. Hindus make fun of sikh men and our religion as if their men are all handsome princes LOL. They spoiled our girls who don't want to marry a sardar but opt for a "clean shaven" . Hindus never did fair representation of sikhs either in history books, media or even present opportunities. Hindus don't care when sikhs get killed in west or our kirpans get banned but call us out as khalistani european/canadian sikhs. They have always made attempts are submerging sikh identity under theirs. Singh sabha movement saved us then. They still keep making lies to imply that Sikh texts venerate hindu deities and sikh gurus themselves worshipped hindu deities. But today sikh history is whitewashed in favor of hindus . So hindus are seen as "excessively brotherly" for us , while all muslims are the devil . You can see that on this forum itself . Most sikhs (including my parents) curse whole of muslim lot for mughal tyranny but conveniently overlook chandu, gangu, suchanand , lakhpat rai, jaspat rai, etc.
  2. This is the biggest lie peddled by us! Hindu doesn't mean thief in arabic. I hv checked it several times.
  3. That is bcoz of our complacency and the fact that punjabia di akal godeya ch hundi.
  4. Hindus control our leaders by remote control. They will attack us but always via some sellout sikh. Badals and our gullible sikh leaders come to my mind.
  5. Thank you so much for exposing these. I just saw these yesterday. This is not the first time they want harmandar sahib as their Hindu mandir. They cut the hands that defended their existence. Waheguru is watching! They will even lose india i tell you
  6. I have often at times wondered why I am the way I am , but I also remember 101% that I didn't have a choice in it. If something makes me happy and I do have many such things in life thanks to god, then I often think its not just gurprasad but I earned it by some noble deeds in past lives. As Guru Nanak dev ji says in Japji sahib "Jeti sirath upaai vekha, vin karma ke miley layi" (As vast the world I see with all things in it, without good karma what can I receive and get ). The world is full of food, yet millions go hungry, world is full of clothes , yet millions go naked, so much of land is there on earth and yet homelessness . Because without karmas, we can't get even though world is full , as Japji sahib indicates. So , if homosexuality is a handicap (as it is usually due to social unacceptance) , did I do something horrible in my past life to deserve it ? Since sikhi has nothing to say on this topic, I read on other eastern religions. Buddhism for instance says homosexuality is a predicament due to previous life (joon) misconduct and that homosexuals should follow the dharmic way to attain salvation, because in the end "this too shall pass".
  7. Mr Singh was actually singh I am not worthy of raising a kid. Your answer makes more sense. thanks Like a few other gay guys out there, I don't exactly fit into the gay scene either. as I can't bring myself to the shallow kind of existence most of them have. But then again most straight ppl thesedays have just as much shallow existence. Thats why I usually look towards spirituality
  8. dream

    I am seriously feeling apologetic about what I said previously to you in my previous post . But I feel at times you are a bit *insensitive* . Sorry again uncle ji , not that I expect you to talk to me or help me in my issues. Sorry
  9. dream

    mirch lagi uncle ji ? Don't think ppl will respect you just for your white beard when you personally attack people. Don't think I am dependent on you for salvaging me from my quagmire ! I am sure my family, my SGGS and my waheguru is enough for that. And if not, I have my karam and will expend it out crying or laughing. Maybe you should look at your own views first : which are already we know as islamophobic (hatred for all muslims , not just islamist ones), homophobia and now MISOGYNY !
  10. dream

    Where have I suggested that my comment was some sort of vendetta against you ? its all in your head . I would have replied same way for someone else who made that hocus pocus comment. Is the senile age getting to you ? Also I ain't your bro , you and me have a 50 yr age gap . Also whats wrong in feminine trait ? Punjabi patriarchal (evil) attitudes still trump egalitarian sikh values , isn't it ? no wonder then that the kaum is in such a quagmire.
  11. I am 27 and a half. Although I am gay (only attracted to males and not females) , so one would wonder I would die childless. However if in future I choose to have a child, do I risk having serious issues with his/her health ? will my child be born normal as i think that by then there might be chromosomal abnormalities in DNA of sperms. for me masturbation is like smoking. its a stress buster , as I never smoke or drink ever. So do I have to quit it off although it would be really tough. The longest I have been without waanking was 42 days last july
  12. dream

    please do not pedel any nonsense , esp this hocus-pocus stuff which has nothing to do with sikhi
  13. Its ok then . Waheguru and SGGS will show me the path . Sometimes however I need help of people who can speak or type. You're acting pricey now. Remember waheguru sees all. I can speak harshly but you're way senior than my age . So I will pass. You anyways didn't answer my question way back 4 months back too when I raised a similar issue. You said "I can give you 5 point path that will fix most of your issues but I see you're not there yet". So you just wanted me to suffer more. Bye mortal . Take care . Remember you're not god . Bye peace out.
  14. So now you're personally attacking me ? Trust me, you 're better than this . Do you also call out on handicaps and disabled people on their disabilities when they have an argument with you ? that IMHO is very low thing to do . If I had , I wouldn't ask it here.
  15. I am noway overdramatizing. Its a fact. If you're reborn as a homosexual, then only you can know. Then others will also say "stop crying". I didn't talk of homos being carted to their death. I think death is better than dying everyday which your society forces us . But again you will not understand it because you're not one of us. Your views reflect not only your heterosexual male privilege but also your outdated views.One of the symptoms of privilege is unable to understand how you're privileged. Young men in india still get shock treatment for converting them to straight. Tell me how is this not HETERO-FASCISM ? Now who is forcing their sexuality on others like a fanatic ? is this any different than mughals beating and torturing sikhs and hindus to make them muslims ? But back then it generated a huge revolt from people like you, and yet people like you oppose us or just remain mute spectators Its only a matter of time when science discovers alternative reproduction which doesn't involve a male and female and the only pillar on which tyrannical heterosexuality stands will come falling down . See now you have had me uncle ji !
  16. what desires ? your society stops homos from marrying other homos and living a life a straight couple takes for granted. Politics is a fact of life but you people made it that way. Thats why cases of gays marrying unsuspecting women. Our society (which includes you and me) is part of problem
  17. Uncle ji I maybe at sea now but I won't be so forever. And when I am not, maybe then I can raise a kid. Besides indian law would allow me to adopt only a boy , although i wanted a girl . I would provide him the best of what I have and if he kicks me when I am old and he's young, then that would be his karam. Also growing up with a single father with all resources at hand and decent education and standard of living is better than living in competition with other orphans in orphanages. Rather than encouraging me to do this noble deed, you're stopping me just because I am gay and I am not a heterosexual couple , those orphan kids are mostly of those anyways , deserted sometimes ! Maybe because of your prudish views, you're Also would love to raise him as a gursikh. What are your opinions on me considering marrying a young woman who's not getting rishta elsewhere and if I tell her in advance about my condition and she still agrees to marry ? I know it won't be a happy marriage but i will atleast have a family. You're concerned about an orphan being raised in an environment you deem unnecessary, but at the same time you forget the kind of global environment your religious or right-wing people have created for us globally forcing us to living in hiding , with shame, without rights , merely an existence of food and breath. How come that doesn't sound selfish to you ?
  18. what do you mean to say my own existence is less than whole ? are you saying I am not capable of raising a kid or only couples can ? then what about people whose spouse dies. Don't they raise single kids ? didn't get you enough.
  19. Most people have terribly painful feeling when their mother dies . true, but they also usually have spouse and kids , their own family by their side . I have no one. Maybe I can adopt a kid ? or marry a woman past her marriagable age who's willing to be my spouse and i can start a family of my own. I can't see my parents just going from this world without leaving someone for me , but then again I can be wrong. Also what do you think should I expect from naam simran . Is it sinful to indulge in my desires ? even if just a few times in my whole life.
  20. you seriously think all sardars are immune from gaddari ? most gaddars are turbaned saabat surat sikhs
  21. Be strong bhenji . Taking amrit will not miraculously change your situation but atleast now you're a daughter of guru ji . He's always with you. I feel sad about how the sangat helpline betrayed you but I am sure not everyone is like this. May I know why your family looks down on you just because you got cheated ? Shouldn't they be helping you instead ? Did you marry with that sikh man against wishes of your family ? Keep with the simran though. It does wonders though , trust me. Also please look at traditional healing resources like psychologist , picking a sport or just jogging. You will find many stories of people who had heavy depression but something as simple as running healed them. Waheguru ji bhali karega . Himmat naa haaro tussi
  22. Forget patka or parna, nowadays sikh boys have new casual wear , a bandana or something like that nylon hat . Weird part is they do jooda backwards like a bibi lol
  23. I am not shy of doing sewa of my parents. I am having severe anxiety over what after them ? The only relationship I loved and lived of love was my mother . She stood by me as an image of god in every aspect of my life. Seeing her pass will break me from inside. Just thinking about it makes my eyes wet. But its inevitable as well . At times like these, one begins to wonder what reality is and how we should have lived our life . If I am reaping of what I have sown in my past life, and if the results can be so painful , what could I be sowing similar in this life ? it makes for a scary introspection. For the first time in my life I fear god and his karmic system so much. Also I find it hard now to believe that god simply forgives people for their karams , unless in exceptional cases by grace maybe. What is sown has to be reaped. But I am also aware that karams are expendable. When I am done doing my sentence (maybe when I die) , I will no longer be a homosexual , maybe not in next birth. This understanding alone should make me realize the constantly fleeting nature of life, but here I am still crying and totally absorbed in the current scenario . Despite "knowing" the ephemeral reality of things, I still don't know it because my attitude betrays I don't believe it, as if everything is permanent. It is true that my recent belief in faith has forced me to rethink over acting out my sexuality. But at the same time, I find it hard to believe god would punish me for something he made me as . But you never know , if for instance, this life I got for penance and connecting with him , and I am wasting it . If I start naam simran daily at amritvela , will it help me ? will all my dukh vanish slowly
  24. I am sorry if this thread has hurt anyone's feelings. Now I am wondering whether it was wise to start it
  25. I am close with my mother, I am not sure if I am excessively close though, although I find her possessive and loud sometimes . I feel she has OCD. She's already on meds for mitral valve prolapse (harmless heart condition) , vertigo and anxiety . I have never felt close to my father . Never an emotional connection. When I was a kid, I would wonder when he would go on his next transportation task . Didn't like him at home for some reason. Felt so better when me and mom were alone . But maybe it was because of fight over tv . I wanted to see cartoons and he news channels, but even other than that, we barely felt connected. I feel my dad wanted a daughter , as I had an elder sister who was stillborn . Few years back mom told me when I was born, my father got drunk and said a few other people "it was a son but he died". It came as a shock to me. But my father is just another silly punjabi dad , and always had a very chronic drinking condition that almost tore apart our family a couple of times and drove my mom to suicide a few times. I still remember those days vividly although he hasn't drunk since a few years now . I understand the old freudian theory you seem to be believing in of gay sons being a result of close moms and distant fathers. Even my childhood was not normal . Preferred girls toys over sports and I barely know a thing about sport. Till a few years back , my life had come in so much shackles that I lost my faith . If it weren't for miraculous intervention of waheguru and me talking to SGGS and SGGS talking back to me, I wouldn't today be on this forum either . Finding a job now seems like it was like crossing a gap in bridge over a cliff . The situation that stares me in the eye now however seems like an abyss in itself to which I see no end. As I type this with tears rolling down my cheek , I can feel my utter helplessness and hopelessness in the current life and I see no out of it . Sometimes I wonder when my mom leaves me, isn't it better for me just to sit with her on the funeral pyre . My only reason for existence , without any siblings or friends I can rely on, what is there ? I see utter darkness