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  1. People can legally only stop you at night. Dont worry, keep practicing kirtan. We have to listen to rock music and other nonsense all day. So be strong and keep going. Dont worry before you need to. If they complain,.then you can think about quitting.
  2. Do you have gurbani apps? If not get some. iGurbani is good. So is Gurbani searcher. As you read your paath. Read the translations underneath. And choose 1 pauri each day where you actually find the meaning of each word and then try to put it together. Then throughout the day, keep repeating that pauri and understanding it. Khalsa ji , on youtube is really good at helping kids do this. Look him up too. Also if you have time, listen to katha while driving to school or while doing chores/workout. And if in the summer yiu get time, take santhiya classes. They help. If none available in your area. Google bhagat jaswant singh ji , he is trying to put santhiya online. The website might be called learn shudh gurbani or gurbaniseva.com In santhiya you learn not only how to pronounce the words but where to put vishraam ( pauses) so the pangti makes sense and the uthaanka ( the history of the circumstances why shabad was written).
  3. I am sure theres many sikh videos of weddings. Look at rainsbai weddings. Or akj weddings. There is milni. As the girls side of the family is in charge of the venue. They get their earlier and prepare breakfast langar ( cha pakore etc). Then when the groom and his family come over. They meet each other outside the gurudwara in the parking lot. Ideally the girls family should be doing kirtan with vaja dholki of Aye Mil Gurshikh... as they welcome the grooms family. but if noone from the girls family is a musician, the two families can just greet each other with fateh. Then each of the relatives are introduced to their contrapart. The father meet the father in law. They can say fateh and give sarope to each other. Then the mothers, brothers, uncles, aunts. Then the grooms party is invited to eat langar ( i think they do this before matha teking and as they are sangat, they are allowed to eat first...i think) After langar, groom and his family go matha tek. The groom sits in front of the sangat where they do matha tek. Then bride walks in. Matha teks, sits next to groom. The palla ardaas is done. Then the shabad about Pallai taindai laagee (or is shabad done before?) And then lavaan etc.
  4. I bet the saura/FIL was quiet before marriage because his wife and daughter made him. I can just imagine it: The MIL "dont start foolish arguments, let the girl be married off first, with your incessant talking and debates, you have alienated all of our neighbors and friends. Stay quiet and dont ruin the girls life!" I am terribly sorry to say theres only 2 ways two deal with these type of people. Be extra strict or humble. 1. The amritdhari person can just say I have taken amrit and vows to the panj pyare and I intend to live by them. I just do what my guru says and am too dumb to engage in debate with smart ppl like you. I dont intend to be a debator or scholar, so please leave me alone. I just want the happiness of my guru. Anytime, the FIL tries to start a debate, just say you are probably right and i am not smart enough to debate and walk away. 2. Your amritdhari friend is a jija, a son in law. Tell him to use the power that position gives him. He is not a bahu to quietly take what the sass says. The father in law is interfering in his household and needs to be shown his place. The singh should say, i am an amritdhari and you knew this when you married ur daughter into this house. Either you and your daughter comply with my rehits and rules or you guys leave. For the guru, I am willing to destroy my marriage. (If feels that is too harsh, he can add, I am not a tyrant, you can believe and do what you want. ) But there will be no guru nindya in my house. Your friend is the jawai/SIL. Tell him dont be afraid to make some threats and act tough. Inlaws should be wary of the SIL. This may not seem like the best thing to do for family relations, but people like these actually respect power and tyranny only. The more kind and soft spoken you are, they will ride roughshod over you. You can read about a similar incident here: https://www.gurmatbibek.com/contents.php?id=21
  5. Yes there is a product called TRS based on nanozoolites. It detoxifies heavy metals. I dont know too.much about it tho. Check out Vita Lives Free on youtube for more info
  6. Thanks Canada. Now the US can finally answer those gun control supporters everytime a mass shooting happens in the US. Canada has strict gun control laws i bet... Like the NRA says banning guns is only going to stop the good guys from having any not the gangsters.
  7. It can also point to the tek or asthaai which is the main line or first lines in music lyrics. I dont know the english word for it: the chorus line? The one that is repeated before every stanza? So it can tell us which pangti is to be the chorus line ( if thats the right word) when singing the shabad. It is usually also the main idea or topic of a shabad as Gnostic said. Or if the shabad is full of questions and examples, it will be the answer and main point.
  8. These woke people will also be curtailing gun rights which may lead to restrictions on kirpaans. And woke ppl support beadbi like inter religious and gay marriages. And may enforce them on religions. Like dally said, its best not to choose sides btw right and left. Best if we played both sides. So its good if we have sikhs on both sides as long as they dont bring those political divides btw sikhs
  9. Has the person been tested for all deficiencies? Sometimes a lack or excess of some minerals, electrolytes and vitamins can cause neuro-psych issues. Your friend has mental and health issues which maybe points toward something affecting his physical health. Too much calcium can cause mental and health issues as well as many other things. So maybe get tested for electrolytes sodium potassium calcium magnesium phosphorus ( a basic BMP or CMP lab checks all of them at once). Also the minerals (copper, zinc, iron, selenium, iodine) all vitamins esp B12 and D and hormones ( thyroid, cortisol) And follow the good lifestyle advicr given above. But if you want more systematic, check out satvic movement on youtube
  10. Although some of the ideas like a library is pointless as she said noone attends. I think a computer lab or cafe would be better with monitored access to internet. The waste managment ideas were good. Although i dont understand the liquid one.
  11. https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://www.vidhia.com/Bhai%20Raghbir%20Singh%20Ji/Bhai%20Raghbir%20Singh%27s%20Bandginama.pdf&ved=2ahUKEwiD6oTUgZTxAhVOuZ4KHdYoDZ0QFjAGegQIFhAC&usg=AOvVaw1W8MEtQev4U0tEUv5na20x This is a link to the book bandginama by bhai ragbir singh bir. Besides sant singh maskeen, you can also find bhai vir singh and se kinehya audiobooks on.youtube. But the best thing is to just watch 1 video and start. If you start, your questions will be answered along the way. Otherwise you will just keep gathering info.and never start.
  12. On holidays at home maybe. Also non sikh students are allowed to wear patka, bandana type head scarf instead of turban.
  13. Im from the US. Never heard of Tulsa before. I was against reparations but this puts a whole new perspective on it.
  14. Seems like you were right, based on the fauci email leaks. Fauci was the american director of health dept in USA. It makes sense that it was made in lab. Because i have never heard of a virus spreading like that and year long. Usually viruses predominate in winter and cold climates. Most plagues have been bacterial. Yes theres swine flu and the normal flu, which does kill many ppl. But mostly the vulnerable. Because our bodies can usually fight off viruses. Looks like biological warfare is on the cards now. China started it and now most other countries will follow and secretly create their own stash. Ofc, its hard to know what to trust and this conspiracy theory could be wrong. It could just be a leak without any intention. But why make more virulent viruses?
  15. To be fair, i doubt green or yellow makes good fashion. The european gives specific colors gambone color or something, and honestly it doesnt sound too elegant. But ur point about coveting it all, and thinking of the natives as inferior, also holds true.
  16. If your 13, you could start practicing living the amritdhari lifestyle and then take amrit after a uear or so of practice. Also in your future is college, living in dorms, marriage and living outside. So keeping this in mind, I would advise you divide rehit into 3 parts. 1. Rehit written in rehit maryada and given to you by panj pyare. This is the very basic stuff: comb hair 2x daily, wear dastaar, 5 bania, 5 kakaar, stay away from 4 kurehits. Be vegetarian. These you must ALWAYS follow no matter the circumstances. 2. These you will try your best to follow. Do darshan of Guru sahib daily, wear a usable practical shastar. Do simran. Wake up at amritvela. Learn martial arts. Do sehaj paath. Learn kirtan. Give daswand. Do good deeds. Dont eat jooth. Stay away from drug addicts, bad sangat. Avoid dirty sings, etc 3. These rehits you will follow at special occasions. (For example when living at home during summer vacation, when living at a dera/ashram, when deciding to do intense bhagti): Wear bana. Eat from sarab loh/steel. Do chalisa. Sukhmani sahib daily. Read sakhis, sikh history. Listen to katha. Only eat homecooked/amritdhari cooked food. Only associate with gurmukhs. Avoid all TV, entertainment. Take cold kesi showers daily. Wake up at 2 am daily. As you see. Required stuff is very little (that listed in #1). Otherwise you can keep making rules and adding rehits. If ppl tell you extra rehits not mentioned by panj pyare tell them thanks, and try that rehit when convenient for you. A sikh has many roles: saint, soldier, householder, scholar(not only of our own religion but others and world), earning a living, supporting parents, studying, learning santhiya etc. Its impossible to do all at once. Best to get good at one thing then move on to others. This is done 1. By starting young (which you are doing so good). 2. Dedicating certain time of life to certain things. Like learn kirtan and santhiya before college. In high school, build ur jeevan, this means follow the hardest rehits and do most bhagti. As you will be too busy later on. Then focus on simran and working out (gym, martial arts) in college cuz besides nitnem thats all you have time for. During job time, focus on listening to katha on commutes. During married life, focus on conquering mind and panj chor. As you will be challenged and stressed to the max. Then empty nest syndrome become parchaarik, local granthi, and be a scholar
  17. Not2Cool2Argue

    lonliness

    Hello Someone. I feel you. Thats why its important not to lose touch with friends from before college. Sure they wont understand what youre going through but it would be nice to talk to someone and hang out. Gore are smart they have girls night out. Also what about your family? Cant you talk to your mom or sister or cousins? You dont have to share personal stuff, just check in with them. Also in the 1970s many housewives were also lonely and thats when the suburban anti depressant use skyrocketed. They were just lonely. Its hard being a mom and wife. And women need support. We panjabis are giving up are extended families and losing that. Also check out Satnam Kaur in instagram. She has a group called mandali just for women to connect. I think you would like it. Also try to fit in yoga or meditation. It helps our mind relax and emotions to stop churning. Gur Bar Akal All.the best.
  18. Actually, the panjabi words used in the rehitnamay are very specific. It say roti beti di saanj nahi karni. Which means no exchange of food or daughters in marriage. So we should not marry into them nor invite them over or go to their house for food. I am sure if the meenay owned a restaurant or a grocery store, we could frequent it. We could probably befriend them as we would a person of a different religionBut not to form any associations with them, to remain seperate from them religiously and culturally. This gives us a clue about how we as sikhs are supposed to interact with other religions.we are supposed to stay seperate and not share in their holidays or foods, i think. Also not marry into other religions. Cuz that blurs the seperation. So there is one answer to inter-religious marriage.
  19. Not2Cool2Argue

    Faith

    Try to understand Sikhi philosophy. You can do.that 2 ways: read gurbani with english meanings so you can understand it. And read sikh history especially about great gursikhs who have lived sikh philosophy. I am telling you this truthfully, no other religion has a great history or philosophy as Sikhi. Sometimes, I too get enticed by other religions, because having grown up with Sikhi, it seems mundane. But other religions look good from the outside but are khokhle, hollow and i have to come back to sikhi. Come on, what other religion advocated for gender equality, freedom of religion and condemned slavery? And advocated for meditation and vegetarian? All the things modern ppl are rediscovering? Yes Hinduism fits the bill for most of these but they had serious issues. Anyways check out basics of sikhi youtube channel. I think you would enjoy his debates with other religions and his street parchaar. Also google and read about sikh converts. Their zeal may inspire you. And read books by great sikh writers. Most are available in English. Writers like bhai veer singh, karam singh historian. Bhai randheer singh. Bhai Ranbir singh. All of their books are available in English free online. Just Google.
  20. Where's the difference? The only difference I see is the different synonyms for reincarnation.
  21. Hilarious. With the Gender imbalance, this will make things worse. There are less women than men in panjab and you want to skew this ratio more by polygamy? Reminds me of the fundamentalist Mormons in America, who believe in mandatory polygamy. They abandon and throw out the young men so that they there are more women for the leaders. Also polygamy was a survival thing with the hindus and sikhs. Not a desired thing. Look at bhagat Puran singh, his mom was treated as a concubine by his hindu father. So it not a good situation to be in to be a 2nd wife. At least the muslims have religious law saying u must treat all wives equally. Sikhs and Hindus don't. So it would be terrible to the wives. So most hindus or sikhs only had second marriages in rare circumstances when there was no other recourse. Also I think the OP is referring to the second marriages that our more common today: that of divorcees. I know many. And Bhai jagraj singh of BoS also promoted with one of the BoS sevadaars. They did use that reasoning; that the first was a karmic marriage never to work.
  22. This is the shabad. JAGAT jot Japai Nis Basur. Ik binna man naik na Anai It is found in the bani 33 saviaye.
  23. Very good point. And in india cow was the most common pet. Only cows were tamed and kept inside houses.
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