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  1. Not2Cool2Argue

    I am Dying

    Similar thing happened to someone i know. He started meditating alot and had an out of body experience. When he saw his body lying down on the sofa with the eyes closed and not moving. He thought he had died. He got so scared that he stopped meditating and started playing games n was on the computer all day. He was afraid to meditate, even tho he knew i am the soul and this body is fake. You can do a couple of things: 1. Pray. Ardaas. Explain ur problems to guruji. He will help 2. Sangat. Stay in the company of good ppl. Try to find someone more spiritually advanced ie a sant 3. Read more gurbani. Especially dasam granth bani. Read Akal Ustat, Chaupai Sahib, chandi di Vaar, see the morphasis of chandi into kali as a metaphor for urself. After killing the vikaars, ur ego wont die but transform into its better, bigger self. You will not have died but become enlightened. God will not take over and replace u. You will become God and have limitless power to destroy and create. Of couse i can say it, u can say it a thousand times but u must realize it not just know it. So read Gurbani, dasam bani, read Rumi's poetry, listen to spiritual discourse, read books by sant ishar singh ji rara sahib. Look into wat buddhism says about enlightenment. Read bhai randhirs singhs books or bahi vir singhs. These are online. Google Do ardaas, take a hukamnama. Remember Kirpa is needed.
  2. Look into youtube videos of Tarek Fatah. He talks about the murderers of muhammeds family alot and uses it as a way to reform islam. So as far as I understand, after muhammeds death, there was a control struggle. Ppl who hated muhammed won and they forced muhammeds family to exile and killed them that is when the battle of karbala takes place. And them these ppl went on to revise the quran n make it fit their rule and narrative. U should check out Tarek Fatah, hes a cool panjabi dude.
  3. Because its not so black and white. Most muslims were sufi in India and that is a beautiful religion full of ppl trying to connect to God. On the other hand, the Gurus spend a considerable amount of their time fighting religious fanatics like Aurangzeb. Yet were friends with Akbar. In fact Aurangzeb had a really popular sufi saint Sarmad killed for not following sharia properly. The gurus were friends with prominent sufis like Mian Mir and Pir Budha Shah. Its not right to think of islam as evil as it is popular now to do on the internet. But we must realize islam does have a tendancy to turn those in power against nonmuslims. So we shouldnt trust muslims esp those in power.So as always, balance.is the key. Also why would the Gurus denounce a religion that would turn into the 2nd largest in the world? Did he want to lock his Sikhs into an eternal theological battle against islam? Its much better that we are neutral and will fight zulam n pakhand (cruelty n hypocrisy) from watever source it comes. And we can simultaneously denounce the West and Islam and Hindutva. It better that we dont have 1 known evil to pinpoint the worlds problems on. And the Gurus were onto something bigger than we can imagine. When muslims used to say that Mohammed is the seal and no prophets came after him, i used to wonder why didnt the Gurus mention Muhammad in sggs, that would give them more validity and support amongest muslims. But now that Ive learned about some of the questionable acts Muhammad did, Im glad his name doesnt grace the SGGS. On the other hand, some ex-sikh who is an athiest is questioning why the Gurus mentioned muslims in Sggs and why did guruji say that shabad about be a good muslim, savor the religion of the prophet' He says this is praising mujammed when in fact Guru Arjan Dev ji refused to.include any praise of Muhammed in gurbani and that was one reason Jahangir had them shaheed. He expected guruji to at the very least ignore the muslims and not give them any guidance because of their religion and at the most denounce and convert them, i suppose
  4. I havent read the quran. But if I did, i think i would really connect with it. Its the only other scripture besides sggs i think that goes into raptures about God. And arabic sounds beautiful. Reminds me of jaap sahib. The parts ajeetsingh quoted read likea beautiful eulogy to God. But i probably couldn't stomach the extensive rules on slaughtering and marital matters. The hadiths from wht ive seen are crazy.
  5. My mom was always goin on about america's fake carrots. She would say the real carrots are in India with their beautiful gajari color. She would get mad when we called it red, shesaid it was the gajari ਗਾਜਰੀ rang which has no equivalent. And thanks @simran345 now I know why carrots in the west are orange. My moms been trying to smuggle over indian carrot seeds, i hope india ppl dont copy the west and lose their own seeds
  6. Bhulli Ji means of anything wrong happens in the house, always say it was my fault. Never blame or yell at your spouse. Bhalla Ji means to always do good. Try to do as much seva as possible of the kids n spouse. Dont get mad or fight with ppl abt extra work, do it as seva. Bhana Ji. Accept hukam. Dont try to change ppl to fit your perceptions and dont nag ppl to fulfill your goals. Like some men want their wives to always look pretty so always nagging their wives to do make up, and go blond. And some woman want thier husbands to be richer so they nag their husbands to work longer hours, go into politics and beg for promotions.
  7. Not2Cool2Argue

    Kaam?

    Sikh awareness society shared this article which highlights problems caused by porn. How it rewires ur brain so normal relationships become harder for boys novelty the norm. Also how it effects society. So stop before it becomes too late. Before Kissing: How 15-Year-Old Girls Are Dealing With Porn-Addicted Boys - Nutritionally Wealthy http://nutritionallywealthy.com/porn-addicted-boys/
  8. Ask your wife to help u fulfill your dream. Also do a trial run, start grpwing ur beard n hair and if it doesnt work out. You can change ur mind and go back
  9. Surrender!! You need to surrender to gurusahib. Lol..no idea..take a hukamnama
  10. Plz.tell.us what state in.the.USA? Im from the UsA.so might be able.to.help. Also there are woman shelters u can call for help. You can google.the one.nearest ur location. I think if u could become independent it would help get ur mind out of past and stress. I dont know of u can get a job with your legal status. But u shud try
  11. How did you learn the lesson? That too as a young teen when seeing ur religion as the best n everyone else as inferior is such a power trip
  12. Also google vegan and vegetarian recipes. On YouTube the vegan corner, domestic geek. There r so many vegan channels. Eat cereal with milk, rice, quinoa, tofu, salads if u cant cook. Also most fast food places have a vegetarian option. Start eating food not snacks
  13. Idk doesnt dasam granth feature stories of old buddhe marrying young wives and it leading to destruction of the family? But u arent that old and men generally look younger than woman. Also u might not find 25 year olds in india as girls r usually married off young, ppl r scared of them becoming old maids But u might find some educated girls who r older, like someone else mentioned. I think u shoild take a hukamnama to see if u should marry this girl or continue looking.
  14. I forgot to mention that her PSL books are used in panjabi schools on Sundays. Thats wat she did: used her experience and knowledge of education to create curriculum, syllabus, n books for panjabi schools
  15. Bibi pushpinder kaur usa - she was a teacher then principal then administrater for english schools so she used her knowledge and experience in education to create PSL (panjabi as a second lannguage) curriculum- books, syllabus, lesson plans. Her work isused in schools throughout CA Also women already have double duties- raise the family (cook, clean, kids) as well as doing jobs. And panjabis men dont help out with any chores, cooking or the kids. If women start asking for any gender equality, men start complaining about all the things wrong with women. As can be seen on this forum many times. Thats why women arent as out there
  16. I dont think u should be discouraged. If guru ji always gave the happy, positive hukams n we still have problems, then we will have doubt. So guruji is being truthful n helpful in this gurvaak. First he is saying, yes times r toughs n they will continue being tough. Second guruji is telling u what to do to fix ur problems. See guruji is being the perfect doctor here, first problem is diagnosed and then treatment is given. If doctor always said theres is no problem, everything will be fine and we are in pain, we will think the doctor is wrong. So now make sure to do the treatment. Do naam simran and read bani. Perhaps that will change ur karam n u can get happier life. Good luck. Make sure to follow the docs instructions!
  17. When Masa Ranghar had taken over harmander sahib, Sukha Singh and Mehtaab Singh went to stop him. They dressed up as chaudaris / leaders of the village and so went in disguise. They had to bow their head to Masa Ranghar. They thought of Guruji and bowed their head. And foolish Masa thought they were bowing to him. So imagine Vaheguru, the lord of the universe, creator of black holes, destroyer of galaxies and bow ur head in awe. Or think of Satguru, the jot that came into the 10 gurus and now resides in Guru Granth Sahib Ji. Our guru is not ink, paper, or even words. It is a Power, primal power that has taken the saroop of words in this time. That power, jot was present in all 10 gurus. So think of that power/jot and matha tek. Also that power/jot is sentient. So that is one way you can test if padched is satguru. I have found no difference. So ask a question and take a hukamnama. Ur guru will answer. Start doing sehaj paath, the guru will speak to you, put into words ur problems. Go to guruji when there is no divaan, and the peace will signal to u that this is the thand/coolness of the true guru. Here listen to this:
  18. Ya marrying a convert into sikhi would be better. Watever her nationality is. Dont give up on marriage after 1 girl. Get on marriage sites, and meet a better girl. If u get a muslim orphan, must.u raise him as a muslim? If the orphan is only 3 or 4 years old, raise him as nonreligious while taking him/her to the gurudwara. Like nonreligious panjabis do. Then let it choose watever religion he or she wants when they get older
  19. Think about adoption.... Theres nothing that pervents surrogacy either....take a hukamnama and lets see wat guru ji says....share the gurvaak here...we can analyze it
  20. Wow, i always get this hukamnama when i ask guruji about my future. I thought it was just saying that I will have a life with a job and marriage. I was bummed out, cuz i wanted to go the brahmchari route. And if i were u, i would take the last 4 pangtis to heart and stop worrying. God does not make mistakes and he gives the right gifts. Also make sure to find good friends with good virtues. The best place to do that is a rainsabai. Im not akj, but i attended one last week, and the atmosphere, the sangat, it just all seeps into u and cleans u out and ur left with chardi kala and preet. U said ur in india, theres tons of rainsabais there, go to akj.org to see schedule
  21. I dont think u should let ur child be taken away from u. My cousin grew up like that. My mamas son. My nani didnt like living alone so she decided to raise her grandson in america. Whie his parents worked in Canada overtime. The son is closer to the nani nana than his parents. And my nani never disclpined him and let him watch TV all day cuz he was bored with only budhe ppl at home. And eat junk food. Because my nani wanted him to like staying with her. She kind spoiled him. And nana was strict in other ways out of nowhere. But he still turned out better than the second son they raised themselves. The second son has most of his teeth replaced by metal caps due to cavities and is fat. So tell ur husband that a child needs parental love or will not be close to the parents. Invite ur sass to live with u and babysit. Tell her she can take him to india when he is 5 or 6. Hes too young now.He will get sick due to india germs being different than here in the west. Also do shabads poota mata ki asses. Dukh Bhanjani Sahib can be found in apps and youtube. Also play sukhmani sahib around the child at all times. I really like the one sung which i pasted below. Play it all the time. Good Luck. Stay positive and happy thoughts!
  22. After the Trump win, alt right and white supremacists have come into the public and onto social media out og nowhere. These ppl r trying to get sikhs to spearhead the attack so they cant be called racist. Rebel Media is an alt right youtube video gaining alot of popularity in Canada. These ppl r so biased they refused to acknowledge attack on.the mosque in Quebec. They went with a conspiracy that it was actually 2 muslims who did it, witnesses heard the attacker say allah akbar and the police and media r covering this up
  23. Watch the videos i posted above n provide counterargument to those. Ofc, a sikh should let nothing in life interfere with Amritvela, Naam Kamai, and Gurbani. So if these important things are being done, continue with your householder life. You and your wife need to come up with your own restrictions and healthy way of living. Sikhi does not have many rules, for that reason so that people can come up with rules for what works for them in their specific situations. So use ur budhi/ intelligence to set limits at where nothing interferes with kamaaing sikhi
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