Not2Cool2Argue

Do sukhmani sahib da paath. I do it before every exam. Not to ask for good grades (tho i do ardaas for that as well but because it calms me down. My anxiety goes away and i can trust that all is in gods hand and he is the most kindest, so all will be well. That way you dont have to worry about giving evil eye since u wont be anxious. Try to do the paath with love and concentration. Also it is said, that sukhmani sahib protects from buri nazar. And whenever your mind starts comparing you to others or thinking about how others did, tell ur mind to mind ur own business. Tell it to take care of itself, stop worrying abt wat others r doing

Go to basics of sikhi video called 'should we be proud of what sant jarnail singh bhindrawale?' And read the comments...i think indian ppl outside the villages, are all misinformed about santji. Esp sikhs outside panjab, from bombay,up, chandigarh, haryana

Kind of seems heartless and selfish...ppl r grieving over the attacks n we do a march saying we r not muslims, dont hate us. Stop targeting us for hate crimes, we dont do terrorist attacks.go after the real Muslims ...and the british ppl be like we wish we could hold up signs saying we r not our government, don't hate us. Stop targeting us for jihad bombings and killings, we dont do drone attacks, go after the government or army.

I guess.it was a good tradition tho i have heard that ranjit singh the raja was married via the chunni chardoni method to some of his wives....in which case its a misuse of the method? People in the olden days were very worldly wise, they seemed to have the best solution....levirate marriage solves the widow problem, and the stepfather problem, and instead of having the brother take care of the wife in a platonic way, they made it possible for them to be husband wife so if intimate relationships do develop, it wont have to be in a havey cavey, illicit way. But tho the system is good, as always i wonder how the individuals caught in it, persevered. I think, in.the end, it matters abt the behavior of the two, if both are decwnt human beings, then all is fine,.bit if one or the other is being forced,.then...also.i wonder how the jithaani duraani relationships went after

You have no need to be jeolous. One only needs to hunger for other peoples things if one is poor or wanting in life. But you are the daughter of the king of kings, the highest of the high. Instead of feeling weak or jeolous, reach out to the real giver. Tell him, you are the real giver, so you gave the other people the gifts, i want. Since you are the giver, you can give them to me too. Say, i domt mind if others have things, becauae u in ur infinite wisdom have given them thise things, but please be kind to me as well. Turn your jeolousy into an ardaas, an ardaas to thank the greatest giver

I dont think im confusing the too. Polyandrous like the panduvs marriage is really rare. I think the levirate marriage was known as chunni chardoni in jatt culture. The marriage ceremony is just giving the widows chunni to the groom. Also wouldnt it result in polygamy, a man having two wives or more if he marries his brothers widows? Would that not be against sikh practices? Also would this not encourage fraticide in the community?

There actually was a post on this forum by a girl named harmeet. She was abused by her step father. When she told her mom, her mom confronted the husband and that just made things worse. As it was out in the open now, the husband just got worse. But a solution to this problem could be that the teenaged daughters could be married off quickly. People normally got married in their teenaged years anyway back then, so i wonder why this became parchalat. Also wat is the sikh view on levirate marriage? From wat a poster, dallysingh101, usually said, this was a horrible practice prevalent in the jatt community.

But we know this mentality exists within the sikh panjabi community that come from villages

Thats why i made sure to say SGGS And in dasam granth, he is not portrayed as a person to be revered

Guru ji also never refers to Muhammed as a revered person SGGS. Many times raam or krishan or buddha are mentioned but not muhammed. At first i was saddened by this, that guruji never acknowledged the prophet of the 2nd largest religion in the world. I could understand why not Jesus, as Christianity had not reached india yet. But islam was every where. In fact, one of the sakhis say, Jahangir asked Guru Arjan Dev ji to insert praise of Muhammad and be forgiven. Guruji refused. Now that all of these terrible stories of muhammed are coming up, im glad he is not revered as a person. That being said, sikhs should not spread these horrible stories abt muhamned as muslims have 2 versions to every story. And most peaceful ppl believe in the peaceful, kind versions. Isis and extremists are using the violent, terrible ones to radicalize the Muslims. Lets let the peaceful ones believe in the peaceful version. Also these terrible stories are shared by the far right supremacists who want to alienate ppl based on religion. Lets not feed into their agenda

Ok, if we shouldn't use the word pendu then wat should we use for the current lehar of panjabi immigrants. They respect no law, have no morals, are willing to cut any corners to get ahead. The dadi is a baba believing, dive lighting, manipulative shrew. Whos answer to any injunction by the sikh faith is wat do the babas know abt living in the real world, while she shakes her head, ears and neck full of gold. Of her grandchildren, the son uses hard drugs and tries to find ways to make quick money, selling drugs, because he was never taught to work, the housework is for women and field work is for bhaiye. He has flashy phones amd cars. One of the granddaughters is constantly mocked and belittled for being dark colored and asked to do all the housework and put in her womanly place so that she hates the panjabi/sikh culture and associates it with oppression and backwardsness and so her main mission in life is feminism and getting out of the house esp with anyone who will complement her beauty. ( ie groomed). The other granddaughter is praised for her intelligence and or beauty. And expected to be successful. She is allowed all freedoms and can do she wants. She wants to wear mini skirts and if the dadi has qualms, all she has to say is, but mom everyone is wearing this, its part of the job, and instantly her mom is on her side, twlling her do watever she needs to succeed. The moms main goal in life is spoiling her children. Take their side and lavish worldly riches on them. The dad is locked in comparing his life to others, the gills just bought a store, their son has a porshe, their daughter is a dr. And he has anger management issues. The family jumps to attention and coddles him after one of his episodes. Then goes back to ignoring him. This is the most extreme example, but most recent immigrants are somewhere on this spectrum...i only know to call it panjabi or pendu or immigrant mentality...all of which i know good qualities of as well, so wat term would u use?

I think i should have used the word atonement ?

Im glad you are trying keep it up. Its great that you are learning kirtan. Sing your heart out. Let the tears flow, let the pain out through kirtan. Be lighter, happier. Wat happened, happened. Think about the future now. Wat do you want in it? And strive towards that. Like if you want to be independent, maybe start looking for a job, even a small, minor one. If you want to be strong and relaxed, start yoga or exercising or meditation. If u want to be happy, go walk in nature. If u want better friends or sangat, try to meet new people Everything you try, might not work out, but thats ok. You try different things and keep going, keep plodding on. You will see the light at the end of the tunnel. Its sad that your current sangat isnt positive. But anything thats not positive, do not associate with it. Make guruji your sangat and support, your sahara. Keep on trying ? and remember to do a heartfelt ardaas. Where you tell guruji all your problems, you cry to him and beg for help. He is kindness, he will help. Keep faith, keep doing ardaas, keep trying.

You have to do extra paath or seva. Nowadays punishments are not that severe. In the past, well Mahraja Ranjit singh was ordered to be whipped.then again he did it intentionally

But DDT doesnt consider the other side sikhs much less GurSikhs

These questions should be addressed to the panj. Just go to the next amrit sanchaar and admit what happened. And then they will decide if it was wrong , if u have to retake amrit or get punishment. That's what the panj is for to resolve questions and doubts

You should go to gurudwara and talk to guruji. Guruji is alive and will listen to all your problems. Take a hukamnama. Also you say path and gurbani hasnt helped you and you also say i dont do path or gurbani. Please, even modern medicine and pills take some time to have effect. And they solve minor problems. Your problems are big, so time will be needed to solve them. Keep doing paath and gurbani. Even if they dont have immediate effect. Keep doing, keep trying, don't give up. You want to solve your problems, then be ready to try , to keep making effort. You are an amritdhari, that doesnt mean life is easier for you or that God loves you better. Being amritdhari means saying I am more committed and more of a hard worker and more disciplined.and willing to go farther than other people before giving up. Watch this for hukamnama inspiration: Also here are some ppl helped by hukamnama: this girl.was even abused by her family and she found help so u can too:

Why are you so afraid of being alone? You can do so many things as an adult without family. You can travel the world. Get a very interesting career. Where you can make friends. Go live in a Buddhist monastery. Join Gay pride or LGBTQ communities where you can meet great friends but dont have to act on your desires. You can save your money, buy nice mansion, go on vacations. Start schools and orphanages. And when you get old, save enough money that you can have people look after you. There was a documentary about old age and how horrible it is getting. As ppl are living longer as old ppl. There was a doctor who got diabetes and became half paralyzed and deaf. But he was rich so he arranged a nurse to come to his house to take care of him. So he didnt have to go live in a nursing home. No matter if you have family or not, old age will come. And living with a family is no guarantee of a better old age. I am still ashamed of the way my family and I treated my grandmother in her old age. She was obese and had diabetes. So she could not move. She had 3 sons, but none of their wives wanted to take care of her. But my dad had her brought home against the wishes of my mom and us. Ofc then he left it to us to take care of her. And my mom resented her for all the typical panjabi sass things she had done to my mom. She passed on the resentment to us and we did not treat her well. So she would lie on one side of herself unable to move and clap. How i hated the sound of her clapping. But we would ignore her or forget about her. And she would get foot ulcers from laying in bed too long. it was horrible how we treated her. She even went to a nursing home when she had knee surgery, but she hated it there. She we brought her home again. So no matter if you have family or not, old age is the greatest tragedy. Fear it. That is one thing naam simran can help you with. You can also adopt. But like MisterrSingh was saying, do it when you are capable. I think adopting is definitely a good idea, but make sure to give to the kid a good education, and not treat it as someone who is there for your benefit.

BigTera is right. The darbar of the Guru should look kingly. Full of elegance. Not mismatched colors. Gurudwaras should maybe hire interior designers. Its much worse some places. In our gurudwara the walls are not even left white they are painted crazy designs. Some painter guy came from india and hes been doing all the designs for the gurudware, so we have blue patterend walls with gold borders. Our langar hall is dark burgandy stripes. Its a mess. I like how the bulandhpuri gurudwara and 3HO are going all white. I think only blue and white should be allowed for the sant sipahi aspects. Also we need to tone it down with the gold. Someone said a hindu temple looks like a firework of color went off and thats how our gurudware are starttin to become. Looking more like hindu temples esp with all the red n yellow. And those marigold haar everywhere. We have gurujis saroop at home and we use simple comfortable cotton for the rumalle with a beautiful border looks much more regal.

Hello. Are u ok? Write down all the positive and negative things about your relationship. Call ur parents, siblings, or friends to talk. If cant get counseling

If we made langar simple almost tasteless, then all the problems will be solved. Less waste, less OTT chili spices , and less ppl abusing the system cuz food is not that good. It will be healthier, we can say no mixing of ingredients. Totally ban dairy except in degh and kheer and chah., so vegans, gluten free can eat. Always have rice and daal and kheer and chaah if possible. Also only poor ppl will want to eat then those with majboori. Also we taksalis were always taught that if u eat too much langar its bad. Not only does ur paath n sewa get used up, but u get a share of the dukh of person doing langar. For example if someone did ardaas that my cancer go away and does langar for it, then everyone who ate langar will get small benign tumor. Basically the dukh of that person is shared among the sangat in small parts so it becomes bearable to all. However then we were told that this is only rumors, hoe can gurus langar be bad. But i think taksalis r smart. They spread that to stop their students from overeating at langars. Whether true or not, it works. So spread this everywhere and ppl might stop abusing. Esp send.it to the hindus, with their idols n black magic they should have no problem believing it

Are u sure it was only the farmers tho? There have been prominent khatri sikhs in the indian army such as aurora. Im sure it was a family tradition to join the army for them

We protested to stop his death penalty and it was stopped.

Whats a stay order? It said that despite the sangat having a stay order from the High Court, police demolished the gurudwara. Isnt Indore in Rajistan? Also i used to think what wedo in the west wont matter either, but the rajoana case showed we can

Guru Gobind singh ji had mercenaries fighting in their battles. The Brars. And most of them abandoned Guruji. I think its ok to have mercenaries in khalsa army as long as we dont trust them too much. They fighting for money, if going gets tough, they will leave u. And they can be bribed. The sikh panth or khalsa should never be a mercenary for anyone. That is why we r called Akal ki fauj. Gods army. It would be wrong for such a fauj to work for any other authority or government. We can form alliances tho. However if a sikh, singly can be a mercenary, i think so. Its like any other job. U r paid to fight. But remember dharam di kirat. Like sikhs arent supposed to sell drugs n alcohol because this damages society. I think a sikh cant fight for wrong wars. Its not dharmic. And sikhs,thousands of them, did fight in the brirish wars. I dont know what to say. The world wars i think were not unethical. It was just two powers aimlessly fighting. But the opium wars and wars were unethical. According to a book called Bhai Tega Singh, sikh soldiers had little option. After sikh army lost anglo- sikh wars, sikhs were stripped of their weapons even kirpans. Only way to avoid this was to become an outlaw, daku, and many did. Thats why a bunch of daku movies prevalent, it speaks of those times. And a daku lifestyle wasnt much ethical, u had to steal n rob ur own ppl to survive. The other sikh soldiers had no other occupation. So they could go home and find an occupation or join the british army. And many joined the british. And i guess thats when the british started their campaign to change sikh history to make sikhs join them and to stay loyal once they did.