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californiasardar1

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  1. One reason why this forum is so dead is because of this obsession with closing topics. What's wrong with a vigorous discussion? If you don't like a particular discussion, you don't have to be in that thread.
  2. There's no doubt that power is in numbers (in many instances), and we need a greater number. But I don't think blindly increasing the population is the answer. So many Sikh families in Punjab who rely on agriculture have rather meager landholdings as it is. What will happen if such families have many kids? What will a family with 2 acres of land and 4 sons do? Marginal landowners having a lot of kids will just propagate poverty. In the west, on the other hand, I am all for Sikhs families strategically having 3-5 kids. We desperately need the numbers.
  3. Jagsaw Singh / Legal Singh / West London Singh: I want to send you a private message, but I can't do that since you are posting as a "guest". If it's not too much trouble, can I have an email address so that I can ask you a question that could use your expertise?
  4. Do you lose your age, height and various other personal characteristics? I'm a really stupid person, so please explain to me what you lose and what you retain once you become a khalsa.
  5. This is a great point. Why do people insist on replicating the gender of the panj pyare, but not their other attributes? Why not insist on panj pyare who come from the same geographic areas, same castes, have the same height/weights, same ages, etc. as the original panj pyare? It just shows how ridiculous it is to insist that the panj pyare be male.
  6. I think women view keeping body hair as a great limitation that will isolate them socially. I think that at least partially explains the amritdhari gender gap. But that is only one factor. In general, I think young Sikh women are less inclined to feel a connection with their Sikh heritage than young Sikh men are (even in cases where that connection does not necessarily involve being amritdhari). For this, I blame their conflation of Sikhi with conservative Punjabi culture. While the former is very progressive in terms of promoting gender equality, the latter is the opposite. Let's face it: a lot of our parents (especially those from rural, uneducated backgrounds) treat their sons and daughters differently. In some cases, the different treatment is administered with the best intentions in mind (but a lack of awareness of what is perceived to be sexist in the modern world). In other cases, there is outright favoritism of boys. This is a dire problem, and we need to do something to increase the number of amritdhari women, and more generally, engage more young Sikh women and let them know that Sikhi is for them.
  7. Did someone pay them a lot of money to make fun of themselves? I don't understand how any self-respecting men can make such a video. As much of a joke as Sikhs in Punjab have become, these urban Delhi Sikhs are no better. It's largely because of them that the rest of India sees Sikhs as a bunch of clowns and jokers.
  8. Satinder Sartaj as Duleep Singh? And Duleep Singh is wearing a Patiala Shahi pagh? Looks like a very poorly made movie ...
  9. I understand the importance of having a "can do" attitude, but if we can do something for younger Singhs, we should. My parents' generation could not provide any support and guidance because of the cultural barrier, generation gap, and the emerging hatred of Singhs that they did not have to grapple with. Now we have a generation of Sikh men with their dhari and kesh intact who have been raised in America, Canada and the UK. We are in a position to reach out and, at the very least, provide more understanding and support than our parents' generation did. This goes beyond Singhs' problems with girls. Just having some "big brother" types who could provide advice and facilitate activities and habits that build confidence and self-esteem for young Singhs could really help them in many different aspects of life.
  10. What a complete joke. Gurdas Maan has played a huge role in creating the degenerate culture that now dominates Punjab.
  11. I don't really have a plan. I have moved back in with my parents and have focused on taking care of them, sorting out my career, and exercising. I haven't been looking for a girl, haven't been going to the Gurdwara, haven't kept in touch with the Sikh community. From time to time, I feel a sense of deep regret, like I've missed out on something. And I wish my parents had grandchildren they could play with and look after. But overall, I am happier now than when I was trying to meet a girl. Life goes on. I posted on this thread again because I had an experience recently which brought back the emotions and thoughts I had when I was trying to meet a girl, and it made me wish the situation for me and people like me was different, and that something could be done about it. Perhaps if there was some support structure for young men during their formative years, they could come up with a better way of overcoming this obstacle than just ignoring it and moving on with their lives.
  12. I didn't even realize it was Valentine's Day until you brought it up. I don't pay attention to holidays. What you don't seem to understand is it is not all about just getting a girl. One's dignity must also be kept intact. Things changed when I had shorn hair, but I realized I could never be happy being with a girl who I got with while looking like that. It destroyed who I was, and that was part of why things got worse. So that is one conclusion that I have drawn.
  13. Forget about me, you've clearly already made up your mind that my problem is entirely my creation. What about all of the other young men (especially those younger than me)? What is the Sikh community going to do for them? What can we do to provide support and guidance, especially when they are going through the most vulnerable time in their lives, maturing into adults? Oh, wait, nevermind. I must be the only singh who has ever struggled with this. And if there are one or two other singhs who have also struggled with this, it must be because of their rotten personalities.
  14. How is everyone doing? I have been away from this forum. After cutting my hair, I sunk into an even deeper depression than I had been in. I went through some serious problems with my career and also experienced some family problems. In the midst of all this, I just stopped caring about girls. I have grown my hair and beard back now and once again am a singh. So what does the Sikh community intend to do about this issue? It is not going away anytime soon. I know there will be many on this forum who will try to downplay this issue and act like it is only a problem that is specific to me and my experiences. But the truth is that far too many young sikh men with their dhari and kesh intact have no where to turn, no support structure, no guidance, and no idea what to do to feel better about themselves. Is there anything we can do? We can't continue to ignore this issue.