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  1. Thank you @Not2Cool2Argue Paji and @sikhni777, @jkvlondon Penjis for the nutritional info and those websites. Got to get out of the aloo syndrome.😤 And as @S4NGH Paji says, vitamins/supplements may be needed if there are any defiencies. Get your blood tests done.
  2. This was uncalled for.
  3. Nice answer @Jacfsing2 Paji. @Usernametaken1, out of interest, what test was it?
  4. Ok so you didn't pass your test. But you can hardly blame God for that. Even though you put in a lot of work, I understand that, but maybe it wasn't enough, otherwise you would have passed right? This is the thing, we tend to do paat to receive something. I'm not saying don't ask Waheguru for anything, because they are the only one that will bless and even I do ardas to them for help at times. But what I'm saying is, if you didn't receive what you wished for, don't be upset with Waheguru too much with the result, maybe there's a diversion coming in your life or it wasn't that you were to pass it because of something else or another opportunity. This time of sadness will pass too, it's normal to feel this way. I read somewhere once, God gives us what we need, not what we desire. I'm still trying to think of how this relates to my life too. What's done is done now and it can't be reversed. Now you have to think what to do next, what are your other options. But first you should relax take a break and not keep dwelling on what's happened. Think positive that something good is in store in the future. I know this sounds weird, but one hasn't seen their future, you shouldn't predict your future on your present situation.
  5. This is a tricky one, as the older generation still have the caste rules and apply them to marriage. You are right that there is no jaat paat in Sikhi. You seem to be okay from your family's side that they support your view of not supporting caste. However your female friend is not, as her family have already given her a set of rules to abide by. It seems like they've said she can choose her own marriage partner, but as long as he is of so and so castes. This is quite silly, as then they are not following Sikhi, but applying their own rules. From what you have described about yourself and your family, sounds like they will not have to worry about their daughter being married off to somebody that is only marrying her for materialistic reasons. So that's one positive point. The next point is how much faith they have in their daughter that she hasn't chosen a wrong guy. It all depends on the relationship she has with her parents that they will be willing to give their blessings. Although she has does everything as correctly as she can, chosen somebody that believes in Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji (I'm assuming you do follow them and go to a Gurdwara which has Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji in it?) and not let caste be an issue, the problem lies in their set of rules that they laid out to her. The thing is nobody can tell you what the best way to convince them is in case it backfires and makes them angry. Are there any elders that know both sides of the family, that could talk to them? Sorry, that's the only thing I can think of that will help develop trust in you. Trust is what needs to be present within both families to accept each other and that both follow Sikhi. Some videos to think about:
  6. May Waheguru bless him and his family 🙏🏻 Waheguru. I learned a lot from his parchar and videos, sad to hear this 😢
  7. Sorry to hear this penji. MisterrSingh Paji is right, Karams play a part and we all have to bhog them. It is hard, but what I sometimes do when I'm feeling low is to listen to shabads that will lift my spirits up. Don't lose hope, it's a phase you're going through, nothing is permanent, so as Dally Paji once said to me think it's going change one day and it won't last. Putting some shabads on for you. Do Ardas to Waheguru to help you to stay in their will. Also, it may help to change some ways in your. Eg: meet up with friends who you get on with for coffee/cold drink for a catch up. Go and see some historical buildings or parks open to the public. Read a new book, or treat yourself to something new from the stores. Sit near swans and birds.
  8. Don't worry, just do th best you can. And if you've studied hard then you will be ok. You should study to get good results.
  9. Don't know Paji, he maybe taking a break. Yes, he was and still is a good member, with lots to learn from his posts, that helped me.
  10. The article was on a website, but can't remember which one. If you do a search in Google, there are some website pages that have the history and names on them.
  11. Chali Mukte Of Muktsar In 1704 Anandpur was under an extended siege by the allied forces of the Mughals and the hill chiefs. The combined muslim and hindu forces numbered a millon and were gathered to exterminate the Sikhs. Mai Bhago Mai Bhago leading the Chali Mukte Provisions were completely exhausted and the Khalsa were living on leaves and the bark of trees. The Mughals and hill chiefs that had surrounded Anandpur for eight months were demanding it be evacuated. They called on any person that rejected Sikhism and announced that they were 'not a Sikh of Guru Gobind' would be left untouched and be free to leave the siege unharmed. The Jats of Majha decided to leave and go home. Led by Mahan Singh Brar they told Guru Gobind Singh that they were not his Sikhs any more and wanted to leave. Guru Ji accepted what he was told by the deserters and asked them to write a disclaimer saying they were no longer his Sikhs and sign it. Out of hundreds of Sikhs, forty Sikhs signed the beadava (disrespectful) document; then they were permitted to leave Anandpur. Note: In the history of warfare, deserters have never been treated with such leniency and forgiveness. The forty deserters from Anandpur lived in the Majha region in the district of Amritsar. In one of their villages, called Jhabal, there lived a brave woman named Mai Bhago. She was known for her faith and courage, and she had a great zeal to serve the Guru. Her blood boiled at the timidity of those who, beaten by the ravages of the prolonged siege of Anandpur, disclaimed Sri Guru Gobind Singh Ji to return to their homes. She was smitten at the ignominy shown by these forty deserters. Mai Bhago charged them with cowardice and lack of faith. She was determined to wipe out this stain of infamy on Majha Singhs. She went around the neighbouring villages and exhorted the women folk not to be hospitable to the deserters who had disclaimed the Guru. Mai Bhago leading the Chali Mukte When the forty arrived home, rather than finding wives joyful for their return, happy that they were alive, what did they find? Wives who were appalled that they had deserted Guru Gobind Singh Ji. The Khalsa women had already consciously chosen widowhood. They chose to bear the burden of seeing their husbands dead, of being left with the sorrow of being widowed, of raising their children alone, of having their economic and personal futures comprised with the absence of a husband, than to see their husbands walk away from their destinies and betray their Guru. Mai Bhago shamed and censured the Singhs for their cowardice and eventually brought them back to the path of devotion and sacrifice. She, donning a man's dress, inspired them to return to the fold of Sri Guru Gobind Singh Ji. Feeling ashamed for their act of cowardice, they followed her banner and joined in the famous battle of Sri Muktsar Sahib, which was fought against the Mughal forces at Khidrana in the district of Ferozepur. Knowing that Wazir Khan was advancing to attack the Guru, Mai Bhago took up positions along with forty Sikhs and others at Mukatsar. Meanwhile, Guru Gobind Singh had to evacuate the fort of Anandpur. Guru Ji's children were lost in the confusion. The two youngest son's, Zorawar Singh and Fateh Singh, were with their grandmother (mother of Guru Gobind Singh). While the two elder son's, Ajit Singh and Jhujhar Singh were with their father. At battle of Chamkaur, Guru Ji's elder sons attained martyrdom. Guru Ji was saved by five Sikhs, he evacuated Chamkaur and was traveling in Malva region, being pursued by Mughal forces of Aurangzeb. Traveling day and night in the Jungles of Malva region, imperial Mughal forces were in constant pursuit of Guru. Guru Gobind Singh reached village of Khidrana, when Mai Bhago and the men, she was leading stopped near the dhab or pool of Khidrana. The imperial army in pursuit of Guru Gobind Singh had almost overtaken him. The 40 Sikhs challenged the pursuing host of 10,000 soldiers and fought furiously. All forty Sikhs attained martyrdom in this pitched battle, in which Guru himself was supporting them with a shower of arrows from a nearby hill. When Guru Gobind Singh Ji along with Mai Bhago were collecting the dead bodies for cremation, he found one of the 40 Sikhs, Mahan Singh, still clinging to life. On seeing the Guru, he made an effort to rise, the Guru at once took him in his arms, and sat down with him. Mahan Singh tearful and exhausted, made a last request. He asked Guru Gobind Singh to forgive the 40 Sikhs and destroy the beadava letter disclaiming they were not Sikhs of the Guru. Before Mahan Singh passed away Guru Gobind Singh, tore up the document. Showing infinite mercy towards his followers he named the 40 deserters who had fought bravely the Chali Mukte (40 liberated ones). After them Khidrana became Muktsar - the Pool of Liberation. The names of the Chalih Mukte are listed as follows: (1). Bhai Bhag Singh (2). Bhai Dilbag Singh (3). Bhai Mann Singh (4). Bhai Nidhan Singh (5). Bhai Kharbara Singh (6). Bhai Darbara Singh (7). Bhai Dyal Singh (8). Bhai Nihal Singh (9). Bhai Khushal Singh (10). Bhai Ganda Singh (11). Bhai Ishmer Singh (12). Bhai Singha (13). Bhai Bhalla Singh (14). Bhai Suhel Singh (15). Bhai Chamba Singh (16). Bhai Ganga Singh (17). Bhai Sumer Singh (18). Bhai Sultan Singh (19). Bhai Maya Singh (20). Bhai Massa Singh (21). Bhai Sarja Singh (22). Bhai Sadhu Singh (23). Bhai Gulab Singh (24). Bhai Harsa Singh (25). Bhai Sangat Singh (26). Bhai Hari Singh (27). Bhai Dhana Singh (28). Bhai Karam Singh (29). Bhai Kirt Singh (30). Bhai Lachman Singh (31). Bhai Buddha Singh (32). Bhai Kesho Singh (33). Bhai Jado Singh (34). Bhai Sobha Singh (35). Bhai Bhanga Singh (36). Bhai Joga Singh (37). Bhai Dharam Singh (38). Bhai Karam Singh (39). Bhai Kala Singh (40). Bhai Mahan Singh. Mahan Singh, still clinging to life, made a last request. Etymologically, 'mukta' from Sanskrit 'mukht' means 'liberated, delivered' from the cycle of birth and death. Mukti (liberation) in Sikhism is the highest spiritual goal of human existence, and mukt or mukta is the one who has achieved this state of final beatitude. Mukta, also means a pearl, and the word would thus signify a title or epithet of distinction. It was probably in this sense that the five Sikhs, who on 30 March 1699 received the vows of the Khalsa immediately after the first five Panj Piare (q.v.), were blessed with the title mukta, plural mukte. It is worth noting that the forty martyrs of Muktsar, who deserted the Guru after being driven to desperation by the prolonged siege of Anandpur, who earned this title by sacrificing their lives for the Guru, who redeemed their past apostasy of having disowned the Guru, were inspired by the moral consciousness of their Khalsa wives. Without the spiritual understanding of their wives, the 40 liberated ones would have never returned to their Guru and would have gone through lifetimes of karma to repay their mistake. These women knew the duty and role of a Khalsa wife is to serve the soul of her husband and deliver him to his destiny and to God and Guru no matter what. Who liberated these men? Themselves? No - it was the grace, wisdom and blessing of their wives that allowed them to be liberated. It was the meditative discipline, trust in the divine and strength of character that allowed these women to look at their husbands in the eye and say, "You are dead to us, no matter what! Go back and stand with your Guru".
  12. Wasn't sure what to put in here, but thought I'd keep this thread going. Soohee, Fifth Mehla: When You come to mind, I am totally in bliss. One who forgets You might just as well be dead. That being, whom You bless with Your Mercy, O Creator Lord, constantly meditates on You. ||1|| O my Lord and Master, You are the honor of the dishonored such as me. I offer my prayer to You, God; listening, listening to the Word of Your Bani, I live. ||1||Pause|| May I become the dust of the feet of Your humble servants. I am a sacrifice to the Blessed Vision of Your Darshan. I enshrine Your Ambrosial Word within my heart. By Your Grace, I have found the Company of the Holy. ||2|| I place the state of my inner being before You; there is no other as great as You. He alone is attached, whom You attach; he alone is Your devotee. ||3|| With my palms pressed together, I beg for this one gift; O my Lord and Master, if it pleases You, I shall obtain it. With each and every breath, Nanak adores You; twenty-four hours a day, I sing Your Glorious Praises. ||4||9||56||
  13. I like how beautifully Bhai Jasbir Singh sings. He's also one of Harsharan paji's favourite raagis. Miss Harsharan paji's posts in Bhakti section. Hope you're ok paji and in chardi kala.
  14. Harkiran penji, you really do go OTT on the equality issue of women. You keep stating the Rehat Maryada as an excuse I think for women equality, and that's the only thing you keep repeating again and again, theemia, women, janania, bibian. Haven't you read the point c under it about disabled people, where are your thoughts, views, of equality then. If I thought the way you did, I'd have written something about that, but have I ? NO... I think you are just seeing the word woman as equality. If you believed in equality so much, you'd be commenting on other clauses too. But for your own matlab, I think you're just using point b to your advantage and matlab. Bye...
  15. I would also like to see more Heath awareness sessions being held at the Gurdwaras, for all sangat, not just those with health conditions and disabilities. Some Gurdwaras are starting to hold sessions of these and having talks, which creates awareness and gets them involved in sangat environment too. Saw this on FB, think it's a great idea:
  16. I wonder if Gurdwaras could encourage or hold classes/sessions for those with health conditions or disabilities. What are your thoughts on this?
  17. Yes, that's all fine in theory, but maybe it will be more difficult in practice. But if the article above as suggests Guruji also encouraged it, then Gurdwaras should also too, but then there's the costs of making adjustments, which I can't see committees doing.
  18. That's what I was thinking penji, as if the classes are held in Darbar Sahib then there will be a problem regarding sitting etc. But it would be nice to see them integrate with normal able bodied sangat too, so maybe have the classes together. I was thinking there's lots of people with health conditions sitting at home probably watching tv and I think it's a good idea if they are also encouraged to mix with normal sangat and encourage them to attend Kirtan and musical instrument classes, as part of the sangat. Why shouldn't Gurdwaras encourage it, where it is for normal bodied sangat? This will also help them connect to Sikhi, and learn Gurbani. Whether you like it or not, they are also part of the sangat. Obviously, disabled people would only do what they can manage within their limits, but I feel they should be encouraged to also participate where possible.
  19. Oh my God, so many replies. It's going take me 2days to read them. Ok calm down, don't all reply at once, take your time 😏
  20. You could use your phone only for making and receiving calls and the other tasks of emails, fb, online shopping do on a laptop/iPad if you have one. Switch it off or put in silent mode until you've finished reading Gurbani. And better still put it in another room, or further away from where you are sitting, which is what I do in the day. Good suggestions by Justajatt ji. Thanks for reminding me to place the phone further away from the bedside table when sleeping. I do have a bedtime reminder setup but it doesn't work in practice and I tend to ignore it 😒. There's also time management apps you can download: Thomas Frank A lot of people are asking about options for mobile phones; while there definitely are some, I think your phone is easier to deal with than a computer. You probably need your computer for studying and work - you almost never need your phone for those purposes. So simply shutting it off during your work sessions is an effective strategy ;) That being said, if you feel the need to use an app instead, here are your options:Android - Cold Turkey iOS - Freedom (ironically not free), though I've heard that it's not 100% effective because of the way iOS is designed. An alternative is Forest, which encourages you not to use your phone rather than straight-up blocking content.
  21. Hanji paji, that's what I agree with. It's up to the couple to tell others if they want to. I'm not saying nobody should not if they want to. I'm saying nobody should be forced to go shouting it over the roof tops. At the end of the day, it's the couple's children, and nobody's business what treatment they had, but not be ashamed of it either. There is no need to tell every jeeto, shindo, or ge jo because it's non of their business. Confiding in close relative or somebody they trust should be enough. And yes, to keep away from the ones that like to ferh the karchis.
  22. Plus it's nobody's business how somebody has their child. It's the extended families and relatives that want something to gossip about in India and to cause problems in somebody's life, that's why they don't tell anybody. And why should they, it's got nothing to do with nobody else. But society there want to do their own thing and not move on from breaking families.
  23. So what. Not everybody thinks like you. Hor lecture likla.