Mann-Sahib

To the Original Poster Did you leave your husband or did he leave you? Do you have kids? If you have kids then you must make contact with him and communicate with each other without the influence of others. You must compromise and be accountable for your own mistakes - your husband must also display accountability and compromise. Im sure with some initiative from you both you can make things work, you need to put your family aside and he must put his family aside and concentrate on your marriage and children alone. That is the only unit you need to keep happy. All the best Mann

To Guest Tharkan Boy Singh have some self respect, dont run around her if she is already becoming distant from you. She is well aware of Sikhi and the fact that there is NO caste in Sikhi - if she cant stand by those beliefs then why are you bothering? You dont need to convince her of anything - leave her alone and find someone else. If she cant stand up for whats right now she never will. Maintain your self respect - your not lower than anyone and nor do you need to convince / persuade anyone. All the best

GUEST SINGH Hi I had to reply to this, I dont know if I can help you but I wanted to share my own experience. I am now 37 but this particular event happened around 20 / 21 years old.I was at university at the time but living at home, i was always a heavy sleeper and my Mum would usually come to my room to wake me up. This one day I was asleep in my bed - but I was'nt. My body was asleep in my bed like usual but my spirit was in the lotus position - like when we sit in the Gurudwara. I was fully aware that I was in the position outside of my body, it was like once being out of my body I had other senses and a greater sense of this different type of awareness that I would not normally know. Anyway while in this out of body state I could on a spiritual level feel my Mum wake up and actually know what she was thinking - I could sort of hear her thoughts, she was getting up out of bed to see if I was awake and as she was coming close r to my door I could here here thoughts (on a spiritual level) - as she was coming closer to my bedroom door she was thinking to wake me up as she sort of knew I was still sleeping. I could sense all this in her mind without any physical communication between me and my Mum, then as she touched the door somehow my spirit / soul was dragged back into my body and as I went into my body I could feel a sort of scratching sensation all over me as I entered my body fully. When I entered my body my Mum opened the door and I was instantly awake and before she said anything told her im waking up now. Anyway that day I just got dressed like normal and went to Uni and just carried on like normal. Somehow that experience that I went through felt normal to me, I think i have been through such experiences before and just forgot about them. But one thing did stick with me, the total belief in the total fact that there is something else out there apart from this dimension we physically live in - I would just know this and be totally comfortable with this. I did'nt get all religious or anything, I have been a trim Singh all my life. But there were phases before and after this event due to personal issues I used to do the Rehraas Paath with devotion.... I always noticed that when doing so regularly my life would be better, plus I would have this sense where I would just know the outcome of something. Anyway, fast forward some years and my Father passed away due to a cardiac arrest, was rescucitated and brought back. My Dad never awoke from this coma has his heart had stopped beating for 20 minutes and he had sever brain damage, he died that same week. This event made me start reading into near death experiences, people that have had cardiac arrest (where their heart stops for a duration) and then get brought back sometimes tell stories afterwards detailing shining bright light and seeing dead relatives or seeing some energy that tells them to go back... Anyway I read about these experiences which also included out of body experiences, like the one I had. It seems lots of people have them, some people change and become devoted to God as they themselves have had concrete proof of another dimension that exists. I fully believe we have other dimensions which is also backed up by our Sikhi, the soul does not die we just move on. Many people that have had such experiences start experiencing new senses or weird things that occur without any explanation. One thing that I remember after my out of body experience was that everytime I would simply walk passed out home computer it would start up or turn off (if already on) - I never thought anything of this apart from something being wrong with it - this went on for years, I even took the PC back to Curries and no fault was found. But after my Dad passed away and I read into other people experiences it seems that issues with electrical equipment / items is common - they either done work or do not function like they should do for people that have had this out of body experience. I live my life normally with a full belief / knowledge that we have other dimensions and that we are here to do seva of humanity - I still have not done any seva I am in the process of kickstarting that chain of Seva.... I sort of know my role in this life and world, I just know it - it is to do seva of humanity and of our Sikh people affected by hardships. I dont know if any of this is related to what the original poster went through, but wanted to share what I have been through. I believe that I am very lucky for experiencing this and have realised what I must do in life, the original poster will soon also know what he / she needs to do. It will come with time and you will reflect on this experience to make the link. Sorry if this sounds weird, it all happened to me and wanted to share this with you.

Hello everyone.... This is a very sensitive subject, and I agree with some statements on here that its our girls that need to stop being such an easy target and its a problem not with just the <banned word filter activated> but also gore and kale... Why is it now that it seems to be ok for one of our Sikh kuria to get married to a gora? It is becoming more accepted - why? What are we going to do about it? What can we do? Alienating the females will not work, they must be the core of any strategy to help our women stay and only be with Sikh men. The Jews have been through this too, what are they doing to ensure their women only partner with other Jewish men? We need to learn and be more strategic, the women are the future of our Sikhi and we must act now. Im born and brought up in Birmingham, you only need to go out on a Saturday night to the city centre - apnia kuria are ridiculous!

To _HelplessKaur_ I know after reading what I have to say that alot if not most people on here will shoot me down but I will say it anyway. Your young, this stuff happens. You and your God already know whats happened, learn from it and move on. If you and this other guy are serious then maybe you should think about having a serious reltionship - i..e inform your parents about your wish to get engaged / married. I personally think you need to think about what you want, this is all natural and part of life - Amrithdhari or non-Amrithdhari, we're all human at the end of the day so dont beat yourself up over this too much. Rather have a deep think t yourself and make up your own mind as what you want out of this and then take the appropriate steps. Alot of people here would say tell the Panj Pyara's but I dont think you need to do that. If the Panj Pyara's consisted of women then that would be an avenue in which you could discuss whats happened but ads theyre most likely going to be male I would'nt advise it. Seriously just get over this and move on, learn from it. Its all a part of natural life. You can message me directly if you prefer. Manny

Hello everyone I went to watch the Ardaas Punjabi movie this weekend and was impressed with the production and the storyline of the entire movie. I believe it to be a benchmark in the Punjabi film industry in which Gippy Grewal has done an excellent job. Gurpreet Ghuggi and others of the the movie cast were also very good in their roles. In regards to caste and “Jattism” – I do not believe this promoted caste supremacy. In Gippy’s interview he states clearly that in songs and movies to date the Jatts have been shown to be something which they are not – i.e. rich, rule over others, are better than others, are doing so well etc… Gippy states that he wanted to produce the film based on facts and the real life issues such Jatts face. This film shows this clearly. The only issue I have is with the Punjabi movie industry as a whole – they always focus on the Jatt family / community. There are many other communities that are doing equally well or have their own issues – but these are never covered. Maybe because most of the Punjabi community are mainly of a Jatt caste so producing something they relate to will obviously sell more. This does need to change as it is causing offence and getting on peoples nerves – this is easily done when every single Punjabi song / movie is making a reference to the Jatt caste. The Punjabi enternatinment industry must stop referring to Caste in any form as it is divisive and excluding. I could go on, but focusing on the subject I would say that Ardaas was a fantastic film. Mann

"8) No more discrimination, injustice and lies to Sikhs" What about the discrimination Sikhs to do each other? When will that ever end? I do not think it will in my lifetime. Until Pride in caste and making out one is superior than the other due to caste is eradicated I do NOT think / believe that there will be as much support for Khalistan from non-Jatts as comparison to that of from the Jatt community. Do NOT take this as meaning others have an inferiority complex, not at all! These Punjabi songs and movies bragging about Jatt this and Jatt that have done SO MUCH DAMAGE that the non-Jatt community may not be able to fathom. And this comes from a so called "Jatt" too. Therefore until Sikhs whole heartedly look at each other as equals may Sikhs never get a Sikh homeland! This is a fact! Please do not use offensive / insulting language in your replies to my posting. Regards

This is my opinion so please do not hurl abuse at me for my personal views. Why has Bhai Hawara been named as the Jathedar of Akal Thakt? What experience does he have running such an institution or of international issues? Im sure Bhai Hawara Ji is a very able man and steadfast but I do not think that appointing him as Jathedar will be positive. I personally would have hoped for the ex-Jathedar Bhai Ranjit Singh to be re-instated - he has the qualities we require and has past experience to fall on plus he is fully against the Badals and totally for an independant Akal Thakt. Anyway, whatever is agreed I sincerely hope it is for the benefit of the Khalsa Panth.

ex Jathedar Ranjit Singh? He was the man that killed the darshan das baba and seems to be very panthic / Akal Thakat centric...

Harmeet / Original poster I have contacts in Toronto who can and will help you - please get in touch with me by sending me a direct message here and I will be happy to help a fellow Sikh daughter / sister. Manny

Harmeet Oh My God, have you really been through that? How old are you now? Is this really real? If so please get out of that house and report what has happened to you to the authorities and to the local Sikh Sangat and media right away! Is there anyone that can help you? Exactly where do you live? If you tell me then maybe I can see what I can do to help. I have a young daughter, only 3 years old - your story terrifies me. Please please either reply to this or get in touch with the authorities and report what you have been through - its is WRONG not to report this. I will monitor this thread for your reply. Rab Rakha Manny

Hi Sanny My advice to you regardless of which country you are from is to marry this guy as long as he is of good Sikh character - caste is irrelevant. If the Jat family you come from is so full of ego you should ask them to actually investigate the humble beginnings of the Jat caste - Jat only became land owners when joining Sikhism under Banda Singh Bahadur - otherwise were peasants! Marry your boyfriend and dont look back, be happy... This caste rubbish has to end!

To the Kaur that wrote the article I felt so sad reading what you have been through. You should not have had your innocence ever taken in that manner by anyone let alone your father. We really are living in a Kalyug. Was there no one to help? Im so sorry for what you have been through. It makes it even more critical that we as people ensure that we pick up on abuse in our families and not just let evil acts such as this occur hoping it will stop. This is such a shame... I pray for you to have a happy life free from these scars. PM me any time.. Mann

Hi I went to Miami and Florida back in 2010 with my wife, I went everywhere with my Dastaar and had no issues. If you walk with the confidence Guru Ji expects then you will be fine.

ASinghKhalsa I really understand how this video was produced - Was it produced whilst the attack was happening or After it happened. If AFTER the attack then what does this mean? That Santji escaped from the Harmandir Sahib? If so what does that signify? Please share and respond....