esingh's reply is 100% spot on --
ardas to waheguru is a starter and a catalyst for everything else- start afresh positively , one step at a time -- how do you get to the top of a building if you didn;t have a lift -- step by step warrior-- all steps no matter how small count towards any goal in life.
You have life , your own - please that first , once that is pleased u'll be rocking. YOu are so lucky to be associated to Sikhism - there is no other way of life like it out there.Grab hold of it with open your heart out Guru sahib is waiting for u to take the first step. As it's clear inGurbani we take one step Guru Jee take 1000 towards us.
Great question -enjoy report back after a month or so..
Start with mool mantar recitations every day even if you can only do for 5 mins. Read book by Bhai rama singh jee
http://www.scribd.com/doc/49191420/Bhai-Rama-Singh-In-Search-of-the-True-Guru-Scan-courtesy-Bhoojangi-Veerji-on-SikhSangat-com
http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Bhai_Rama_Singh