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  1. 5 points
    Veerji, I understand your point of view, and like you and others in this thread, I am disappointed by how Jagmeet chose a moni for a wife and did not adhere to simple, Gursikh standards when it came to wedding celebrations. But what people are overlooking is that: 1. There aren't enough dastar-wearing, amritdhari Sikh women to go around. Young keshdhari Sikh men probably outnumber young keshdhari Sikh women by 3 to 1 or 4 to 1. If all kesdhari Sikh men only married keshdhari Sikh women, either we would end up with a large volume of Singhs who never get married, or Singhs who are unable to find a keshdhari woman would become monay in order to get married. A Singh with a girl who has shed her kesh is not ideal, but I'd rather see that than see a Singh discard his kesh and marry a girl who has also discarded her kesh. 2. If a girl without her kesh marries a mona Sikh, they will almost certainly raise their children as monay. But if a girl without her kesh marries a Singh, at least there is some chance that their children will be raised keshdhari (even if the mother never keeps her kesh). I would rather keshdhari Sikhs marry Sikhs who discard their kesh and at least reproduce rather than have keshdhari Sikhs never marry and never have children. People have to understand, there are already very few keshdhari Sikhs, and a disproportionately large percentage of young keshdhari Sikhs are never marrying and never having children. It's an overall positive thing to see keshdhari Sikhs getting married (even to partners who are not in full Sikhi) and produce children who might carry on our faith. This is a matter of survival.
  2. 5 points
    typical B.S on this thread which symbolises everything with our kaum today... which is 'amritdharis' becoming masters of nindiyah. Yeah i agree jagmeets wedding etc isnt a conventional gursikh wedding, nor his is mrs. I agree that Guru Sahib shouldnt be taken to beaches, BUT wake up people. The guy has become an icon, made amritdharis and singhs in particular look good on a global level, he has a raised the voice of 1984 and generally has made our kaum proud. in the real world, instead of cussing him for marryin a non amrtidhari, maybe we should rate him for getting with a girl whose actually good looking and seems quite popular? Lets be real, most 'amritdharis' would love a mrs like that but oh wait the rehit police will be after them lol. Why dont we rate the girl, accepting a gursikh as a partner? Once again lets be real, how many non amrtidhari girls prefer gursikh guys? Sad yes, but its the era of kaljug. People cussing his dress sense? but yet probs the same guys u see at every smagm in the same clothes over again. until the nindiyah stops - which if you read bani is a major thing that bani teaches us against, we aint gona get nowhere as a kaum. food for thought... has anyone actually spoke to jagmeet as a brother, spoke about any issues and actually tried to explain anything back with facts from bani? or let me guess, its just cyber nindiyah lol.
  3. 4 points
    I get what you saying bro but Gursikhs should in theory be pakkeh in their own thing than to be swayed by one individual. I get gursikh women feel they be shunned, but even if he married one gursikh girl, he wouldnt have married the remainder. the guys had a love marriage with someone who he actually loves, and like i said before, gotta rate the girl for not rejecting him due to his sikhi saroop. bigger issue here is that all the haters are appearing to be jelous and on the nindiyah bandwagon.
  4. 3 points
    Nindiya = people in glass houses throwing stones This singh probably does more good then all of us put together. hes obviously no Saint but he's on the right path. maharaj bless him and the rest of us strength to become a better and stronger singhs then we already are.
  5. 3 points
    Welcome to Kalyug, enjoy your stay.
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    "... Baba don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more." Seriously, most of us struggle to comprehend what love truly is. The majority mistake attachment and / or lust for love, but it's not.
  7. 2 points
    Prob many reasons.. One being cows are domesticated animals in punjab.. my families cows in punjab are surprisingly intelligent and have great personalities and given names. Your question is similar in principle to asking why do meat eating brits not eat dog or cat meat.
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    For Indians to be pushing this line of reasoning is hypocritical. Pick up any text book on the so-called British Atrocities and you will see that at least several chapters are entitled to demeaning traitors who acquired prominence with the white man by betraying the black.
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    Bhaji, Ask them to recite Japji Sahib. This is minimum. Ask them to recite Jaap Sahib, Amrit Sawaya, Benti Chaupai, and Anand Sahib. This will give you a good indication as to their avastha. Tell them that as part of their appointment they will also be expected to clean sangat shoes and toilet duties. This will give indication of nimarta. Bhaji I would refrain from calling it "My Gurdwara", it may be just a figure of speech but we need to have nimarta ourselves also. Even when something is yours always say it is not yours , it is Guru gifted, it is blessed by Guru Ji. Gurdwara is Gurus.
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    Guru Arjan Dev Ji was Guru, Guru Ji could have blessed Mata Ji with a child, but instead told mata ji to seek the blessing of Baba Buddha Ji, but why ? The reason is that sant/mahapursh are Guru Ji's beloved. They are so close to the Guru that Guru Ji will bestow honour to them. In Punjabi we call it Vadhyai. Guru Ji bestows honour to them with things that they can quite easily do them selves. Like a father pushing forward the son and honouring him to do something rather than doing himself. Just like Guru Ji asked Mian Mir Ji to lay the first stone of Harmindar Sahib, they bestowed that honour to a sant/mahapursh. This is how close sant/Mahapursh/Bhagats are to Guru Ji and we should take a lesson from this sakhi, do utmost respect of these spiritual souls , Guru Ji is very happy with them and if we respect them Guru Ji will be happy with us.
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    You make a great point. I remember when I was a kid. You'd see a clean shaven Sikh uncle, and almost without exception, his wife would still have uncut hair tied in a bun. Almost all the "uncles" in our social circle were monay, but I really cannot recall every seeing an "auntie" type with a haircut. (Perhaps the situation was different in the UK where, by the 80s and 90s, there were already "auntie" types who were born in (or grew up in) the UK and maybe they had haircuts.) In Punjab, certainly, the hair cutting trend among Sikh men started long, long before it picked up among Sikh women. It's shocking just how quickly it has somehow become more prevalent among Sikh women. I blame Sikh parents who take a sexist attitude and focus on their sons and their Sikhi while looking the other way when it comes to their daughters.
  13. 1 point
    Brother Guest Jee, Wahiguru Akal Purukh is an Infinite Ocean of Love, we souls, are all drops of that Highest Truth, so naturally we have a natural pull/ affinity towards Him, but each one of us carries heavy karam on our heads, along with our vikaars ... But it is by His grace, only that we can ever not only love Him, but even to think about Him. Having said that, our love for Him, is quite weak and shaky in most cases. But nevertheless, He has blessed us with a very useful tool, to loosen and remove our bondages with maya, and wash our stained karam, collected in this mayavee creation, since we left our True Home..... And brother that tool , is none other than His Bhakti. It does not matter much, how fallen we are, His Bhakti can truly polish us, and fill each cell of our being with gratitude and love for Him. So whether we feel any love, or not so much for Him, His bhakti, is the key to fill ourselves with His love, for it is all due to His grace than our petty efforts. His Bhakti, withdraws His blessings on us, in the form of firm love for His Lotus Feet. God bless you. Sat Sree Akal.
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    Of course he couldn't marry all girls but it still plants a seed ...Other young guys who are yet to get pakkeh are the ones I'm talking about 1. he had a GF for Five years bad idea for gursikh temptation aside it is not acceptable generally 2. He picked someone who doesn't accept basic rehit of kesh err please don't get it the wrong way around, she's damn lucky she got a decent guy with sikhi saroop and some sense of sikhi... we should not be so quick to denigrate sikhi saroop or our own sikhi in front of worldy people
  16. 1 point
    Speaking of which: They also have some of Santa Singh Nihang bowing to Rajiv Gandhi- will try finding those as well.
  17. 1 point
    I'd like to see a original source to support your argument?
  18. 1 point
    The paintings speak volumes. It's clear it was normal for the women to wear jewellery in those days. Some men had earrings but in this day and age will just look camp on a Singh 😉
  19. 1 point
    The kattar view against jewellery and oranaments for both men and women when made so black and white, is ridiculous. There is either weak foundations for it or none at all.
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    Yeah. That's like saying America isn't knee deep in racists because Obama was President. Yet made clear in the very next election....and in some way or another every day for the last 400 years....
  22. 1 point
    Your perspective on feminism is commendable, and I hope you continue to speak out against a malaise which has ruined the West, and is starting to ruin us, too. I have so far been unable to get a straight answer out of @Akalifauj as to why a chunni was not sufficient to cover her hair. If you had limited your comments to refuting @Akalifauj's assertion that she was not properly covering her hair, you'd be golden. But you could not refrain from posting a vile set of comments calling Sikh women who don't commit a bajjer kurehit of removing hair bearded freaks. Note that I am not saying this wedding was void. I have posted, as you can see, that she WAS covering her head. If you have any females in your life (sister, wife, mother), you know that females have a bit of facial hair. However, what you said about women with beards is what one would expect a Muslim to say about Sikh women. It was totally unwarranted, and you should apologize for it. I am not asking you to apologize for your posts on Khanda pahul. That is merely stating your opinion. Talking about women with beards is vile mischaracterization of women in Sikh rehit. Since you chose to go for the jugular, let me ask you if you believe that the Guru's mehils shaved their armpit hair, and if not, if you think it would be appropriate for anybody (Sikh or Muslim) to make fun of either Guru's mehils or Sikh women in general for having "hairy pits"? Yes, I've been there. Question for you: Does the RCC construction air-conditioned room in which pictures are housed date from the turn of the 18th century? The air conditioners, too? Along with the pictures? So sad that you feel the need to cut your nose to spite your face by making fun of the Guru's bana. In relation to women, what exactly is a bana? It's basically a blue kameez without a 1 ft "neckline", along with a matching salwar/pajami. If a woman's top has a huge neckline, front and back, it's called a kameez. If not, and if it's cut a bit loose, people call it a "bana". I'm not saying wearing a kameez is bad. All I'm wondering is where your hatred for "bana" comes from? Does it offend you if a woman isn't showing her cleavage so you can perv on her? As far as "beards", as I stated above, you know quite well that females have a slight amount of facial hair. Not only that, but they have hair on their armpits, and also their arms, forearms, and legs. Those are normal women. A woman having a beard means you have an extreme hormonal imbalance. Your attempt to conflate normal women who don't remove their hair (such as all the women of Sikh history) with the extremely rare woman who has a hormonal imbalance is contemptible, and is in line with conflating Sikh men (or women) who don't undergo circumcision with intersex individuals. Again, something a Muslim might say.
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    Is skincare overr... no, I'm not going there. Bro, this is not good, and your reason for ending it is spurious at best. I'm not going to kick you while you're down, but if you do decide to end it, go away for a while and do some maturing.
  25. 1 point
    I would hazard a guess the contributors to SGGS Ji assumed -- to co-opt an American phrase -- that some truths are self-evident. I would think an examination of the spirit of the discourse in SGGS Ji can be extrapolated to other less defined areas of human conduct that aren't as explicitly defined in scripture.
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    There's a distinction between working for the Man in modern times (and everything that entails), and labouring in tandem with family and loved ones on one's homestead, nurturing more than just a bank account. Beggars can't be choosers, but the distinction is real.
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    How Emotions Affect Our Health... Every cell in our body is intelligent to think and act .. We have 60 trillion cells in our body and our health depends a lot on theharmonic balance and cohesion of the cells .... with each other... In the movie Eat, Pray, Love, Julia Roberts visits a wise man in Bali, and he advises her not to try too hard to meditate .. in fact he suggests that meditation is nothing but smiling and the line that is a kicker, is "Smile with your liver" If you believe that this is just a metaphor, lets look at the other end of the spectrum to prove just how crucial this is.. Let us say you hold a negative emotion towards somebody, something or some event in your life .... each time you think of that your whole body re-lives the emotional upheaval of that association ... Your mind doesn't have a mind of its own, and doesn't know if the event is happening in real time or it is being replayed... So it produces the same stress hormones each time .. each and every cell of your body starts feeling the same emotion, of let us say "hatred" towards that event, person or experience all over again... The body is not at ease.. this is a state where the condition of dis-ease sets in.... If you continue to live in that state, your cells are now getting conditioned to live in the same state... Some scriptures say" .. as is the atom so is the universe.... Health of a person, depends on how well all the systems of the body and the 60 trillion cells play the melody of harmony together.. When the cells are living in a state of hatred, they soon start exhibiting that with each other and killing healthy cells in the body...This leads to many forms of auto immune disease... Like Rumi said.. you are not a drop in the ocean, you are an ocean in every drop... Be careful of your thoughts, your feelings and your emotions... *Forgive people, not because they deserve it, but because you need it... Stay happy, stay healthy...*Have a wonderful healthy life ahead filled with the abundance of good health and happiness
  32. 0 points
    I'm probably gonna stir the proverbial pot here by posting this, but Sant Gurbachan Singh Ji mentions the past lives of the Panj Pyare.
  33. 0 points
    not complaining but noting that he has chosen to excuse his wife from the expected rehit thus fallen from his own.
  34. 0 points
    I remember when jagmeet Singh was cycling to work and people were praising him for keeping things simple and not destroying the environment by driving a car. I guess that was an act as well. Flying out to a different country when he could have had his wedding in his province is not being simple and not good for the environment. And for all those claiming maybe before the wedding his not amritdhari confused Punjabi wife would take Amrit were living in dream world. When people get power, they abuse that power to fulfill their wants. They don't care about the big picture, the Khalsa Panth teachings. An amritdhari man should have enough guts in him to tell his future wife to follow the Guru or this worldly relationship will end. His wife decision to be fashionable over properly covering her head before Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji is very arrogant. It shows the level of respect she has for Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji. People in power are the most arrogant people. I wonder what Sri Akal Takht sahib will say if they look into where this wedding was conducted. It has been recognized by Sri Akal Takht sahib to not have an Anand Karaj on the beach. From the picture it looks as the Anand karaj was done on the beach. People in power think they are above the law of Gurmat. Such behavior shown is basically a big middle finger to the Nirmal Panth started by Sri Guru Nanak dev ji. Disregard for Gurmat shows no respect for the shaheeds of 1984 because they lived and died to uphold Gurmat. But what do I know. I'm not in a position of power, just shut up and let the arrogant people run a muck of very thing good and pure.