As a Sikh we must also never judge others... Something many seem to have forgotten over time... Its almost like we are no longers Sikhs of our gurus or SGGS but of the various baba's and translater/scribes. Immerse yourself in gurbani, let go of your worldy views, focus on youself and accept everyone as they come, and waheguru will be one with you! If you like the guy, go for it, ask him out, be confident in yourself and your beliefs, true strength lays in not changing yourself or your beliefs for others appeasement.