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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh piyario! I was in the same situation a couple months back. But a Piyari Penji helped me out! This is what she said to me, and with Guru Sahibs Kirpa been following the instructions! Hope this helps! WaheguruJeeKaKhalsa,WaheguruJeeKiFateh! Getting back on track when you're at a low isn't always easy or quick, but joo can do it! I've found that starting with small steps can help...if you're struggling even with basic nitnem, then going all-out all of a sudden won't work in most circumstances. But pleaseeee don't let go of your nitnem. Missing even a single day will lead to more weaknesses and troubles down the road, so as hard as you may find it to stick with it right now, it's essential and you'll get nowhere without it. Maybe start by waking up just half an hour earlier, doing simran and nitnem, and then add a few extra short baanis to begin. Try Shabad Haazaray, Basant Ki Vaar and Raamkali Ki Vaar. This won't add too much time to your schedule, but it's a small start that will get your motor rolling again. Slowly increase time-wise and the number of baanis from there...this could be over the course of a few weeks or a month or whatever. Once you've added these to your nitnem, start doing these (or other) extra baanis in the morning AND at night. Another suggestion is to start a sehaj paath. Having daily darshan of Gurbaani is important, and doing a sehaj paath will also give you a sense of accomplishment. The spiritual benefits are obvious too. You could set a daily target like even just 10 angs per day to start. This is a good tool for times when you're low as you'll be setting a pattern, slowly attaching yourself to baani, and you'll see the change in how you're feeling from when you start to the middle to the bhog. The balancing act of managing career, family, friends, etc. with Sikhi is just a matter of discipline really. As long as you keep Sikhi on top of everything else, in addition to being intertwined with everything else, then you should be good to go. Basically, amritvela is a must. Without it, your whole day is already off to a bad start. If waking up at 2 - 2:30 is extremely difficult for you, even aiming for 4am is okay. Without these early morning hours being dedicated to naam and baani, you can consider your whole day a waste. This is what I've been told by Gursikhs and it rings true in my own experience as well. So once you've got amritvela going, career, family, friends...everything just falls into place itself. Having Gursikh sangat is also important as they can help keep Sikhi front and centre. Sadly, there's no "quick-fix" to getting back on track that I'm aware of, but with effort and discipline, it can be done. All of this will help create a "shield" around you and all the negative comments, self-doubt, etc. will bounce right off it without even touching you. Just try to make SOME small positive change, ONE small positive step and then all the right things will start falling into place and you'll be back on track in no time. Hope this helps!

who told you this? traditionally the Kara was the last kakkar, but nowadays cos its the easiest to wear most people think its the first. self-defence is not for the religious only, and sikhs used to wear weapons for almost 100 years before khande ki pahul was first used. everybody has the right to defend themselves but with kirpan there are some obligations that 1 should adhere to.ie be keshadhari and non-alcohol user, but as cisco singh ji has pointed out, a sikh should always learn how to use weapons and his first weapons are his body, then think about using kirpan. someone has said never use a kirpan in any circumstance, then why bother to wear it? Kirpan even brandished will make someone think again about attacking you. the rubbish about not eating meat, if you are going to wear kirpan is laughable, if you read history.

WJKK WJKF, I have dealings with Giani's and Granthi's on a daily basis due to their visa problems and have made the following observations and just want to know everybody's views on the subject: 1). I have never seen a single Giani or Granthi till date who has been issued with a single wage slip. Forget a P60....not even one wage slip...i have dealt with over 300 applications. Gurdwaras dont even pay their National Insurance contributions for their own employee. These are not just the small Gurdwara's but even the big ones. 2). The majority of them are brought over from India on visas the conditions of which state they will abide by National Minumum wage, however upon getting here the Giani's NI is not paid by the employer and no wage slip or P60 is issued to a Giani. 3). The common practice is to say that the Gurdwara provides free food and accomodation to the Giani as part of his salary package. From my knowledge langar is free to everybody (unless Giani's get special dishes which i doubt). As for accomodation the Gurdwara also benefits as it gets a full time employee guarding the premises. 4). From my personal experience many Giani's dont even get paid more than £80 per week (i have seen some on £40 per week). Out of this the Giani is expected to maintain himself and his wife and children back home. Try feeding a family of 4 on £80 per week. 5). Many people complain that Giani's who come from India work elsewhere and do other jobs. I would suggest the reason for this is the low wages given to them. If they got minimum wage they would not need to work elsewhere. 6). Unfortunately i have also seen many cases of where these Giani's have actually been charged in India by some committee members in order to get a visa. I was once sat in the British High Commission in New Delhi and personally saw 4 Jatha sitting there waiting to apply. After they all got refused they came to me for advice and it turned out none of them were Ragi's at all. In fact they had agreed to pay the Pardhaan of a Gurdwara 8 lakh rupees for each visa (roughly £10,000). One of the applicants bechara had been told for the last year to grow a beard and "learn some path" by the Pardhaan. I have a witness to this event as seated next to me was the owner of a famous UK based punjabi radio station. Even he was shocked. My points are 2 fold: Firstly we complain about the quality of Giani's and Granthi's however nobody has ever exposed the situation or fought for the rights of them (i recently did a show on Sukh Sagar Radio about this and exposed a few home truths). How are we expected to get top quality employees in any field if we are unwilling to pay them the appropriate salaries (forget expected salaries they dont even get minumum wage). What actually is happening is akin to bonded labour where a Giani is promised to be made permanent in the UK in return for ignoring his basic employee rights. Secondly we complain about many things however how come nobody complains about the immigration fraud openly carried out by the Gurdwara committees over the years? Where has all of this money charged from potential Giani's to come to the UK gone? In order to sponsor a Giani letterheads of Gurdwaras have been openly misused. The Same letterheads contain quotes from the Gurbani on them. The Gurdwara has become a source of earning money from potential immigrants. If anybody was expected to survive in the UK on £60 a week and bring up a family and work full time then surely any person would look for alternative employment. However the Giani's cant even do that because they are tied down to their Gurdwara for up to 5 years. Please note i am not saying that all Gurdwaras engage in these practices but the majority of the ones i have seen have done in the past and these include some big Gurdwara's. I may be worng in my points however i only comment on my own experiences and dealings with Giani's and Gurdwaras. I would love to hear what Gurdwara committees actually have to say on this issue.